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I hear you. I didn't think that people would reply to my posts either. I'm sorry

to hear about your neighbors... our neighbors! I can totally identify with the

physical responses too. When a door slams, voices boom, or something happens

above me when I'm lying in bed (or wherever) it feels like a stack of

yellowpages are splitting inside of me.

The relaxing exercises only help me for a moment. That euphoric feeling of

endorphins or relaxation slips away as soon as there's an unbearable sound. And

that's usually very soon.

On " giving power over me " ... I finally stopped thinking I was just an unhappy

person and that I'm actually surrounded by my triggers during most--a vast

majority--of my awake time. I don't know what I can do about that. At work

today, I definitely did give someone power over me. A woman asked if I was

pregnant (I get that from time to time). I curtly said no, and let my evening

get ruined. I went to the store after work, bought a pregnancy test (negative

results) and refused to eat dinner. LOL. I'm actually laughing about it now!

Even though I'm hungry .

Thank you for replying to my post. I think that this site is not that user

friendly. It would be nice to be able to follow threads and not just see all of

the threads mixed together. I think a different format would help.

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> > I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some

reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I

wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, " I hear

you? " Thanks.

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> > I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The

problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of

the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out

for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and

yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to

them, but they seem to " forget. " The hatred and the dry mouth and burning

feeling in my stomach are hurting me. I know that. I try doing yoga, deep

breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go

as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection

when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the

power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to

upset me so much.

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> > I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them

up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't

think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make

comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years,

and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden,

etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or

worse?

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