RE: How do I stop my baby from biting?

[Guest guest]

Lots of babies bite. My friend just recently had to switch daycares

because her baby was biting another child. She always bit the same kid.

They couldn't come up with a solution, so to keep her baby from getting

" kicked out " of the daycare, she was pro-active and found a new daycare

on her own. Her baby hasn't bitten since.

A.

Special Educator

Simon Kenton High School

(859)960-0348

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From: MosaicDS [mailto:MosaicDS ] On

Behalf Of gseda217

Sent: Thursday, November 20, 2008 10:26 AM

To: MosaicDS

Subject: How do I stop my baby from biting?

Hi everyone,

If you don't already know my son, Vinny is 10 months old. He has two

very sharp bottom teeth and 1 top tooth and has discovered that he can

use them to bite. When we say " no, no " or " no bite " he laughs and just

does it a minute or two later. When I act like I'm crying he laughs

too. I believe he doesn't know or possibly feel emotions or sadness.

Well I can't say emotions because he does laugh, but he never crys,

since he was born he must have cried about 3 times and they were very

short and over food. I don't know if this is a trait of MDS or just

because he's 10 months. When our voices get really stern he scrunches

his face and lips and puts his arm over his face but then takes them

away and laughs. Does anyone have any ideas for me or is anyone child

like this?

[Guest guest]

In my experience, a child is biting as a form of communication. This

would be defensive communication. I will bet that the " other " child

that was being bit is now " antagonizing " another child and will soon

be bit by another child. I am not saying that it is right or wrong,

but I do know that bites are not friendly in nature and they are

usually provoked. (And I am sure the daycare workers swore up and

down that the other child was not provoking your child, but you can

rest assured that is a bunch of bull, as I worked in daycares years

ago and I knew the causes.) Just be glad that your child is away from

that other child and a daycare where they obviously were not so

attentive.

I am assuming that your child was too young to tell you " why " she was

biting, correct?

I would just take it as a blessing you are not there anymore. :0)

I hope that makes you view it differently for your child, as it

probably was the other kids instigations causing it. (More likely

than not.)

>

> Lots of babies bite. My friend just recently had to switch daycares

> because her baby was biting another child. She always bit the same

kid.

> They couldn't come up with a solution, so to keep her baby from

getting

> " kicked out " of the daycare, she was pro-active and found a new

daycare

> on her own. Her baby hasn't bitten since.

>

>

>

> A.

>

> Special Educator

>

> Simon Kenton High School

>

> (859)960-0348

>

> cynthia.jones@...

>

> " Deaf People Can Do Anything Except Hear! " (I. King Jordan)

>

> Confidentiality Notice - This email is intended only for the person

to

> whom it is addressed and may contain confidential information. Any

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but

> do not wish to receive communication through this medium, please

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>

> From: MosaicDS [mailto:MosaicDS ] On

> Behalf Of gseda217

> Sent: Thursday, November 20, 2008 10:26 AM

> To: MosaicDS

> Subject: How do I stop my baby from biting?

>

>

>

> Hi everyone,

> If you don't already know my son, Vinny is 10 months old. He has

two

> very sharp bottom teeth and 1 top tooth and has discovered that he

can

> use them to bite. When we say " no, no " or " no bite " he laughs and

just

> does it a minute or two later. When I act like I'm crying he laughs

> too. I believe he doesn't know or possibly feel emotions or

sadness.

> Well I can't say emotions because he does laugh, but he never crys,

> since he was born he must have cried about 3 times and they were

very

> short and over food. I don't know if this is a trait of MDS or just

> because he's 10 months. When our voices get really stern he

scrunches

> his face and lips and puts his arm over his face but then takes

them

> away and laughs. Does anyone have any ideas for me or is anyone

child

> like this?

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi

My son Hunter is 13 months old and he has probably been biting from about 10

months as well. When he bites me I say " No Biting " in a firm voice and put him

on the floor, agaist a blank wall, away from his toys for about a minute. Walk

away. For the first couple of months he obviously didn't really know that he was

in trouble and used to love hitting and playing against the wall, however I have

noticed the last 2 times I've done this he is crying before I even get him to

the wall and knows he's in trouble.

