Guest guest Posted January 15, 2002 Report Share Posted January 15, 2002 Hey, I'm a newbie, too, and I say, go with whatever gives you the lowest points! I don't know about the headaches. I usually get them from allergies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2002 Report Share Posted January 15, 2002 Hey, I'm a newbie, too, and I say, go with whatever gives you the lowest points! I don't know about the headaches. I usually get them from allergies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2002 Report Share Posted January 15, 2002 Hey, I'm a newbie, too, and I say, go with whatever gives you the lowest points! I don't know about the headaches. I usually get them from allergies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2002 Report Share Posted January 15, 2002 I always go with whatever is the higher points...Don't want to add any extra pounds. Patti --- Diane Loupe wrote: > Hey, I'm a newbie, too, and I say, go with whatever > gives you the lowest > points! > > I don't know about the headaches. I usually get them > from allergies. > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2002 Report Share Posted January 15, 2002 I always go with whatever is the higher points...Don't want to add any extra pounds. Patti --- Diane Loupe wrote: > Hey, I'm a newbie, too, and I say, go with whatever > gives you the lowest > points! > > I don't know about the headaches. I usually get them > from allergies. > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2002 Report Share Posted January 15, 2002 I always go with whatever is the higher points...Don't want to add any extra pounds. Patti --- Diane Loupe wrote: > Hey, I'm a newbie, too, and I say, go with whatever > gives you the lowest > points! > > I don't know about the headaches. I usually get them > from allergies. > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2002 Report Share Posted January 17, 2002 Chrissy, Everytime I email Dr. Levin he emails me straight back soon after. He even tried calling one night but couldnt get through. I have never seen this man. nor talked to him on the phone and he is so helpful. Your Dr. is the first bad thing I have heard on Dr. Levin. Evrything else is GREAT news. I've done my research and Dr. Levin seems the best for the surgery to me. He knows what hes doing. He seems to care also. I've heard from some of the women that has had the surgery say that hes called from his cell phone just to check on them. Sounds like to me your DR. may not want you to go through with this TR. Tubal PG can happen to anyone. Its not dr. levins fought the lady had a tubal pg. Just do some research and you'll find out that dr. levin is really good, you can even email him yourself and ask him anything and he'll email you back and answer anything you wanna know. well I hoped I helped. hugs and baby wishes, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2002 Report Share Posted March 1, 2002 OK i am at the end of my rope and it has only been 9 days and I am starting to have regrets. I have never threw up but I seem to always have a yucky taste in my mouth and I just don't feel good. I did this to be healthy and right now I feel like S**t. I am losing weight but I know I am losing muscle too. I did get my protein today (thanks ) and that seemed to stay down but it seems like it will come up any min is there anything I can eat that doesn't have sugar substitute in it? that seems to make me feel worse. I have tried Jell-O, frozen pops but after I eat them I feel sick. I also tried those s/f drinks you ladies were talking about Helena Beasley post-Op Open RNY 5'2 " 247 lb. BMI 46 Surgery February 20, 2002 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2002 Report Share Posted March 1, 2002 Helena...I know what you are going through...I said to myself the EXACT same thing! I think it is a normal feeling because your body and mind are trying to adjust. Trust me...once the 'pain' is gone then it will get better. It seems that I find peace in walking...I get out everyday to somewhere different and just go at it. Today before they discharged me from the hospital I made 10 laps around the hospital wing that I was in. The nurses all said " your making me tired, go take a nap " ! I had to chuckel to my self. The thing I do is take my sip bottle of water with me and walk and sip. For some reason it seems it helped me to relearn my 'intake' of things. Maybe you are drinking to fast , that can cause a yukky feeling. But I have never thrown up until the other night in the hospital and that was because of my migraine. I had had nothing to eat or drink for days. But trust in your body and allow it the time to heal that it needs. It will get better...I am wishing on the same star....annee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2002 Report Share Posted March 1, 2002 HELENA--Of course you feel lousy, hon; you've just had major surgery and you're completely changing around your entire eating system! Your body's telling you that that makes it cranky! Try drinking--sipping--water; I