Reply on Dr. Mercola's 9 Ways to Manage People Who Bother You

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I was especially interested in this article, as I have family members, who really bug me. I try to remember that these family member are here to learn from us and to teach us, but after awhile, it just becomes, tooooo much! I do believe, he should have added one more item, making it ten ways to manage people: Recognizing that some people are not crying for help to learn to improve theirselves, as they want to remain as they are, and they are just users, so avoid them. This seems to incompass 1. thru 6., but it still should be noted somehow. Just my thoughts. Sometimes a frustrated, Joy :-)

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9 Ways To Manage People Who Bother You

Posted By Dr. Mercola | July 27 2010 | 25,745 views

Lifehack offers nine tips for dealing with people who bother you:

You can only change yourself The best way to address the situation is to change how you perceive it and how you react to it.

Draw your boundaries Be clear on what you will tolerate and what you will not tolerate -- then stick with it.

Be upfront about where you stand People aren't mind readers, and sometimes they may not be aware that they are infringing on your space or taking up a lot of your time.

Be firm when needed If the person does not stick within the boundaries, then enforce them.

Ignore them If you just ignore them, they don't have a choice but to seek out someone else.

Don't take it personally Most of the times, these people behave the same way around others too.

Observe how others handle them The next time you are with this person, get someone else into the conversation too. Observe how the other party handles it.

Show kindness Often times, they act the way they do because they are looking for an empathetic ear.

Help them Beneath the facade is really a cry for help.