Guest guest Posted March 17, 2012 Report Share Posted March 17, 2012 I'm sorry you are suffering. Here you will find people who understand and support you. It's interesting how many people have used two words to describe how they have felt--crazy and alone. I hope we can all realize we are neither. > > I always somehow knew that there are other people who feel the same way as I do, but when I found out two days ago that this condition has a name and there is a support group, I could not help but being relieved that I am not crazy and alone. > I have a pleasing personality and therefore had very little confrontation outside home related to misphonia. When I was younger (I am 34), I was thinking it is very natural to dislike noises such as eating, repetitive sounds, cuffing, burping, etc, since I believed many of these sounds came from people with poor manner and lower social class and I have a right to dislike it. My mother was very eager to teach us how to eat and behave. Then as I grew older, I talked about it with other people and surprisingly I found out that others can not relate to it and I am alone. I stopped talking about it in the fear of the outside world thinking I am crazy, too sensitive and irrational. I had heard the same advice from my close family members and this was a proof that I am different in a bad way. > In addition to the fact that I was suffering from hearing these noises, I was feeling a great deal of pain by knowing the fact that I could not and should not act on it because who am I to tell people what noises they should or should not make. This causes me not only to get to the habit of suppressing my emotions, but criticizing myself for being such a weak, sensitive and selfish person. At least this was how I felt about it. > Although I built up lots of anger in me during the years, I could mange until I found this new job 4 month ago. My new office is HELL! I am sitting here right now not being able to concentrate on my work which I love, gathered by 4 people sitting close to me. Three of them are my worst nightmares. One of them has a condition which makes him constantly make noises with his throat every second of every minute, loud and soft. He also burps and makes lots of noise when he eats or drinks. He shakes his leg all the time. The other guy types vigorously in addition to lots of clicking sounds and the third guy is constantly drinking tea with too much noise and he talks to himself all the time, with soft murmuring voice. His nose seemed to be blocked constantly so I can hear him constantly catching his breath with his mouth. ONLY you guys, my fellow group members can understand in what kind of HELL I am living 8-9 hours a day in this office. I can not use earphones very often since I sit with my back to the office door where my boss can come every minute and I need to know when he is in the office. There is nowhere else in this office that I can sit nd I love my job and it is well paid. > I sometimes have a fantasy of getting a baseball bat and hit and kick something until I am calm. I've started meditation more than a year ago and read lots of books. I can tell for sure that I am a more compassionate person in general which is helpful since I no longer believe it is their fault and behavior that is wrong and understand the fact that people are free to be whoever they want to be and make noises, but being in this office made me realize that I still suffer greatly and feel very helpless. My work is research related and I noticed that I am most vulnerable when I need to concentrate better and when I am stressed or nervous. > How outrages you get when you are in this situation and what do you feel and like to do? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2012 Report Share Posted March 18, 2012 Junebug, I am in a new office from " HELL " just like you. I am completely surrounded by alot of people, with no barriers at all to soften the noise or reduce the visual distractions, I'm convinced its designed to torture anyone with Misophonia! I either had to find a way to deal with it or find a new job - with no guarentee it would be much better. I only have survived by putting headphones on, noise cancelling type that covers the ears completely. I listen to music mostly. Put a small mirror nearby so you can see someone coming behind you, Also, I get up every so often and find a quiet place to calm down, or take a walk. Most importantly, my reactions and ability to tolerate all these noises has become much better. Its almost like my brain is changing my misophonia wiring and rewiring it to work better in a noisy environment. Almost like the cure might be to overload us with noise for a period of time, until it finally affects us less. I still suffer, but less so, I have found that frequenst exercise, less caffiene, less sugar, meditation have all reduced my symptons over the years. At least I can survive and thrive. Tom > > > > I always somehow knew that there are other people who feel the same way as I do, but when I found out two days ago that this condition has a name and there is a support group, I could not help but being relieved that I am not crazy and alone. > > I have a pleasing personality and therefore had very little confrontation outside home related to misphonia. When I was younger (I am 34), I was thinking it is very natural to dislike noises such as eating, repetitive sounds, cuffing, burping, etc, since I believed many of these sounds came from people with poor manner and lower social class and I have a right to dislike it. My mother was very eager to teach us how to eat and behave. Then as I grew older, I