think you're drinking the flavored drinks a little too fast because they taste good. Try upping your protein too, if you can in case your body is hungry for more. Right now, with no/few carbs, you'll be going into ketosis, I think, as your body burns up all that fat. Ketosis DOES put a bad taste in our mouths, so brush and floss more frequently. Drinking lots of water helps; artificial sweetener always put a bad taste in my mouth too! Yes, now is the time we most frequently regret our decision. We remember how it felt pre op and now, post op, we don't think we'll ever feel normal again like that. Not true, sweetheart! You'll be healing for about 4-6 weeks; you'll be trying out different foods and our new way of eating for maybe another month or so. After that, you'll feel more and more normal. One day--maybe 3 mo./6 mo./surely after that, you'll realize that you feel just like you did before your operation. Honest, things will get better! I am sending you my info sheet on the Hibernation Syndrome in case you don't have it. If you do have it, read it again1 Write in often, hon, we're concerned about ya! Love, Ava Lee In GastricBypass-InfoCentral@y..., hell606@a... wrote: > OK i am at the end of my rope and it has only been 9 days and I am starting > to have regrets. I have never threw up but I seem to always have a yucky > taste in my mouth and I just don't feel good. I did this to be healthy and > right now I feel like S**t. I am losing weight but I know I am losing muscle > too. I did get my protein today (thanks ) and that seemed to stay > down but it seems like it will come up any min > is there anything I can eat that doesn't have sugar substitute in it? that > seems to make me feel worse. I have tried Jell-O, frozen pops but after I eat > them I feel sick. I also tried those s/f drinks you ladies were talking about > > Helena Beasley > post-Op Open RNY > 5'2 " 247 lb. BMI 46 > Surgery February 20, 2002 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2002 Report Share Posted March 1, 2002 I knew but I thought I was ready to stop my nasty habits but it was very hard and doing your protein shakes stops a lot of that nonsense cravings Re: Re: Help Thanks so much for you kind words. I wish I had known about this before the surgery. seems no one tells you how hard the first few weeks are. well at least I know I am not alone and I am not crazy Helena Beasley post-Op Open RNY 5'2 " 247 lb. BMI 46 Surgery February 20, 2002 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2002 Report Share Posted March 1, 2002 The first week was thew absolute worst for me!! It does get better!! Surgery November 20, 2001 then- 293 lbs. Current 237 1/2 Hang in there!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2002 Report Share Posted March 1, 2002 So, did you call the doc today? If not, call Monday and I think really insist on being seen. A marginal ulcer is not a big deal if treated promptly. It is a VERY big deal if just ignored. Ask . Thanks, http://www.vitalady.com For info on PayPal, click this link: https://secure.paypal.com/affil/pal=vitalady%40bigfoot.com Help OK i am at the end of my rope and it has only been 9 days and I am starting to have regrets. I have never threw up but I seem to always have a yucky taste in my mouth and I just don't feel good. I did this to be healthy and right now I feel like S**t. I am losing weight but I know I am losing muscle too. I did get my protein today (thanks ) and that seemed to stay down but it seems like it will come up any min is there anything I can eat that doesn't have sugar substitute in it? that seems to make me feel worse. I have tried Jell-O, frozen pops but after I eat them I feel sick. I also tried those s/f drinks you ladies were talking about Helena Beasley post-Op Open RNY 5'2 " 247 lb. BMI 46 Surgery February 20, 2002 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2002 Report Share Posted March 2, 2002 Dear Helena, I am glad to hear that you are calling the doc and getting seen on Monday.. Be persistent.. learn from my mistakes.. Hugs, open RNY 12/12/00 revision 04/18/01 revision 02/07/02 sw392 cw 218 -174 5'6 l Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2002 Report Share Posted March 2, 2002 Dear Annee Helena is having different symptoms than you.. water and ice hurts when it goes down.. She needs to see the doc and get checked for marginal ulcer.. I did have what you had and was ballooned in Oct ... my blockage was 6 in below my stoma.. Hugs, open RNY 12/12/00 revision 04/18/01 revision 02/07/02 sw392 cw 218 -174 5'6 l Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 Lou: You've been through so much. I'll be praying that everything goes well and you can have your surgery on the 14th. Amy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2002 Report Share Posted March 7, 2002 Hey Lou I wanted to welcome you out of lurkdome and I will keep you in my prayers and you just post often and know you are loved here .Oh and you will lose weight no worry there just learn to work your program