just been diagnosis and in a new relationship

[Guest guest]

HI

I went to see a clinical psychologist for some personal issues and he did some

testing after a few visits and now have been told i have mild asperger's and in

a new relationship only been seeing this guy a month he has told me he has a

reading problem can't read fast and write the best, i am 45 a single mum and

have a son with ASD high functioning and my 11 year old is ODD/ADHD and SRBD and

wears colored Lenses and Dyslexic.

Just wondering do i tell this guy and i have not told my boys as i thought it

came from their fathers side and don't need any more problems from his new bit

of fluff have enough.

Just wondering what your thoughts are i all ways knew things where hard at

school but just put it down to being lazy and hating school and other things in

life

thanks

[Guest guest]

Hi .....

I didn't wait very long to tell my current SO, because I had on my online

profile that I was the director of an autism organization. So, she asked me if

I had AS and I disclosed it then and there - and that was out of the way.

Everyone is different. Some people will want to disclose right away. Some people

will wait awhile. I think you should do whatever you feel is best for you, and

gauge when you are ready to tell him. I do think, however, you should tell your

boys at some point. They need to know that it's ok to be " different, " and that

there is no shame in being " different. " For the longest time until I was

diagnosed officially with AS in 2007, I wondered why I was " different " than

other kids and then adults.

Anyone who knows me in here from the time I joined in November 2007 can tell you

what I have been through in living with AS, and that it wasn't easy for me for

the first 18 months. But, as I learned about acceptance of myself and loving

myself, I realized there is so much more to life than I ever imagined. To be

thankful and grateful for the way I am - my unique self - which is " different "

than everyone else.

After all, when you've met one person with AS or autism, you have only met one

person with AS or autism - not everyone with AS or autism. We are all unique

and different in our own ways, with unique and different skill sets,

experiences, and so much more.

Hope this helps....

> Just wondering do i tell this guy and i have not told my boys as i thought it

came from their fathers side and don't need any more problems from his new bit

of fluff have enough.

>

> Just wondering what your thoughts are i all ways knew things where hard at

school but just put it down to being lazy and hating school and other things in

life

>

> thanks

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[Guest guest]

Hi Thanks for that yes its been a struggle i have been dealing with my 2 boys on my own for 8 years one has ASD and separation anxiety and the other has ODD/ADHD and SRBD and needs color lenses and has trouble at school. And i started to going to see this guy for help for other issues and now struggling with it all i know i should tell more people but feel embarrassed and worried how many more friends i will loose can't cope with that now. I run a autism support group for families which i get heaps from each

time we meet and catch up but now its a bit different again. I had a talk with my new boyfriend about other things we are slowly telling each other about things its hard he makes me so happy and my boys like him so much so its hard and they tell me i am the happiest i have been in years so its a hard one.I am learning to love my self more and put me first more its hard to do but am tryingThanks again To: aspires-relationships Sent: Friday, 30 March 2012 11:15 PM Subject: Re: just been diagnosis and in a new relationship

Hi .....

I didn't wait very long to tell my current SO, because I had on my online profile that I was the director of an autism organization. So, she asked me if I had AS and I disclosed it then and there - and that was out of the way.

Everyone is different. Some people will want to disclose right away. Some people will wait awhile. I think you should do whatever you feel is best for you, and gauge when you are ready to tell him. I do think, however, you should tell your boys at some point. They need to know that it's ok to be "different," and that there is no shame in being "different." For the longest time until I was diagnosed officially with AS in 2007, I wondered why I was "different" than other kids and then adults.

Anyone who knows me in here from the time I joined in November 2007 can tell you what I have been through in living with AS, and that it wasn't easy for me for the first 18 months. But, as I learned about acceptance of myself and loving myself, I realized there is so much more to life than I ever imagined. To be thankful and grateful for the way I am - my unique self - which is "different" than everyone else.

After all, when you've met one person with AS or autism, you have only met one person with AS or autism - not everyone with AS or autism. We are all unique and different in our own ways, with unique and different skill sets, experiences, and so much more.

Hope this helps....

> Just wondering do i tell this guy and i have not told my boys as i thought it came from their fathers side and don't need any more problems from his new bit of fluff have enough.

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> Just wondering what your thoughts are i all ways knew things where hard at school but just put it down to being lazy and hating school and other things in life

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> thanks

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