talked about it with other people and surprisingly I found out that others can not relate to it and I am alone. I stopped talking about it in the fear of the outside world thinking I am crazy, too sensitive and irrational. I had heard the same advice from my close family members and this was a proof that I am different in a bad way. > > In addition to the fact that I was suffering from hearing these noises, I was feeling a great deal of pain by knowing the fact that I could not and should not act on it because who am I to tell people what noises they should or should not make. This causes me not only to get to the habit of suppressing my emotions, but criticizing myself for being such a weak, sensitive and selfish person. At least this was how I felt about it. > > Although I built up lots of anger in me during the years, I could mange until I found this new job 4 month ago. My new office is HELL! I am sitting here right now not being able to concentrate on my work which I love, gathered by 4 people sitting close to me. Three of them are my worst nightmares. One of them has a condition which makes him constantly make noises with his throat every second of every minute, loud and soft. He also burps and makes lots of noise when he eats or drinks. He shakes his leg all the time. The other guy types vigorously in addition to lots of clicking sounds and the third guy is constantly drinking tea with too much noise and he talks to himself all the time, with soft murmuring voice. His nose seemed to be blocked constantly so I can hear him constantly catching his breath with his mouth. ONLY you guys, my fellow group members can understand in what kind of HELL I am living 8-9 hours a day in this office. I can not use earphones very often since I sit with my back to the office door where my boss can come every minute and I need to know when he is in the office. There is nowhere else in this office that I can sit nd I love my job and it is well paid. > > I sometimes have a fantasy of getting a baseball bat and hit and kick something until I am calm. I've started meditation more than a year ago and read lots of books. I can tell for sure that I am a more compassionate person in general which is helpful since I no longer believe it is their fault and behavior that is wrong and understand the fact that people are free to be whoever they want to be and make noises, but being in this office made me realize that I still suffer greatly and feel very helpless. My work is research related and I noticed that I am most vulnerable when I need to concentrate better and when I am stressed or nervous. > > How outrages you get when you are in this situation and what do you feel and like to do? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2012 Report Share Posted March 19, 2012 Oh my god! You are the best! Thanks a lot for your answer and your advice. I am sooooooooooo happy for you and so proud of you. > > > > > > I always somehow knew that there are other people who feel the same way as I do, but when I found out two days ago that this condition has a name and there is a support group, I could not help but being relieved that I am not crazy and alone. > > > I have a pleasing personality and therefore had very little confrontation outside home related to misphonia. When I was younger (I am 34), I was thinking it is very natural to dislike noises such as eating, repetitive sounds, cuffing, burping, etc, since I believed many of these sounds came from people with poor manner and lower social class and I have a right to dislike it. My mother was very eager to teach us how to eat and behave. Then as I grew older, I talked about it with other people and surprisingly I found out that others can not relate to it and I am alone. I stopped talking about it in the fear of the outside world thinking I am crazy, too sensitive and irrational. I had heard the same advice from my close family members and this was a proof that I am different in a bad way. > > > In addition to the fact that I was suffering from hearing these noises, I was feeling a great deal of pain by knowing the fact that I could not and should not act on it because who am I to tell people what noises they should or should not make. This causes me not only to get to the habit of suppressing my emotions, but criticizing myself for being such a weak, sensitive and selfish person. At least this was how I felt about it. > > > Although I built up lots of anger in me during the years, I could mange until I found this new job 4 month ago. My new office is HELL! I am sitting here right now not being able to concentrate on my work which I love, gathered by 4 people sitting close to me. Three of them are my worst nightmares. One of them has a condition which makes him constantly make noises with his throat every second of every minute, loud and soft. He also burps and makes lots of noise when he eats or drinks. He shakes his leg all the time. The other guy types vigorously in addition to lots of clicking sounds and the third guy is constantly drinking tea with too much noise and he talks to himself all the time, with soft murmuring voice. His nose seemed to be blocked constantly so I can hear him constantly catching his breath with his mouth. ONLY you guys, my fellow group members can understand in what kind of HELL I am living 8-9 hours a day in this office. I can not use earphones very often since I sit with my back to the office door where my boss can come every minute and I need to know when he is in the office. There is nowhere else in this office that I can sit nd I love my job and it is well paid. > > > I sometimes have a fantasy of