early dear and you will lose all you want . Help I've been reading the posts for a long time. Thank you all for sharing your stories and questions. Now , I need to ask for help and prayers. My surgery is scheduled for Thursday,March 14. It's been a long road. Over a year and a half of doctors, tests, medifast and etc. My problem is my blood pressure is high and if it doesn't get under control by next week they may cancel on me. I'm taking my medicine and finally my doctor here is calling in something new today and I'm praying it does the trick. This time before surgery I have so many things to do and visits to hospitals and doctor and wonderful enemas to take. I'm asking that on my surgery day, would you please pray for God to bless the doctors and me with a safe surgery . I keep wondering about the pain and what if I fail. What if I don't lose a lot of weight? What if I can never eat normal food again? I'm praying that this surgery will help me to get off of a lot of the medicines I take and that I can become healthier and more active. But yes, I'm also hoping that down the road I can eat normal food in small portions. I'll never be thin or probably not normal weight but just to be in the hundreds would be wonderful. I'm short 5'1 " and at my highest was 365. I have lost hundreds of pounds only to put them back on and more. I'm hoping this time , the weight won't come back on. I was dieting again before and while I was on this wait list. Our doctor puts you on medifast for a month before surgery. So as of now I'm 300 pounds. Sorry, I'm rambling nervous and want support. Thank you. Lou To Subscribe to 's weekly FREE Newsletter send an email to GBCookbook-subscribe@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Thank you for your advice. It all does make sense and I have managed to get his father to read the responses. His mother is not mistreating him in any way, just not engaging with him at all and giving direction,teaching. She just leaves him to isolate and doesn't challenge any behaviours as she has no time for the fight!!! His father struggles to challenge her and is in no position to take on his son, due to his own AS. I am doing what I can however I am finding it is hard enough communicating with my partner let alone trying to suggest things we should be doing for his son. It is becoming a bit of a drama triangle with me becoming the victim and being blamed for everything. Anyway, thanks again for the advice. Alison > > > Anyone give me a clue or some inspiration? > > Its a long story but just for now, I have a step son who is diagnosed with AS. His father, my partner is self diagnosed, Stepson is 14 and only diagnosed 6 months ago. His mother refuses to acknowledge anything about him or his behaviour, has made little effort in his parenting from and early age, just left him to it. Little discipline, no rules. easier for her to let him rant and rave.She does little if nothing to accomodate for his AS. Anyways. In His home environment he is shouted at alot of the time,no one can say anything to him at all without him taking it as criticism. He has a meltdown like a three year old, if he feels criticised. Am I and his father expecting to much of him to want him to catch these meltdowns before they occur? sHOULD WE BE ABLE TO EXPECT HIM TO MANAGE THIS?as I say he is 14 but very immature.I would put him at a 10 year old. I fear he will get himself into lots more trouble if he can't control this stuff.He is already getting into trouble at school. He does not show a high HQ in relation to his academic ability, but has all the other AS traits. He repeats himself alot, has special subjects that he bores people with,Logical responses, no idea of personal space for others. Every time he comes to us, bi-weekly it is constant tension, my own partner becomes overwhelmed. Any suggestions? > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Thank you for your advice. It all does make sense and I have managed to get his father to read the responses. His mother is not mistreating him in any way, just not engaging with him at all and giving direction,teaching. She just leaves him to isolate and doesn't challenge any behaviours as she has no time for the fight!!! His father struggles to challenge her and is in no position to take on his son, due to his own AS. I am doing what I can however I am finding it is hard enough communicating with my partner let alone trying to suggest things we should be doing for his son. It is becoming a bit of a drama triangle with me becoming the victim and being blamed for everything. Anyway, thanks again for the advice. Alison > > > Anyone give me a clue or some inspiration? > > Its a long story but just for now, I have a step son who is diagnosed with AS. His father, my partner is self diagnosed, Stepson is 14 and only diagnosed 6 months ago. His mother refuses to acknowledge anything about him or his behaviour, has made little effort in his parenting from and early age, just left him to it. Little discipline, no rules. easier for her