Guest guest Posted February 28, 2012 Report Share Posted February 28, 2012 Shmoriane, How do you deal with neighbor nosie? My building is so cheap and creaky, and my upstairs neighbor is so heavy-footed, I hear every footstep she makes, and it sounds like she's dropping bowling balls sometimes. What is she doing - throwing shit around? Anyways - she keeps me up at night, wakes me up in the morning. I live on her schedule when she's home - I have no choice, and I've been driven to the point of rage, tears, and extreme frustration and anger. I complain to my landlord every week. I called the cops last weekend when she was fighting with her boyfriend at 1am, drunk, and loud and banging so loud I felt my floor shake.She freaking stomps so hard on a normal daily basis, I can often feel my floor and shaking. I've threatened to sue my landlords into letting me out of my lease so I can get out of this goddamn building. They say they are doing everything legal to make her stop - but they can't make her stop stomping every night! And I sound like a crazy person trying to explain to them that she's not partying or having people over - she just walks really loud and it bothers me a lot! Should I sit down with the manager and tell him about my condition? Will that even matter? All he cares about is his lease and his investors.I'm only 6 months into my 12 month lease. I really don't know if I can make it the rest of the way. I feel awful about lashing out at my landlords. I don't know this girl - we don't speak. But I feel like I want to seriously hurt her.I wish this group were in a message board style site, too, not individual emails like this. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 5:26 PM Subject: I hear you!!!!! I hear you. I didn't think that people would reply to my posts either. I'm sorry to hear about your neighbors... our neighbors! I can totally identify with the physical responses too. When a door slams, voices boom, or something happens above me when I'm lying in bed (or wherever) it feels like a stack of yellowpages are splitting inside of me. The relaxing exercises only help me for a moment. That euphoric feeling of endorphins or relaxation slips away as soon as there's an unbearable sound. And that's usually very soon. On "giving power over me"... I finally stopped thinking I was just an unhappy person and that I'm actually surrounded by my triggers during most--a vast majority--of my awake time. I don't know what I can do about that. At work today, I definitely did give someone power over me. A woman asked if I was pregnant (I get that from time to time). I curtly said no, and let my evening get ruined. I went to the store after work, bought a pregnancy test (negative results) and refused to eat dinner. LOL. I'm actually laughing about it now! Even though I'm hungry . Thank you for replying to my post. I think that this site is not that user friendly. It would be nice to be able to follow threads and not just see all of the threads mixed together. I think a different format would help. > > > I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, "I hear you?" Thanks. > > > > I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to them, but they seem to "forget." The hatred and the dry mouth and burning feeling in my stomach are hurting me. I know that. I try doing yoga, deep breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to upset me so much. > > > > I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years, and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden, etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or worse? > > > > Is anybody out there? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > TODAY(Beta) • Powered by Yahoo! > > LeBron threatens to beat up heckler > > The NBA superstar erupts in anger after a fan makes light of a sensitive situation. > > Privacy Policy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2012 Report Share Posted February 28, 2012 I hear you too. It's just right now the biggest problem I have is my walking neighbor to the side of me and the constant up and down the metal stairs in my building that reverberates through my office non stop all day, which means day and night I'm suffering, so when I see post about my most biggest trigger I move on and try not to read it as I'm really trying not to get into looped thinking about it since it's already consuming me.But BOY do I EVER hear you. Wish it were better for you, 20 years is too long to have to think of moving when you like it otherwise.Any chance you can make a noise compliant to the police? every city has a noise ordinance. But you have to complain restlessly, eventually they may take it seriously. But if you're city has those stupid rules of only during certain hours then you may be out of luck. Is there hope that eventually he will move? I mean without a job how much longer can he afford to stay there?Sorry it's so bad and sorry for the silence here. You're not doing anything wrong, some of us just read and say "oh yea, I know" without actually typing it :-)Heidi I hear you. I didn't think that people would reply to my posts either. I'm sorry to hear about your neighbors... our neighbors! I can totally identify with the physical responses too. When a door slams, voices boom, or something happens above me when I'm lying in bed (or wherever) it feels like a stack of yellowpages are splitting inside of me. The relaxing exercises only help me for a moment. That euphoric feeling of endorphins or relaxation slips away as soon as there's an unbearable sound. And that's usually very soon. On "giving power over me"... I finally stopped thinking I was just an unhappy person and that I'm actually surrounded by my triggers during most--a vast majority--of my awake time. I don't know what I can do about that. At work today, I definitely did give someone power over me. A woman asked if I was pregnant (I get that from time to time). I curtly said no, and let my evening get ruined. I went to the store after work, bought a pregnancy test (negative results) and refused to eat dinner. LOL. I'm actually laughing about it now! Even though I'm hungry . Thank you for replying to my post. I think that this site is not that user friendly. It would be nice to be able to follow threads and not just see all of the threads mixed together. I think a different format would help. > > > I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, "I hear you?" Thanks. > > > > I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to them, but they seem to "forget." The hatred and the dry mouth and burning feeling in my stomach are hurting me. I know that. I try doing yoga, deep breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to upset me so much. > > > > I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years, and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden, etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or worse? > > > > Is anybody out there? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > TODAY(Beta) • Powered by Yahoo! > > LeBron threatens to beat up heckler > > The NBA superstar erupts in anger after a fan makes light of a sensitive situation. > > Privacy Policy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2012 Report Share Posted February 28, 2012 , a thick carpet with a thick carpet pad beneath it damps the noise enormously. The difficulty is that you are not putting the carpet in your apartment. It needs to go in the upstairs apartment. The landlord doesn't need to make the girl stop walking -- all he needs to do is put the appropriate covering on the floor. I once experienced this with an upstairs neighbor and the difference was vast. It needs to be a thick layer with a thick padding beneath, not just a thin rug. Or maybe there is a top floor apartment in the building that you can move to. For this to work there would need to be no vibrating mechanical fans or other building mechanicals above you. Also, if you can get a diagnosis of hyperacusis, even though that is not what you have, it could help you. You could possibly also get a diagnosis of ear pain or anxiety. The landlord must comply with the ADA, so if you have a documented disability you might be able to make more progress. If your landlord will not do something with carpeting, I believe he is legally obligated to let you out of the lease. > > > > > I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, " I hear you? " Thanks. > > > > > > I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to them, but they seem to " forget. " The hatred and the dry mouth and burning feeling in my stomach are hurting me. I know that. I try doing yoga, deep breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to upset me so much. > > > > > > I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years, and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden, etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or worse? > > > > > > Is anybody out there? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > TODAY(Beta) • Powered by Yahoo! > > > LeBron threatens to beat up heckler > > > The NBA superstar erupts in anger after a fan makes light of a sensitive situation. > > > Privacy Policy > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2012 Report Share Posted February 28, 2012 I got my diagnosis from my general practioner, just came in with the code (someone here posted it) and got it. :-) Helps that I can hear and am very pained by florescent lights but really I told her I wanted it for misophonia for NFB.I just typed in google "how to break a lease in san diego" and the tenants legal rights center popped up.good luck Shmoriane, How do you deal with neighbor nosie? My building is so cheap and creaky, and my upstairs neighbor is so heavy-footed, I hear every footstep she makes, and it sounds like she's dropping bowling balls sometimes. What is she doing - throwing shit around? Anyways - she keeps me up at night, wakes me up in the morning. I live on her schedule when she's home - I have no choice, and I've been driven to the point of rage, tears, and extreme frustration and anger. I complain to my landlord every week. I called the cops last weekend when she was fighting with her boyfriend at 1am, drunk, and loud and banging so loud I felt my floor shake.She freaking stomps so hard on a normal daily basis, I can often feel my floor and shaking. I've threatened to sue my landlords into letting me out of my lease so I can get out of this goddamn building. They say they are doing everything legal to make her stop - but they can't make her stop stomping every night! And I sound like a crazy person trying to explain to them that she's not partying or having people over - she just walks really loud and it bothers me a lot! Should I sit down with the manager and tell him about my condition? Will that even matter? All he cares about is his lease and his investors.I'm only 6 months into my 12 month lease. I really don't know if I can make it the rest of the way. I feel awful about lashing out at my landlords. I don't know this girl - we don't speak. But I feel like I want to seriously hurt her.I wish this group were in a message board style site, too, not individual emails like this. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 5:26 PM Subject: I hear you!!!!! I hear you. I didn't think that people would reply to my posts either. I'm sorry to hear about your neighbors... our neighbors! I can totally identify with the physical responses too. When a door slams, voices boom, or something happens above me when I'm lying in bed (or wherever) it feels like a stack of yellowpages are splitting inside of me. The relaxing exercises only help me for a moment. That euphoric feeling of endorphins or relaxation slips away as soon as there's an unbearable sound. And that's usually very soon. On "giving power over me"... I finally stopped thinking I was just an unhappy person and that I'm actually surrounded by my triggers during most--a vast majority--of my awake time. I don't know what I can do about that. At work today, I definitely did give someone power over me. A woman asked if I was