getting a baseball bat and hit and kick something until I am calm. I've started meditation more than a year ago and read lots of books. I can tell for sure that I am a more compassionate person in general which is helpful since I no longer believe it is their fault and behavior that is wrong and understand the fact that people are free to be whoever they want to be and make noises, but being in this office made me realize that I still suffer greatly and feel very helpless. My work is research related and I noticed that I am most vulnerable when I need to concentrate better and when I am stressed or nervous. > > > How outrages you get when you are in this situation and what do you feel and like to do? > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2012 Report Share Posted March 19, 2012 The mirror idea is brilliant.I can't believe I never though of that! To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Sunday, March 18, 2012 7:49 AM Subject: Re: New desperate member Junebug, I am in a new office from "HELL" just like you. I am completely surrounded by alot of people, with no barriers at all to soften the noise or reduce the visual distractions, I'm convinced its designed to torture anyone with Misophonia! I either had to find a way to deal with it or find a new job - with no guarentee it would be much better. I only have survived by putting headphones on, noise cancelling type that covers the ears completely. I listen to music mostly. Put a small mirror nearby so you can see someone coming behind you, Also, I get up every so often and find a quiet place to calm down, or take a walk. Most importantly, my reactions and ability to tolerate all these noises has become much better. Its almost like my brain is changing my misophonia wiring and rewiring it to work better in a noisy environment. Almost like the cure might be to overload us with noise for a period of time, until it finally affects us less. I still suffer, but less so, I have found that frequenst exercise, less caffiene, less sugar, meditation have all reduced my symptons over the years. At least I can survive and thrive. Tom > > > > I always somehow knew that there are other people who feel the same way as I do, but when I found out two days ago that this condition has a name and there is a support group, I could not help but being relieved that I am not crazy and alone. > > I have a pleasing personality and therefore had very little confrontation outside home related to misphonia. When I was younger (I am 34), I was thinking it is very natural to dislike noises such as eating, repetitive sounds, cuffing, burping, etc, since I believed many of these sounds came from people with poor manner and lower social class and I have a right to dislike it. My mother was very eager to teach us how to eat and behave. Then as I grew older, I talked about it with other people and surprisingly I found out that others can not relate to it and I am alone. I stopped talking about it in the fear of the outside world thinking I am crazy, too sensitive and irrational. I had heard the same advice from my close family members and this was a proof that I am different in a bad way. > > In addition to the fact that I was suffering from hearing these noises, I was feeling a great deal of pain by knowing the fact that I could not and should not act on it because who am I to tell people what noises they should or should not make. This causes me not only to get to the habit of suppressing my emotions, but criticizing myself for being such a weak, sensitive and selfish person. At least this was how I felt about it. > > Although I built up lots of anger in me during the years, I could mange until I found this new job 4 month ago. My new office is HELL! I am sitting here right now not being able to concentrate on my work which I love, gathered by 4 people sitting close to me. Three of them are my worst nightmares. One of them has a condition which makes him constantly make noises with his throat every second of every minute, loud and soft. He also burps and makes lots of noise when he eats or drinks. He shakes his leg all the time. The other guy types vigorously in addition to lots of clicking sounds and the third guy is constantly drinking tea with too much noise and he talks to himself all the time, with soft murmuring voice. His nose seemed to be blocked constantly so I can hear him constantly catching his breath with his mouth. ONLY you guys, my fellow group members can understand in what kind of HELL I am living 8-9 hours a day in this office. I can not use earphones very often since I sit with my back to the office door where my boss can come every minute and I need to know when he is in the office. There is nowhere else in this office that I can sit nd I love my job and it is well paid. > > I sometimes have a fantasy of getting a baseball bat and hit and kick something until I am calm. I've started meditation more than a year ago and read lots of books. I can tell for sure that I am a more compassionate person in general which is helpful since I no longer believe it is their fault and behavior that is wrong and understand the fact that people are free to be whoever they want to be and make noises, but being in this office made me realize that I still suffer greatly and feel very helpless. My work is research related and I noticed that I am most vulnerable when I need to concentrate better and when I am stressed or nervous. > > How outrages you get when you are in this situation and what do you feel and like to do? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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