When he first starting biting he was doing it at least once a day, and now he

only does it once, maybe twice a week. And he HATES being in the naughty

corner. At the start he didn't know what he was doing, he just had these new

teeth and wanted to use them, but he understands now alot more. Sometimes now,

he might bite my jumper and he looks up straight away with a cheeky smile

because he knows he's bitten.

If we are out at someone else's place and he does it, I do the same thing,

except maybe instead of putting him against the wall, I place him on the floor

somewhere and walk away.

I would really recommend introducing something similar. Keep it simple (no

biting), don't get into long conversations with him as to why he shouldn't bite,

and remove yourself from the situation.

Let me know how you go. Good luck.

Cheers

Fiona

Mum to Hunter mds (1)

______________________________________________________________

Hi everyone,

> If you don't already know my son, Vinny is 10 months old. He has

two

> very sharp bottom teeth and 1 top tooth and has discovered that he

can

> use them to bite. When we say " no, no " or " no bite " he laughs and

just

> does it a minute or two later. When I act like I'm crying he laughs

> too. I believe he doesn't know or possibly feel emotions or

sadness.

> Well I can't say emotions because he does laugh, but he never crys,

> since he was born he must have cried about 3 times and they were

very

> short and over food. I don't know if this is a trait of MDS or just

> because he's 10 months. When our voices get really stern he

scrunches

> his face and lips and puts his arm over his face but then takes

them

> away and laughs. Does anyone have any ideas for me or is anyone

child

> like this?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Has anyone considered biting their child back? I know it sounds " old school " ,

but this is what worked for Austin the last time he bit Trey. For Austin it was

an issue of not understanding that it hurt. Once he understood that it hurt

other people (because I bit him back, not hard and left no marks), he quit doing

it.

Funnily enough, this is what my Mom had to do with me and my late brother as

well. Once we understood that it hurt, we never did it again....

JMHO,

 

Blessings Abound,

(Becky) Rowe

Mom to Trey (8 ADHD) & Austin (6 MDS)

 

________________________________

Family Assistance Coordinator

 www.imdsa.org or becky@...  

________________________________

To: MosaicDS

Sent: Monday, November 24, 2008 11:04:16 AM

Subject: Re: Re: How do I stop my baby from biting?

kristina is 7 and still has biting issues

From: Fiona & Lee Price <flpricedodo (DOT) com.au>

Subject: Re: How do I stop my baby from biting?

To: MosaicDS@yahoogroup s.com

Date: Monday, November 24, 2008, 3:32 AM

Hi

My son Hunter is 13 months old and he has probably been biting from about 10

months as well. When he bites me I say " No Biting " in a firm voice and put him

on the floor, agaist a blank wall, away from his toys for about a minute. Walk

away. For the first couple of months he obviously didn't really know that he was

in trouble and used to love hitting and playing against the wall, however I have

noticed the last 2 times I've done this he is crying before I even get him to

the wall and knows he's in trouble.

When he first starting biting he was doing it at least once a day, and now he

only does it once, maybe twice a week. And he HATES being in the naughty corner.

At the start he didn't know what he was doing, he just had these new teeth and

wanted to use them, but he understands now alot more. Sometimes now, he might

bite my jumper and he looks up straight away with a cheeky smile because he

knows he's bitten.

If we are out at someone else's place and he does it, I do the same thing,

except maybe instead of putting him against the wall, I place him on the floor

somewhere and walk away.

I would really recommend introducing something similar. Keep it simple (no

biting), don't get into long conversations with him as to why he shouldn't bite,

and remove yourself from the situation.

Let me know how you go. Good luck.

Cheers

Fiona

Mum to Hunter mds (1)

____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _

Hi everyone,

> If you don't already know my son, Vinny is 10 months old. He has

two

> very sharp bottom teeth and 1 top tooth and has discovered that he

can

> use them to bite. When we say " no, no " or " no bite " he laughs and

just

> does it a minute or two later. When I act like I'm crying he laughs

> too. I believe he doesn't know or possibly feel emotions or

sadness.