to let him rant and rave.She does little if nothing to accomodate for his AS. Anyways. In His home environment he is shouted at alot of the time,no one can say anything to him at all without him taking it as criticism. He has a meltdown like a three year old, if he feels criticised. Am I and his father expecting to much of him to want him to catch these meltdowns before they occur? sHOULD WE BE ABLE TO EXPECT HIM TO MANAGE THIS?as I say he is 14 but very immature.I would put him at a 10 year old. I fear he will get himself into lots more trouble if he can't control this stuff.He is already getting into trouble at school. He does not show a high HQ in relation to his academic ability, but has all the other AS traits. He repeats himself alot, has special subjects that he bores people with,Logical responses, no idea of personal space for others. Every time he comes to us, bi-weekly it is constant tension, my own partner becomes overwhelmed. Any suggestions? > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Alison, I'm sorry we didn't have more helpful information and advice for you. You can only do your best, and evaluate whether this situation works for you. If your stepson's parents won't step up and deal with his behavior, there isn't much you can do in two weekends a month as a step-parent. Since this is a list for people with Asperger's and their partners, you might get more responses with advice about how to handle the relationship with your partner. I think your post may have gotten confused with the previous one titled "help me understand." Perhaps you would get more responses with a more descriptive title? Just a thought, if you would like to hear from more people.Again, I hope you find the resources that help you get to a good place for yourself.BeccaTo: aspires-relationships Sent: Tue, May 10, 2011 2:30:08 PMSubject: Re: Help Thank you for your advice. It all does make sense and I have managed to get his father to read the responses. His mother is not mistreating him in any way, just not engaging with him at all and giving direction,teaching. She just leaves him to isolate and doesn't challenge any behaviours as she has no time for the fight!!! His father struggles to challenge her and is in no position to take on his son, due to his own AS. I am doing what I can however I am finding it is hard enough communicating with my partner let alone trying to suggest things we should be doing for his son. It is becoming a bit of a drama triangle with me becoming the victim and being blamed for everything. Anyway, thanks again for the advice. Alison > > > Anyone give me a clue or some inspiration? > > Its a long story but just for now, I have a step son who is diagnosed with AS. His father, my partner is self diagnosed, Stepson is 14 and only diagnosed 6 months ago. His mother refuses to acknowledge anything about him or his behaviour, has made little effort in his parenting from and early age, just left him to it. Little discipline, no rules. easier for her to let him rant and rave.She does little if nothing to accomodate for his AS. Anyways. In His home environment he is shouted at alot of the time,no one can say anything to him at all without him taking it as criticism. He has a meltdown like a three year old, if he feels criticised. Am I and his father expecting to much of him to want him to catch these meltdowns before they occur? sHOULD WE BE ABLE TO EXPECT HIM TO MANAGE THIS?as I say he is 14 but very immature.I would put him at a 10 year old. I fear he will get himself into lots more trouble if he can't control this stuff.He is already getting into trouble at school. He does not show a high HQ in relation to his academic ability, but has all the other AS traits. He repeats himself alot, has special subjects that he bores people with,Logical responses, no idea of personal space for others. Every time he comes to us, bi-weekly it is constant tension, my own partner becomes overwhelmed. Any suggestions? > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Alison, I'm sorry we didn't have more helpful information and advice for you. You can only do your best, and evaluate whether this situation works for you. If your stepson's parents won't step up and deal with his behavior, there isn't much you can do in two weekends a month as a step-parent. Since this is a list for people with Asperger's and their partners, you might get more responses with advice about how to handle the relationship with your partner. I think your post may have gotten confused with the previous one titled "help me understand." Perhaps you would get more responses with a more descriptive title? Just a thought, if you would like to hear from more people.Again, I hope you find the resources that help you get to a good place for yourself.BeccaTo: aspires-relationships Sent: Tue, May 10, 2011 2:30:08 PMSubject: Re: Help Thank you for your advice. It all does make sense and I have managed to get his father to read the responses. His mother is not mistreating him in any way, just not engaging