Re: Re: Gladys - Update on Mom

[Guest guest]

Oh, Joan, I'm reaching through this computer and across the Country to hug

you.

Yesterday, I sat in Panera Bread having lunch. An older woman with a walker

and a glazed look on her face was at the next table. A younger woman

brought back their food and said " Mom, here's your soup. " That was all it

took. I totally lost it. Sat there sobbing right in the middle of Panera

Bread. It was my birthday and I had no one to call " Mom " . ( I miss her

so very very very much.

Gladys

-- Re: Gladys - Update on Mom

Hi Gladys,

I am brought to tears just reading your message, Gladys. I just

started reading the posts again and am so sorry that you lost your

mom. Your mom is no longer confused and ill, but very happy

and 'whole' again. The tears won't stop for a long time. It has been

almost 7 months since Mom passed and I can still cry at the tip of a

hat. Your message brought me to tears. This last weekend I went to

Escondido (where Mom and I lived) and attended a service with candles

for each parishioner who passed in the last year. The service was in

the evening, but in the morning, I went to the church for Mass and

almost immediately after I sat down I was thinking of Mom's funeral

that was in that church. I started to cry and cried all through the

Mass. Then I went to the cemetary to place flowers and cried and

cried there. I cried halfway back to North Las Vegas on Monday and

am crying intermittently since then. I thank God that I had Mom for

almost 50 years and I wouldn't trade one nanosecond of the time that

I spent with her even while she was ill. I do feel her spirit in my

home, and while in Escondido, I stopped at 'our house' which escrow

closed at the end of September. The gentleman who puchased the house

was very nice and his furniture in the living room was all arranged

differently than we had ours, but I felt a peace. He went into

another room to get something for me, and I noticed some dream-

catchers on the wall. I asked if he was Indian, he said that he has

several friends that are and have told him that they feel a spiritual

presence in the house. I guess Mom wants to make sure that her house

is taken care of also. Maybe that's why I felt peace there!

Sometimes I see people, or go places that remind me of Mom, and yes,

the tears still come. My tears are not for my Mom because I know

that she is so happy right now, but for me and my sadness of not

having her physical presence around me. My puppy is beginning to sit

and stare out at nothing and growl. She was doing it facing Mom's

organ the other night and I think she was sensing Mom's spirit here.

Yesterday, I went over by the organ and just imagined her over there

and did a big 'air hug' hoping that her spirit was there. I do very

well for long periods of time, and then I just lose it. Perhaps I

need to get some bereavement counseling.

I will pray for you and healing from your tremendous loss. Don't

ever lose the good memories, though. If you ever want to email me

direct, please do. Perhaps I may be able to help you through some of

this, and maybe you can help me, too!

Love and Blessings,

Joan

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Welcome to LBDcaregivers.

[Guest guest]

Happy Birthday, Gladys. And have many more.!!!!

Hugs,

Donna R

Caregave for Mom (after I brought her from WI to MI) for 3 years and 4th year in

a nh.

She was almost 89 when she died in '02. No dx other than mine.

Re: Gladys - Update on Mom

Hi Gladys,

I am brought to tears just reading your message, Gladys. I just

started reading the posts again and am so sorry that you lost your

mom. Your mom is no longer confused and ill, but very happy

and 'whole' again. The tears won't stop for a long time. It has been

almost 7 months since Mom passed and I can still cry at the tip of a

hat. Your message brought me to tears. This last weekend I went to

Escondido (where Mom and I lived) and attended a service with candles

for each parishioner who passed in the last year. The service was in

the evening, but in the morning, I went to the church for Mass and

almost immediately after I sat down I was thinking of Mom's funeral

that was in that church. I started to cry and cried all through the

Mass. Then I went to the cemetary to place flowers and cried and

cried there. I cried halfway back to North Las Vegas on Monday and

am crying intermittently since then. I thank God that I had Mom for

almost 50 years and I wouldn't trade one nanosecond of the time that

I spent with her even while she was ill. I do feel her spirit in my

home, and while in Escondido, I stopped at 'our house' which escrow

closed at the end of September. The gentleman who puchased the house

was very nice and his furniture in the living room was all arranged

differently than we had ours, but I felt a peace. He went into

another room to get something for me, and I noticed some dream-

catchers on the wall. I asked if he was Indian, he said that he has

several friends that are and have told him that they feel a spiritual

presence in the house. I guess Mom wants to make sure that her house

is taken care of also. Maybe that's why I felt peace there!