> Well I can't say emotions because he does laugh, but he never crys,

> since he was born he must have cried about 3 times and they were

very

> short and over food. I don't know if this is a trait of MDS or just

> because he's 10 months. When our voices get really stern he

scrunches

> his face and lips and puts his arm over his face but then takes

them

> away and laughs. Does anyone have any ideas for me or is anyone

child

> like this?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

As a health care professional, " I " really do NOT recommend biting the

child back. That actually happened to my eldest daughter over 20

years ago by a daycare worker (one reason I do not like daycares).

Two Reasons NOT to bite a child back:

1. It reinforces the negative behavior (If it isn't ok for the child

to bite, then it should not be ok for you to bite either.

Additionally, the child will repeat the behavior to see if your

response is consistent; if you do bite the child again, then the

child will keep doing it and if you don't, the child learns that he

does not get the same response when he does an action. Cause and

Effect are a developmental milestone that must be learned and you do

not want your child to learn a negative behavior or an incorrect way

of thinking about something.)

2. If you accept this as a form of correction, and you also allow

others to do it,then you are actually allowing abuse to your child. I

am not going to get onto that subject too much, but it is abusive and

at the same time, you do not know what germs, viruses or DISEASES

that someone may transmit to your child by doing this. If someone

with AIDS or herpes bites your child, your child can get the disease.

Even a cold sore in or on the mouth is the herpes virus and can be

easily transmitted through a bite. (especially if the skin gets

broken)

The best scenario is to consistently remove the child from the

situation and reinforce that teeth are for biting food only and we

use them to eat food. Reinforcing the proper use for something,

whether it be teeth or a hairbrush or whatever, is the apropriate

thing to do.

Please do not bite your child or allow others to do so.

>

> From: Fiona & Lee Price <flpricedodo (DOT) com.au>

> Subject: Re: How do I stop my baby from biting?

> To: MosaicDS@yahoogroup s.com

> Date: Monday, November 24, 2008, 3:32 AM

>

> Hi

>

> My son Hunter is 13 months old and he has probably been biting from

about 10 months as well. When he bites me I say " No Biting " in a firm

voice and put him on the floor, agaist a blank wall, away from his

toys for about a minute. Walk away. For the first couple of months he

obviously didn't really know that he was in trouble and used to love

hitting and playing against the wall, however I have noticed the last

2 times I've done this he is crying before I even get him to the wall

and knows he's in trouble.

>

> When he first starting biting he was doing it at least once a day,

and now he only does it once, maybe twice a week. And he HATES being

in the naughty corner. At the start he didn't know what he was doing,

he just had these new teeth and wanted to use them, but he

understands now alot more. Sometimes now, he might bite my jumper and

he looks up straight away with a cheeky smile because he knows he's

bitten.

>

> If we are out at someone else's place and he does it, I do the same

thing, except maybe instead of putting him against the wall, I place

him on the floor somewhere and walk away.

>

> I would really recommend introducing something similar. Keep it

simple (no biting), don't get into long conversations with him as to

why he shouldn't bite, and remove yourself from the situation.

>

> Let me know how you go. Good luck.

>

> Cheers

> Fiona

> Mum to Hunter mds (1)

>

> ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _

>

> Hi everyone,

> > If you don't already know my son, Vinny is 10 months old. He has

> two

> > very sharp bottom teeth and 1 top tooth and has discovered that

he

> can

> > use them to bite. When we say " no, no " or " no bite " he laughs and

> just

> > does it a minute or two later. When I act like I'm crying he

laughs

> > too. I believe he doesn't know or possibly feel emotions or

> sadness.

> > Well I can't say emotions because he does laugh, but he never

crys,

> > since he was born he must have cried about 3 times and they were

> very

> > short and over food. I don't know if this is a trait of MDS or

just

> > because he's 10 months. When our voices get really stern he

> scrunches

> > his face and lips and puts his arm over his face but then takes

> them

> > away and laughs. Does anyone have any ideas for me or is anyone

> child

> > like this?

