Re: Hi again from the girl with the Gum Cracking Mother in Law

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Girlfriend, I know we've said this to you so many times but it just bears repeating. Tell your husband to tell his Mom to spit out her gum just while you are there. Notice I use the word "tell" in both cases, not "ask.:Jeez, what if you get so upset your hand slips and the curling iron goes into the face. It's not worth worrying about how she'll take it, she's just got to be told point blank gum is not allowed in your house while you are there, period. Her medical condition can let her be gum free for 1 hour.You and your husband can do this. YOU ARE WORTH IT. Seriously, with much love to you, you are worth it.Heidi

Haven't checked in for a while. Hope everyone is "coping" will with their varying degrees of 4S symptoms.

I am having a mini panic episode right now, all because my mother in law is coming to babysit our son tonight so we can take our daughter to an awards banquet.

I know trying to get my daughter, who is 8, dressed and ready and the rest of us dressed and ready will be an issue.

BUT...

I just had a flash in my mind of me struggling to do my daughter's hair and get her dress on etc and having my mother in law CRACKING in my ear the whole time.

I fear that I'll be standing with the curling iron trying to get my daughter ready and having that last minute panic mode that is amplified by the CRACKING...

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Oh, I want a like button for this!

Girlfriend, I know we've said this to you so many times but it just bears repeating. Tell your husband to tell his Mom to spit out her gum just while you are there. Notice I use the word "tell" in both cases, not "ask.:Jeez, what if you get so upset your hand slips and the curling iron goes into the face. It's not worth worrying about how she'll take it, she's just got to be told point blank gum is not allowed in your house while you are there, period. Her medical condition can let her be gum free for 1 hour.You and your husband can do this. YOU ARE WORTH IT. Seriously, with much love to you, you are worth it.Heidi

Haven't checked in for a while. Hope everyone is "coping" will with their varying degrees of 4S symptoms.

I am having a mini panic episode right now, all because my mother in law is coming to babysit our son tonight so we can take our daughter to an awards banquet.

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Please, please stand up for yourself! You have the right to feel safe in your

own house!

-Kate

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> Haven't checked in for a while. Hope everyone is " coping " will with their

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coming to babysit our son tonight so we can take our daughter to an awards

banquet.

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Thank you Heidi. (I think I finally got the see the video clip of you from the TV show. I found it online ).We just got home from the awards banquet and my MIL is sitting the couch cracking and clicking gum. (That's why I'm hiding in the office typing this.) Again, I find it BEYOND BIZARRE that one would bother chewing gum at all when just sitting on a couch watching TV late at night. At least I had my daughter's hair done before she came over.I am all alone in this battle.Still.This is now over FIVE YEARS or so of her cracking and clicking. The woman has a problem, an

addiction, whatever. Again, might be a legit "medical condition" because of her "dry mouth" from being on so many medications. But I can't say anything because my husband won't back me up, she helps our family immensely and I'm trapped.I sometimes feel like I'm almost getting "used" to it. But it still hinders me from wanting to spend extra time with her. In recent months I've also experienced: a dinner out with the extended family ruined for me by her gum cracking (chewed right up to the meal being served, took gum out to eat, but RIGHT BACK IN after eating.) A concert at daughter's school was also tough for me because Grandma showed up cracking away.... )I thank you guys all for your support though. That's part of 4S. Sometimes we legitimately are TRAPPED with no recourse for confronting

the person who irritates us. Sometimes because of situation, circumstance, etc... We just... CAN NOT do anything. It is terrible... But that's why we have this online forum... We can share ways to cope... Even if the only ways to cope are avoiding the offensive sound person. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Saturday, February 18, 2012 6:12 PM Subject: Re: Hi again from the girl with

the Gum Cracking Mother in Law

Girlfriend, I know we've said this to you so many times but it just bears repeating. Tell your husband to tell his Mom to spit out her gum just while you are there. Notice I use the word "tell" in both cases, not "ask.:Jeez, what if you get so upset your hand slips and the curling iron goes into the face. It's not worth worrying about how she'll take it, she's just got to be told point blank gum is not allowed in your house while you are there, period. Her medical condition can let her be gum free for 1 hour.You and your husband can do this. YOU ARE WORTH IT. Seriously, with much love to you, you are worth it.Heidi

Haven't checked in for a while. Hope everyone is "coping" will with their varying degrees of 4S symptoms.

I am having a mini panic episode right now, all because my mother in law is coming to babysit our son tonight so we can take our daughter to an awards banquet.

I know trying to get my daughter, who is 8, dressed and ready and the rest of us dressed and ready will be an issue.

BUT...

I just had a flash in my mind of me struggling to do my daughter's hair and get her dress on etc and having my mother in law CRACKING in my ear the whole time.

I fear that I'll be standing with the curling iron trying to get my daughter ready and having that last minute panic mode that is amplified by the CRACKING...

