Guest guest Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 My fiance has really bad habits of always clearing his throat, bitting his nails, and scrapping his teeth on his fork, moving his feet back and forth and hearing the swishing of his pants on the chair. I am not sure how to deal with this but i just get sooo angry and have to be in seperate rooms. I have always had this issue but havent lived with anyone that does all of them together all the time. I am trying to find a solution so i can continue to be with him. At times it feels like i could just be happier by myself but i dont want to lose him either. If anyone has any advice or ways of coping with similar situations please help!! Thank you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 The first thing I think any of us would ask is have you talked to him about it? I think the first step in dealing with any situation is to talk to the other person(s). Explaining the condition, your triggers and your reactions. It's best to keep in mind not to be confrontational and remember to use "I" statements. For me it's a process of training the other person because sometimes they don't realize they are doing something. I live at home, after my mom agreed to work with me on making our home more comfortable for me, we agreed that she would try to be more aware of what noises she makes and I'd calmly let her know when she's making a trigger sound, we eat dinner in front of the TV, she got rid of the clock that clicked too loud. It's really something both of you will have to work together to solve. You can't expect an instant change but if you can work together I think things do get easier.Amelia To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Tuesday, March 13, 2012 12:09 PM Subject: Frustrated My fiance has really bad habits of always clearing his throat, bitting his nails, and scrapping his teeth on his fork, moving his feet back and forth and hearing the swishing of his pants on the chair. I am not sure how to deal with this but i just get sooo angry and have to be in seperate rooms. I have always had this issue but havent lived with anyone that does all of them together all the time. I am trying to find a solution so i can continue to be with him. At times it feels like i could just be happier by myself but i dont want to lose him either. If anyone has any advice or ways of coping with similar situations please help!! Thank you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 13, 2012 Report Share Posted March 13, 2012 Hi I feel for you as I've been married for almost 3 years now and we have our challenges but routines seem to help ie: we eat at different times and when he eats I go on the computer and listen to music (Pandora) on my headphones. When we're both done eating which is around 8:00pm we watch TV together and get engrossed in the program, so I'm not as bothered by his foot wagging and throat clearing. It seems like when we deviate from that routine - problems arise. Hope that helpsAudrey To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Tuesday, March 13, 2012 12:09 PM Subject: Frustrated My fiance has really bad habits of always clearing his throat, bitting his nails, and scrapping his teeth on his fork, moving his feet back and forth and hearing the swishing of his pants on the chair. I am not sure how to deal with this but i just get sooo angry and have to be in seperate rooms. I have always had this issue but havent lived with anyone that does all of them together all the time. I am trying to find a solution so i can continue to be with him. At times it feels like i could just be happier by myself but i dont want to lose him either. If anyone has any advice or ways of coping with similar situations please help!! Thank you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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