Sometimes I see people, or go places that remind me of Mom, and yes,

the tears still come. My tears are not for my Mom because I know

that she is so happy right now, but for me and my sadness of not

having her physical presence around me. My puppy is beginning to sit

and stare out at nothing and growl. She was doing it facing Mom's

organ the other night and I think she was sensing Mom's spirit here.

Yesterday, I went over by the organ and just imagined her over there

and did a big 'air hug' hoping that her spirit was there. I do very

well for long periods of time, and then I just lose it. Perhaps I

need to get some bereavement counseling.

I will pray for you and healing from your tremendous loss. Don't

ever lose the good memories, though. If you ever want to email me

direct, please do. Perhaps I may be able to help you through some of

this, and maybe you can help me, too!

Love and Blessings,

Joan

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[Guest guest]

Dear GLadys,

I totally missed in your post that it was your bday.  I hope you had a good

birthday, with good memories (even if it brought tears), and that you will have

many many more wonderful ones to look forward to.

Much love,

Helene

Subject: Re: Re: Gladys - Update on Mom

To: LBDcaregivers

Date: Thursday, November 6, 2008, 12:45 AM

Happy Birthday, Gladys. And have many more.!!!!

Hugs,

Donna R

Caregave for Mom (after I brought her from WI to MI) for 3 years and 4th year in

a nh.

She was almost 89 when she died in '02. No dx other than mine.

Re: Gladys - Update on Mom

Hi Gladys,

I am brought to tears just reading your message, Gladys. I just

started reading the posts again and am so sorry that you lost your

mom. Your mom is no longer confused and ill, but very happy

and 'whole' again. The tears won't stop for a long time. It has been

almost 7 months since Mom passed and I can still cry at the tip of a

hat. Your message brought me to tears. This last weekend I went to

Escondido (where Mom and I lived) and attended a service with candles

for each parishioner who passed in the last year. The service was in

the evening, but in the morning, I went to the church for Mass and

almost immediately after I sat down I was thinking of Mom's funeral

that was in that church. I started to cry and cried all through the

Mass. Then I went to the cemetary to place flowers and cried and

cried there. I cried halfway back to North Las Vegas on Monday and

am crying intermittently since then. I thank God that I had Mom for

almost 50 years and I wouldn't trade one nanosecond of the time that

I spent with her even while she was ill. I do feel her spirit in my

home, and while in Escondido, I stopped at 'our house' which escrow

closed at the end of September. The gentleman who puchased the house

was very nice and his furniture in the living room was all arranged

differently than we had ours, but I felt a peace. He went into

another room to get something for me, and I noticed some dream-

catchers on the wall. I asked if he was Indian, he said that he has

several friends that are and have told him that they feel a spiritual

presence in the house. I guess Mom wants to make sure that her house

is taken care of also. Maybe that's why I felt peace there!

Sometimes I see people, or go places that remind me of Mom, and yes,

the tears still come. My tears are not for my Mom because I know

that she is so happy right now, but for me and my sadness of not

having her physical presence around me. My puppy is beginning to sit

and stare out at nothing and growl. She was doing it facing Mom's

organ the other night and I think she was sensing Mom's spirit here.

Yesterday, I went over by the organ and just imagined her over there

and did a big 'air hug' hoping that her spirit was there. I do very

well for long periods of time, and then I just lose it. Perhaps I

need to get some bereavement counseling.

I will pray for you and healing from your tremendous loss. Don't

ever lose the good memories, though. If you ever want to email me

direct, please do. Perhaps I may be able to help you through some of

this, and maybe you can help me, too!

Love and Blessings,

Joan

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