with him at all and giving direction,teaching. She just leaves him to isolate and doesn't challenge any behaviours as she has no time for the fight!!! His father struggles to challenge her and is in no position to take on his son, due to his own AS. I am doing what I can however I am finding it is hard enough communicating with my partner let alone trying to suggest things we should be doing for his son. It is becoming a bit of a drama triangle with me becoming the victim and being blamed for everything. Anyway, thanks again for the advice. Alison > > > Anyone give me a clue or some inspiration? > > Its a long story but just for now, I have a step son who is diagnosed with AS. His father, my partner is self diagnosed, Stepson is 14 and only diagnosed 6 months ago. His mother refuses to acknowledge anything about him or his behaviour, has made little effort in his parenting from and early age, just left him to it. Little discipline, no rules. easier for her to let him rant and rave.She does little if nothing to accomodate for his AS. Anyways. In His home environment he is shouted at alot of the time,no one can say anything to him at all without him taking it as criticism. He has a meltdown like a three year old, if he feels criticised. Am I and his father expecting to much of him to want him to catch these meltdowns before they occur? sHOULD WE BE ABLE TO EXPECT HIM TO MANAGE THIS?as I say he is 14 but very immature.I would put him at a 10 year old. I fear he will get himself into lots more trouble if he can't control this stuff.He is already getting into trouble at school. He does not show a high HQ in relation to his academic ability, but has all the other AS traits. He repeats himself alot, has special subjects that he bores people with,Logical responses, no idea of personal space for others. Every time he comes to us, bi-weekly it is constant tension, my own partner becomes overwhelmed. Any suggestions? > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Alison, I'm sorry we didn't have more helpful information and advice for you. You can only do your best, and evaluate whether this situation works for you. If your stepson's parents won't step up and deal with his behavior, there isn't much you can do in two weekends a month as a step-parent. Since this is a list for people with Asperger's and their partners, you might get more responses with advice about how to handle the relationship with your partner. I think your post may have gotten confused with the previous one titled "help me understand." Perhaps you would get more responses with a more descriptive title? Just a thought, if you would like to hear from more people.Again, I hope you find the resources that help you get to a good place for yourself.BeccaTo: aspires-relationships Sent: Tue, May 10, 2011 2:30:08 PMSubject: Re: Help Thank you for your advice. It all does make sense and I have managed to get his father to read the responses. His mother is not mistreating him in any way, just not engaging with him at all and giving direction,teaching. She just leaves him to isolate and doesn't challenge any behaviours as she has no time for the fight!!! His father struggles to challenge her and is in no position to take on his son, due to his own AS. I am doing what I can however I am finding it is hard enough communicating with my partner let alone trying to suggest things we should be doing for his son. It is becoming a bit of a drama triangle with me becoming the victim and being blamed for everything. Anyway, thanks again for the advice. Alison > > > Anyone give me a clue or some inspiration? > > Its a long story but just for now, I have a step son who is diagnosed with AS. His father, my partner is self diagnosed, Stepson is 14 and only diagnosed 6 months ago. His mother refuses to acknowledge anything about him or his behaviour, has made little effort in his parenting from and early age, just left him to it. Little discipline, no rules. easier for her to let him rant and rave.She does little if nothing to accomodate for his AS. Anyways. In His home environment he is shouted at alot of the time,no one can say anything to him at all without him taking it as criticism. He has a meltdown like a three year old, if he feels criticised. Am I and his father expecting to much of him to want him to catch these meltdowns before they occur? sHOULD WE BE ABLE TO EXPECT HIM TO MANAGE THIS?as I say he is 14 but very immature.I would put him at a 10 year old. I fear he will get himself into lots more trouble if he can't control this stuff.He is already getting into trouble at school. He does not show a high HQ in relation to his academic ability, but has all the other AS traits. He repeats himself alot, has special subjects that he bores people with,Logical responses, no idea of personal space for others. Every time he comes to us, bi-weekly it is constant tension, my own partner becomes overwhelmed. Any suggestions? > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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