pregnant (I get that from time to time). I curtly said no, and let my evening get ruined. I went to the store after work, bought a pregnancy test (negative results) and refused to eat dinner. LOL. I'm actually laughing about it now! Even though I'm hungry . Thank you for replying to my post. I think that this site is not that user friendly. It would be nice to be able to follow threads and not just see all of the threads mixed together. I think a different format would help. > > > I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, "I hear you?" Thanks. > > > > I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to them, but they seem to "forget." The hatred and the dry mouth and burning feeling in my stomach are hurting me. I know that. I try doing yoga, deep breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to upset me so much. > > > > I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years, and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden, etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or worse? > > > > Is anybody out there? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > TODAY(Beta) • Powered by Yahoo! > > LeBron threatens to beat up heckler > > The NBA superstar erupts in anger after a fan makes light of a sensitive situation. > > Privacy Policy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2012 Report Share Posted February 28, 2012 I agree with you all saying this site isn't super user-friendly..is there a way to go about getting the format altered?? Also - I hear all y'all I would reply to a lot more if it were a little more organized on here...happy to have the site at all though, so I suppose I shouldn't complain too much.. > > > > > I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, " I hear you? " Thanks. > > > > > > I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to them, but they seem to " forget. " The hatred and the dry mouth and burning feeling in my stomach are hurting me. I know that. I try doing yoga, deep breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to upset me so much. > > > > > > I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years, and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden, etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or worse? > > > > > > Is anybody out there? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > TODAY(Beta) • Powered by Yahoo! > > > LeBron threatens to beat up heckler > > > The NBA superstar erupts in anger after a fan makes light of a sensitive situation. > > > Privacy Policy > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 29, 2012 Report Share Posted February 29, 2012 What is the code for Misophonia? No doctor I've ever seen knows there is one.... To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 11:41 PM Subject: Re: I hear you!!!!! I got my diagnosis from my general practioner, just came in with the code (someone here posted it) and got it. :-) Helps that I can hear and am very pained by florescent lights but really I told her I wanted it for misophonia for NFB.I just typed in google "how to break a lease in san diego" and the tenants legal rights center popped up.good luck Shmoriane, How do you deal with neighbor nosie? My building is so cheap and creaky, and my upstairs neighbor is so heavy-footed, I hear every footstep she makes, and it sounds like she's dropping bowling balls sometimes. What is she doing - throwing shit around? Anyways - she keeps me up at night, wakes me up in the morning. I live on her schedule when she's home - I have no choice, and I've been driven to the point of rage, tears, and extreme frustration and anger. I complain to my landlord every week. I called the cops last weekend when she was fighting with her boyfriend at 1am, drunk, and loud and banging so loud I felt my floor shake.She freaking stomps so hard on a normal daily basis, I can often feel my floor and shaking. I've threatened to sue my landlords into letting me out of my lease so I can get out of this goddamn building. They say they are doing everything legal to make her stop - but they can't make her stop stomping every night! And I sound like a crazy person trying to explain to them that she's not partying or having people over - she just walks really loud and it bothers me a lot! Should I sit down with the manager and tell him about my condition? Will that even matter? All he cares about is his lease and his investors.I'm only 6 months into my 12 month lease. I really don't know if I can make it the rest of the way. I feel awful about lashing out at my landlords. I don't know this girl - we don't speak. But I feel like I want to seriously hurt her.I wish this group were in a message board style site, too, not individual emails like this. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 5:26 PM Subject: I hear you!!!!! I hear you. I didn't think that people would reply to my posts either. I'm sorry to hear about your neighbors... our neighbors! I can totally identify with the physical responses too. When a door slams, voices boom, or something happens above me when I'm lying in bed (or wherever) it feels like a stack of yellowpages are splitting inside of me. The relaxing exercises only help me for a moment. That euphoric feeling of endorphins or relaxation slips away as soon as there's an unbearable sound. And that's usually very soon. On "giving power over me"... I finally stopped thinking I was just an unhappy person and that I'm actually surrounded by my triggers during most--a vast majority--of my awake time. I don't know what I can do about that. At work today, I definitely did give someone power over me. A woman asked if I was pregnant (I get that from time to time). I curtly said no, and let my evening get ruined. I went to the store after work, bought a pregnancy test (negative results) and refused to eat dinner. LOL. I'm actually laughing about it now! Even though I'm hungry . Thank you for replying to my post. I think that this site is not that user friendly. It would be nice to be able to follow threads and not just see all of the threads mixed together. I think a different format would help. > > > I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, "I hear you?" Thanks. > > > > I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to them, but they seem to "forget." The hatred and the dry mouth and burning feeling in my stomach are hurting me. I know that. I try doing yoga, deep breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to upset me so much. > > > > I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years, and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden, etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or worse? > > > > Is anybody out there? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > TODAY(Beta) • Powered by Yahoo! > > LeBron threatens to beat up heckler > > The NBA superstar erupts in anger after a fan makes light of a sensitive situation. > > Privacy Policy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 29, 2012 Report Share Posted February 29, 2012 What is the code for Misophonia? No doctor I've been to knows there is one... To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 11:41 PM Subject: Re: I hear you!!!!! I got my diagnosis from my general practioner, just came in with the code (someone here posted it) and got it. :-) Helps that I can hear and am very pained by florescent lights but really I told her I wanted it for misophonia for NFB.I just typed in google " how to break a lease in san diego " and the tenants legal rights center popped up.good luck Shmoriane, How do you deal with neighbor nosie? My building is so cheap and creaky, and my upstairs neighbor is so heavy-footed, I hear every footstep she makes, and it sounds like she's dropping bowling balls sometimes. What is she doing - throwing shit around? Anyways - she keeps me up at night, wakes me up in the morning. I live on her schedule when she's home - I have no choice, and I've been driven to the point of rage, tears, and extreme frustration and anger. I complain to my landlord every week. I called the cops last weekend when she was fighting with her boyfriend at 1am, drunk, and loud and banging so loud I felt my floor shake.She freaking stomps so hard on a normal daily basis, I can often feel my floor and shaking. I've threatened to sue my landlords into letting me out of my lease so I can get out of this goddamn building. They say they are doing everything legal to make her stop - but they can't make her stop stomping every night! And I sound like a crazy person trying to explain to them that she's not partying or having people over - she just walks really loud and it bothers me a lot! Should I sit down with the manager and tell him about my condition? Will that even matter? All he cares about is his lease and his investors.I'm only 6 months into my 12 month lease. I really don't know if I can make it the rest of the way. I feel awful about lashing out at my landlords. I don't know this girl - we don't speak. But I feel like I want to seriously hurt her.I wish this group were in a message board style site, too, not individual emails like this. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 5:26 PM Subject: I hear you!!!!! I hear you. I didn't think that people would reply to my posts either. I'm sorry to hear about your neighbors... our neighbors! I can totally identify with the physical responses too. When a door slams, voices boom, or something happens above me when I'm lying in bed (or wherever) it feels like a stack of yellowpages are splitting inside of me. The relaxing exercises only help me for a moment. That euphoric feeling of endorphins or relaxation slips away as soon as there's an unbearable sound. And that's usually very soon. On " giving power over me " ... I finally stopped thinking I was just an unhappy person and that I'm actually surrounded by my triggers during most--a vast majority--of my awake time. I don't know what I can do about that. At work today, I definitely did give someone power over me. A woman asked if I was pregnant (I get that from time to time). I curtly said no, and let my evening get ruined. I went to the store after work, bought a pregnancy test (negative results) and refused to eat dinner. LOL. I'm actually laughing about it now! Even though I'm hungry . Thank you for replying to my post. I think that this site is not that user friendly. It would be nice to be able to follow threads and not just see all of the threads mixed together. I think a different format would help. > > > I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, " I hear you? " Thanks. > > > > I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to them, but they seem to " forget. " The hatred and the dry mouth and burning feeling in my stomach are hurting me. I know that. I try doing yoga, deep breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to upset me so much. > > > > I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years, and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden, etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or worse? > > > > Is anybody out there? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > TODAY(Beta) • Powered by Yahoo! > > LeBron threatens to beat up heckler > > The NBA superstar erupts in anger after a fan makes light of a sensitive situation. > > Privacy Policy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 29, 2012 Report Share Posted February 29, 2012 The closest code is 388.42, which indicates an unusual sound sensitivity or abnormal auditory perception. Misophonia or 4S does not have a specific code as of yet for diagnosis. Dr. J > >> > >> > I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, " I hear you? " Thanks. > >> > > >> > I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to them, but they seem to " forget. " The hatred and the dry mouth and burning feeling in my stomach are hurting me. I know that. I try doing yoga, deep breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to upset me so