Guest guest Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 My younger brother had a heart attack Saturday with immediate quadruple bypass surgery. He is the second of my younger brothers to have had a heart attack. If that isn't renewed motivation for me I don't know what will be. The guilt I feel over focusing my energy on building a better body, achieving a fitness level beyond any I'd had before, all seem for naught when I realize that I didn't do enough to motivate the others in my life to eat healthier, exercise, control their weight, and follow a lifestyle that promotes a long and health life. I am changing my goals for this year right now. I desparately want to help my family learn about the tools (BFL and more) I've spent so much time " obsessed " with since 2004. How selfish of me to do very little to pass it on. Now I've had to endure the sight of my brother coming out of the sedation after his surgery, in pain, and unclear about his own condition. But it isn't what I've endured that bothers me. It is my dear sweet brother's pain that eats at my gut. I've known for quite some time about his risk, and I wasn't proactive. I know I couldn't " force " him to change his lifestyle, but I didn't really try to educate or motivate him towards healtheier life choices. I was wrong. I was selfish. I promise to do better from now on. Bruce Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2008 Report Share Posted January 22, 2008 Bruce, I am sorry to hear about your brother's heart attack.? I bet he will be feeling pretty motivated himself create a healthier lifestyle .? We all have to take our own bull by the horn and be accountable to our own actions. I imagine he may be coming to you for advice and information after he gets through the initial recovery period.? Don't forget, your choices for yourself make impressions on those around you.? It is much more powerful to be the change you want to see in the world than it is to preach the change. Keep on doing what you do.? It makes a difference. Kelley in Cleveland Starting weight: 154.5 Week 2: 150.5 lbs. Goal:50 sit ups/10 push ups 140 lbs. Renewed motivation My younger brother had a heart attack Saturday with immediate quadruple bypass surgery. He is the second of my younger brothers to have had a heart attack. If that isn't renewed motivation for me I don't know what will be. The guilt I feel over focusing my energy on building a better body, achieving a fitness level beyond any I'd had before, all seem for naught when I realize that I didn't do enough to motivate the others in my life to eat healthier, exercise, control their weight, and follow a lifestyle that promotes a long and health life. I am changing my goals for this year right now. I desparately want to help my family learn about the tools (BFL and more) I've spent so much time " obsessed " with since 2004. How selfish of me to do very little to pass it on. Now I've had to endure the sight of my brother coming out of the sedation after his surgery, in pain, and unclear about his own condition. But it isn't what I've endured that bothers me. It is my dear sweet brother's pain that eats at my gut. I've known for quite some time about his risk, and I wasn't proactive. I know I couldn't " force " him to change his lifestyle, but I didn't really try to educate or motivate him towards healtheier life choices. I was wrong. I was selfish. I promise to do better from now on. Bruce ________________________________________________________________________ More new features than ever. Check out the new AOL Mail ! - http://webmail.aol.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2008 Report Share Posted January 22, 2008 Hi Bruce, I'm sorry to hear about your brother. i can certainly understand why you would partially blame yourself for his condition, but don't place that burden on yourself. An old saying is you can lead a horse to water, but you can;t make it drink. I'm sure your brother knew that all the unhealthy foods he was eating was not good for him. Plus, he had a previous example of what could happen from the first brother that had a heart attack. Encouraging him is fine, but we a person gets sick and tired of being sick and tried, their ways will change. It's not up to you to change for your brother. maybe this will give him more motivation to turn his life around. But please do not blame yourself. Renewed motivation My younger brother had a heart attack Saturday with immediate quadruple bypass surgery. He is the second of my younger brothers to have had a heart attack. If that isn't renewed motivation for me I don't know what will be. The guilt I feel over focusing my energy on building a better body, achieving a fitness level beyond any I'd had before, all seem for naught when I realize that I didn't do enough to motivate the others in my life to eat healthier, exercise, control their weight, and follow a lifestyle that promotes a long and health life. I am changing my goals for this year right now. I desparately want to help my family learn about the tools (BFL and more) I've spent so much time " obsessed " with since 2004. How selfish of me to do very little to pass it on. Now I've had to endure the sight of my brother coming out of the sedation after his surgery, in pain, and unclear about his own condition. But it isn't what I've endured that bothers me. It is my dear sweet brother's pain that eats at my gut. I've known for quite some time about his risk, and I wasn't proactive. I know I couldn't " force " him to change his lifestyle, but I didn't really try to educate or motivate him towards healtheier life choices. I was wrong. I was selfish. I promise to do better from now on. Bruce Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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