Deb Re: : What does hurt look like?

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Hi Deb,

It's my belief that unless they are deeply into the spectrum and there are other

factors such as low intelligence AS aren't predisposed (in a genetic sense) to

naivety any more than non spectrum folks are. There are some factors, such as

sensory issues, that can make an AS child seek out solitude. Some non spectrum

folks have sensory issues too, though generally we have the market cornered on

that one LOL.

But my thought is that it's everything that happens *after* the Aspie born that

can make AS more AS. I'll paste in a link to a 2008 post on a discussion about

central coherence, where I discuss Temple Grandin's observations about animal in

a low stimulation enviromment and the implications to humans.

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/aspires-relationships/message/2509

I had the benefit of having two NT sisters very close in age, and we grew up in

a time when the neighhourhood children traveled in herds, LOL. There was no

" supervised play " no x-box, we had 3 TV channels. We came home from school, did

homework, ate supper and then went back outside and played with our friends

until bedtime. When I was growing up there was someone at home in every house

day and night and you could not burp out loud on your way to school without it

somehow getting back to your mother.

I feel sorry for today's children. Municipal governments and school boards are

ripping out public playgrounds because of lawsuits and children aren't allowed

to play in some public parks unless it's an organized event because of lawsuits,

not to mention all the creeps you have to be scared about. With smaller families

you don't have the protection of siblings and peers siblings, so parents have to

drive their kids everywhere. Kids aren't interacting with peers before and after

school in a natural self selected environment, or engaging in spontaneous play.

It's too dangerous now. So sad. So now, all their activities, and thus, their

peers, are chosen for them. On top of 's most recent commentary of the

social effects of the eroding economy, all these factors combined are enough to

make an entire generation of kids more socially challenged, not just AS.

- Helen

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> Thanks Helen for that very in-depth description. I can see why Aspies might

> be at a greater vulnerability because of any lack of social understanding

> they may possess that can then be taken advantage of. I'm still not

> convinced of increased naivety of Aspies but I am completely able to believe

> it is the case.

> Cheers,

>

> Deb

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> NT dx'd General Anxiety disorder, PTSD, Married to AS 32 years

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