> >

> >

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

All I am going to say on this subject is this: We agree to disagree....AND I DO

NOT ABUSE MY CHILDREN!

 

Blessings Abound,

(Becky) Rowe

Mom to Trey (8 ADHD) & Austin (6 MDS)

 

________________________________

Family Assistance Coordinator

 www.imdsa.org or becky@...  

________________________________

To: MosaicDS

Sent: Friday, November 28, 2008 1:13:34 PM

Subject: Re: How do I stop my baby from biting?

As a health care professional, " I " really do NOT recommend biting the

child back. That actually happened to my eldest daughter over 20

years ago by a daycare worker (one reason I do not like daycares).

Two Reasons NOT to bite a child back:

1. It reinforces the negative behavior (If it isn't ok for the child

to bite, then it should not be ok for you to bite either.

Additionally, the child will repeat the behavior to see if your

response is consistent; if you do bite the child again, then the

child will keep doing it and if you don't, the child learns that he

does not get the same response when he does an action. Cause and

Effect are a developmental milestone that must be learned and you do

not want your child to learn a negative behavior or an incorrect way

of thinking about something.)

2. If you accept this as a form of correction, and you also allow

others to do it,then you are actually allowing abuse to your child. I

am not going to get onto that subject too much, but it is abusive and

at the same time, you do not know what germs, viruses or DISEASES

that someone may transmit to your child by doing this. If someone

with AIDS or herpes bites your child, your child can get the disease.

Even a cold sore in or on the mouth is the herpes virus and can be

easily transmitted through a bite. (especially if the skin gets

broken)

The best scenario is to consistently remove the child from the

situation and reinforce that teeth are for biting food only and we

use them to eat food. Reinforcing the proper use for something,

whether it be teeth or a hairbrush or whatever, is the apropriate

thing to do.

Please do not bite your child or allow others to do so.

>

> From: Fiona & Lee Price <flpricedodo (DOT) com.au>

> Subject: Re: How do I stop my baby from biting?

> To: MosaicDS@yahoogroup s.com

> Date: Monday, November 24, 2008, 3:32 AM

>

> Hi

>

> My son Hunter is 13 months old and he has probably been biting from

about 10 months as well. When he bites me I say " No Biting " in a firm

voice and put him on the floor, agaist a blank wall, away from his

toys for about a minute. Walk away. For the first couple of months he

obviously didn't really know that he was in trouble and used to love

hitting and playing against the wall, however I have noticed the last

2 times I've done this he is crying before I even get him to the wall

and knows he's in trouble.

>

> When he first starting biting he was doing it at least once a day,

and now he only does it once, maybe twice a week. And he HATES being

in the naughty corner. At the start he didn't know what he was doing,

he just had these new teeth and wanted to use them, but he

understands now alot more. Sometimes now, he might bite my jumper and

he looks up straight away with a cheeky smile because he knows he's

bitten.

>

> If we are out at someone else's place and he does it, I do the same

thing, except maybe instead of putting him against the wall, I place

him on the floor somewhere and walk away.

>

> I would really recommend introducing something similar. Keep it

simple (no biting), don't get into long conversations with him as to

why he shouldn't bite, and remove yourself from the situation.

>

> Let me know how you go. Good luck.

>

> Cheers

> Fiona

> Mum to Hunter mds (1)

>

> ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _

>

> Hi everyone,

> > If you don't already know my son, Vinny is 10 months old. He has

> two

> > very sharp bottom teeth and 1 top tooth and has discovered that

he

> can

> > use them to bite. When we say " no, no " or " no bite " he laughs and

> just

> > does it a minute or two later. When I act like I'm crying he

laughs

> > too. I believe he doesn't know or possibly feel emotions or

> sadness.

> > Well I can't say emotions because he does laugh, but he never

crys,

> > since he was born he must have cried about 3 times and they were

> very

> > short and over food. I don't know if this is a trait of MDS or

just

> > because he's 10 months. When our voices get really stern he

> scrunches

> > his face and lips and puts his arm over his face but then takes

> them

> > away and laughs. Does anyone have any ideas for me or is anyone

> child

> > like this?

> >

> >

> >

>

>