Re: Making the Best of Internet Help

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I have a terrible time swallowing pills.

There's a liquid Centrum vitamin in the pharmacy for those of us who cant swallow pills. Yes, it tastes like vitamins <yuck> but it helps..

Also..there's a liquid vitamin C drink with other nutrients..called Emergen-C..I dont know if it's available anywhere other than the states..but you could google and find out. It's easy to take..cause you drink it..and isnt so bad tasting..not sweet, not much sugar.

Sandie

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Sandie,

Again, how can such a positive person like yourself have people around you who don't get it. Or their maturity level is so low they are unable to be supportive. I share a home with my daughter (divorced) and her three children, 11, 8 and 5. I feel badly that I can't "babysit" for her so she can get out more, but I just can't. I have to be in bed by 7 p.m. most nights. She does realize I am not trying to avoid it and said I am not the babysitter, but her mom.

Marilyn

Marilyn, you sound just like me. I'm normally asleep by 7..lately with all the bad weather and just being bored I find myself falling asleep sooner sometimes. Hence the reason I'm up at 1 am doing mail ! lol

I think the reason the people in my life ' dont get it ' is cause they dont live with me. They dont see me struggle or at my worst..they usually see me on a good day..I look normal to them..yes I can't walk far..I cant do stairs etc..I look ' normal ' sitting there..I'm not on 02..so to them it's easy to see what they want to see and not what really is.

As far as my soon to be estranged boyfriend..I guess he's just desensitized himself to how I really am..he's seen me at my very bottom of the barrel worst..and on my good days..sometimes we can resent those in our lives who are ill cause we feel helpless..and dont know how to help them..or maybe just don't want to..and that wells up the guilt which then leads to resentment..that's what I live with, for now.

Sandie

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Sandie,

I think you are right. Unless someone sees you at your worst they don't get it. Or are in denial that mom could be that sick. I used to feel badly if I had to tell my daughter I couldn't care for the girls or take them somewherel, but now she has no problem with it. Now, I am dealing with a bad flare up of diagnosed degenerative arthritis which makes moving around very difficult. But I will keep going as long as I can.

Hope it is a good day for you.

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..thanks for your kind words of empathy. At 57 and being as chronically ill as I am there won't be another man. I'm done with the baggage and conditions. I need to focus on me and my kids..that's all that's important.

He tells me he loves me, he just can't live this way any longer. I love him, yes..it's going to be hard to let him go, yes..I've grown accustomed to him being here. Then I tell myself ' you're nutso wacko, lady " ..why would anyone become accustomed to such verbal abuse .. yea yea yea..how we condition ourselves in our desperation to not be alone. I'll do ok..

Sandie

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Sandie,

I have been divorced happily from my childrens father for 20 years. He remarried and we get along fine, do holidays together, etc. I was in a relationship for about five years until 1999 that ended because it was all about him, him, him. I went to a therapist who helped me set boundaries and to love and respect myself. When people suggest I could still meet a nice man I say "there aren't many men out there my age , 71, who would be willing to undergo the extensive psychiatric evaluation I would require." Sure there are times I wish I had a partner, but generally, NO. I have my life and love it.

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Sandie

Really sorry to hear about all your personal relationships not being up to par right now! The real and best relationship you can have is the one with yourself, and it sounds like that relationship for you is working great. People are people with their own agenda's in life, and yours is to get as well as you can and continue to. You many find sweety, that once the boyfriend has left your health picks up in a positive way....STRESS...is the biggest killer...so look at him as a blessing as he walks out the door.....if you want, there will be another man who walks in your door with shoes that fit and a heart of gold....so don't close the door for good...Keep yourself as well as posssible and chat to your friends on here who totally understand the roller coaster your health is on......It does sound like you do take as best of care of yourself as possible but watch the stress.

Hope things don't get messy.....take care....and we are all thinking of you in a very loving and positive way.....You're not alone....ever!!!

Re: Re: Making the Best of Internet Help

Sandie,

Again, how can such a positive person like yourself have people around you who don't get it. Or their maturity level is so low they are unable to be supportive. I share a home with my daughter (divorced) and her three children, 11, 8 and 5. I feel badly that I can't "babysit" for her so she can get out more, but I just can't. I have to be in bed by 7 p.m. most nights. She does realize I am not trying to avoid it and said I am not the babysitter, but her mom.

Marilyn

Marilyn, you sound just like me. I'm normally asleep by 7..lately with all the bad weather and just being bored I find myself falling asleep sooner sometimes. Hence the reason I'm up at 1 am doing mail ! lol

I think the reason the people in my life ' dont get it ' is cause they dont live with me. They dont see me struggle or at my worst..they usually see me on a good day..I look normal to them..yes I can't walk far..I cant do stairs etc..I look ' normal ' sitting there..I'm not on 02..so to them it's easy to see what they want to see and not what really is.

As far as my soon to be estranged boyfriend..I guess he's just desensitized himself to how I really am..he's seen me at my very bottom of the barrel worst..and on my good days..sometimes we can resent those in our lives who are ill cause we feel helpless..and dont know how to help them..or maybe just don't want to..and that wells up the guilt which then leads to resentment..that's what I live with, for now.

Sandie

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