much. > >> > > >> > I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years, and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden, etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or worse? > >> > > >> > Is anybody out there? > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > TODAY(Beta) • Powered by Yahoo! > >> > LeBron threatens to beat up heckler > >> > The NBA superstar erupts in anger after a fan makes light of a sensitive situation. > >> > Privacy Policy > >> > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2012 Report Share Posted March 1, 2012 Hi , I feel the same way you do with the neighbors. I'm under a family of seven and would really be thrilled if something tragic happened to them all. It's a shame to feel that way about a family, of all things, but it's where my thoughts go whenever I am overwhelmed with triggers. I wear earplugs at home most of the time. Orange ones. I don't know if all orange earplugs are the best, but these are the shiiiit!!! I am half deaf in them! For the most part, though, I go crrrrrrazy at home. I rush to my plugs upon the first dropped bowling ball (why do our neighbors have so many bowling balls???). I'm sorry to hear that your neighbor keeps you up at night. I get sooooo full or rage when someone starts walking above my head after 10pm (bedtime). OOH! And the way the entire building shakes when a door slams!! OUCH! Right through my core. I wish you all the best in breaking your lease and finding a peaceful place. I know the next place I live has to be a single family or a top floor condo. My main goal now in dealing with the triggers from my neighbors is to not let my reactions negatively affect my relationship with my husband. I respond more swiftly now, and with slightly less volatile outbursts. This is a new goal. Hey, we're all growing! > > > >Shmoriane, > > > >How do you deal with neighbor nosie? My building is so cheap and creaky, and my upstairs neighbor is so heavy-footed, I hear every footstep she makes, and it sounds like she's dropping bowling balls sometimes. What is she doing - throwing shit around? > > > >Anyways - she keeps me up at night, wakes me up in the morning. I live on her schedule when she's home - I have no choice, and I've been driven to the point of rage, tears, and extreme frustration and anger. I complain to my landlord every week. I called the cops last weekend when she was fighting with her boyfriend at 1am, drunk, and loud and banging so loud I felt my floor shake.She freaking stomps so hard on a normal daily basis, I can often feel my floor and shaking. > > > > I've threatened to sue my landlords into letting me out of my lease so I can get out of this goddamn building. They say they are doing everything legal to make her stop - but they can't make her stop stomping every night! And I sound like a crazy person trying to explain to them that she's not partying or having people over - she just walks really loud and it bothers me a lot! > > > >Should I sit down with the manager and tell him about my condition? Will that even matter? All he cares about is his lease and his investors. > > > >I'm only 6 months into my 12 month lease. I really don't know if I can make it the rest of the way. I feel awful about lashing out at my landlords. I don't know this girl - we don't speak. But I feel like I want to seriously hurt her. > > > > > > > > > > > >I wish this group were in a message board style site, too, not individual emails like this. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >________________________________ > > > > From: shmoriane <shmoriane@> > > > >To: Soundsensitivity > > > >Sent: Tuesday, February 28, 2012 5:26 PM > > > >Subject: I hear you!!!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >I hear you. I didn't think that people would reply to my posts either. I'm sorry to hear about your neighbors... our neighbors! I can totally identify with the physical responses too. When a door slams, voices boom, or something happens above me when I'm lying in bed (or wherever) it feels like a stack of yellowpages are splitting inside of me. > > > > > > > >The relaxing exercises only help me for a moment. That euphoric feeling of endorphins or relaxation slips away as soon as there's an unbearable sound. And that's usually very soon. > > > > > > > >On " giving power over me " ... I finally stopped thinking I was just an unhappy person and that I'm actually surrounded by my triggers during most--a vast majority--of my awake time. I don't know what I can do about that. At work today, I definitely did give someone power over me. A woman asked if I was pregnant (I get that from time to time). I curtly said no, and let my evening get ruined. I went to the store after work, bought a pregnancy test (negative results) and refused to eat dinner. LOL. I'm actually laughing about it now! Even though I'm hungry . > > > > > > > >Thank you for replying to my post. I think that this site is not that user friendly. It would be nice to be able to follow threads and not just see all of the threads mixed together. I think a different format would help. > > > > > > > > > > > >> > > > >> > I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, " I hear you? " Thanks. > > > >> > > > > >> > I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to them, but they seem to " forget. " The hatred and the dry mouth and burning feeling in my stomach are hurting me. I know that. I try doing yoga, deep breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to upset me so much. > > > >> > > > > >> > I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years, and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden, etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or worse? > > > >> > > > > >> > Is anybody out there? > > > >> > > > > >> > > > > >> > > > > >> > > > > >> > > > > >> > > > > >> > TODAY(Beta) • Powered by Yahoo! > > > >> > LeBron threatens to beat up heckler > > > >> > The NBA superstar erupts in anger after a fan makes light of a sensitive situation. > > > >> > Privacy Policy > > > >> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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