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Maybe make a “rule” that there is no gum allowed in the house. Kids aren’t allowed, grown ups aren’t allowed, etc.

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I can't believe your husband mocks you for it. Don't you ever wish you could

bestow this affliction on someone just for a week or two? Just so they know how

it feels!?! I hate that you are not comfortable in your own home, I really feel

for you! Also, it makes me upset that most of us are embarrassed to let those

around us know about our condition! I'm like that too, but why?! I swear it's

like that old-fashioned rape mentality like we are somehow to blame for being

crazy, or too uptight, or irritable...it's bullsh*t!!!

Sorry, I just get so angry that we are the ones who have to live in this hell on

a daily basis but we are so concerned with not making other people uncomfortable

about it. You should tell husband to tell your MIL, like someone said before

(sorry didn't catch the name). I really hope it gets better for you, I probably

would have given up a long time ago if I were you..

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> Thanks....  I would love to set up some arbitrary " no gum " rule at my house,

but they'd probably ignore it and, even worse, mock me for it.

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> With family, it's often harder to set " rules and boundaries. "   Plus my

husband MOCKS me for my 4S and says I'm " crazy " and I should " just get over

it. "   Of course because it's his mother, he claims he " does not notice it " and

that I'm " imagining " her cracking gum.

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> Today the kids are off from school so my husband is taking the kids to the

Science Museum...  with his mother.  When I heard that she'd be going, I

immediately came up with an excuse NOT to go.  See, this gets in the way of

family time, but what can I do?  I know she'll be cracking and popping and

clicking away the whole time at the museum...

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> The only option I can do is AVOID it.  I said that I needed to spend time

alone at home.  I also routinely avoid the summer camping trips with them. 

Alone in the woods in a camper with my mother in law cracking gum...  I would

snap. 

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> Subject: Re: Hi again from the girl with the Gum Cracking

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> Maybe make a “rule†that there is no gum allowed in the house. Kids

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I'm glad we can be here for you. I feel terrible for you and your siutation. If you ever want us to do an intervention on your husband, I'm in!!Glad you got to see the Today show. 20/20 sounded like they really wanted to air a show on it but I haven't heard from then in 2 months. The more press for us, the better, to convince people like your husband. HeidiSent from my iPhone

Thank you Heidi. (I think I finally got the see the video clip of you from the TV show. I found it online ).We just got home from the awards banquet and my MIL is sitting the couch cracking and clicking gum. (That's why I'm hiding in the office typing this.) Again, I find it BEYOND BIZARRE that one would bother chewing gum at all when just sitting on a couch watching TV late at night. At least I had my daughter's hair done before she came over.I am all alone in this battle.Still.This is now over FIVE YEARS or so of her cracking and clicking. The woman has a problem, an

addiction, whatever. Again, might be a legit "medical condition" because of her "dry mouth" from being on so many medications. But I can't say anything because my husband won't back me up, she helps our family immensely and I'm trapped.I sometimes feel like I'm almost getting "used" to it. But it still hinders me from wanting to spend extra time with her. In recent months I've also experienced: a dinner out with the extended family ruined for me by her gum cracking (chewed right up to the meal being served, took gum out to eat, but RIGHT BACK IN after eating.) A concert at daughter's school was also tough for me because Grandma showed up cracking away.... )I thank you guys all for your support though. That's part of 4S. Sometimes we legitimately are TRAPPED with no recourse for confronting

the person who irritates us. Sometimes because of situation, circumstance, etc... We just... CAN NOT do anything. It is terrible... But that's why we have this online forum... We can share ways to cope... Even if the only ways to cope are avoiding the offensive sound person. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Saturday, February 18, 2012 6:12 PM Subject: Re: Hi again from the girl with

the Gum Cracking Mother in Law

Girlfriend, I know we've said this to you so many times but it just bears repeating. Tell your husband to tell his Mom to spit out her gum just while you are there. Notice I use the word "tell" in both cases, not "ask.:Jeez, what if you get so upset your hand slips and the curling iron goes into the face. It's not worth worrying about how she'll take it, she's just got to be told point blank gum is not allowed in your house while you are there, period. Her medical condition can let her be gum free for 1 hour.You and your husband can do this. YOU ARE WORTH IT. Seriously, with much love to you, you are worth it.Heidi

Haven't checked in for a while. Hope everyone is "coping" will with their varying degrees of 4S symptoms.

I am having a mini panic episode right now, all because my mother in law is coming to babysit our son tonight so we can take our daughter to an awards banquet.

I know trying to get my daughter, who is 8, dressed and ready and the rest of us dressed and ready will be an issue.

BUT...

I just had a flash in my mind of me struggling to do my daughter's hair and get her dress on etc and having my mother in law CRACKING in my ear the whole time.

I fear that I'll be standing with the curling iron trying to get my daughter ready and having that last minute panic mode that is amplified by the CRACKING...