Re: Happy to find you guys and have a name for it.....

[Guest guest]

Just finding out I am not alone with this makes me almost giddy sometimes. I'm

not crazy!

Welcome to the group, we all know just what you are talking about.

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> Hi. I have lived my life(since I was 7) being tortured by this problem. I have

lost relationships, lost money(commission jobs), struggled with relationships in

my family and been run out of rooms because, even though I try to hold in my

rage from the sounds of people eating or chewing gum or scraping plates,

etc....it can be seen in the look on my face and my body language.

> I can't stand the fact that I lose precious moments in life because I have to

leave the room. The thought of seriously injuring someone I love just because I

can hear them eating is a horrible struggle to have to live with.

> I wish there was a cure. My father said that he used to be like me when he was

younger and has always told me that I would " grow out of it. " I am 36 now and it

has only gotten worse. As a matter of fact, it has spread into other issues. My

anxiety is too hard to bare at times. I must have enough control that I don't

act on the need to choke the woman standing next to me in the super market that

is chewing and popping her gum like a cow. But I do play the scene over and over

in my head until they leave or I run away.

> It's nice to know that I'm not alone with these feelings....issues....this

disorder or whatever the heck kind of awful torture I live with.

>

> Nice to talk to you guys. :~) Cat

>

[Guest guest]

OMG you guys...wow!!! I totally thought I was alone with this problem, or that it was part of my family. A story my mom tells over and over again from the 70s is that my dad used to ask my mom not to invite his friend, Felipe, cups of coffee when he came over to play chess with my dad 'cause of the slirpping sounds he made. Also, we had awkward moments when we were invited to dinners. When someone in the other family made eating noises all of us as kids turned to look at my dad to see his reaction; he held the anger in...lol. Sadly enough, my older sister, and I are probably the only ones that acquired that S4 (?) from him (dad). It's sad, though, because as a teen, I used to make my little brother (7 yrs younger) make noise with his Dorito's bag while he crunched.

Poor kid, but that's what he had to do if he wanted to eat chips infront of me. Also, when my older brother wanted me to fight his battles with girls, I would tell him to atleast give someone a bag of chips to eat just so I could be mad enough to get angry and fight for him (ofcourse we were kids...lol.) Now I feel bad because my kids nor my hubby eat comfortable infront of me. My husband still crunches away, and I can't hold in my body language that says how angry I get, but he asks, "Do you want me to wet my chips, or something so you wont have to hear me?" I understand a person's gotta eat, and I ask God all the time to help me with this issue, and I guess that this forum, and the fact that I can communicate to people about it helps. I've been telling my family that I'm not the only one with this problem, and they have gotten a bit more understanding, instead of feeling bad about

the whole situation. One thing I tried was telling one of my daughters to crunch ice in my ears while I did the same to her...we were laughing, but I tried tolerating really bad. It worked because I was in a really good mood, but a couple of days after that she tried it again, and I had to tell her, "No doll...not today." And she stopped. I did that in a fun kinda' way so she doesn't think I'm an impatient jerk, 'cause the crunching sounds, or eating sounds make me act like one. As for the sound of a bunch of little kids screaming away at whatever excites them, I don't know how I will be dealing with that since I'm working on my credentials to be an elementary school teacher. I would rather teach high school, but that will be an even longer journey. I suppose I will have to communicate the S4 to the kids early on, and have a couple of rules about noise levels....I'm sure they'll understand if

I do it creatively. Subbing is a whole other story 'cause I get brand new kids every single day, different age, different grade, and different subject at different schools....soooo. Wooooo, I guess I needed to write, and vent, huh? I didn't know I was going to write this much. I wonder if anyone will read this.....lol. I would probably be lazy to :0)...If you all do read it, I hope you were entertained, and hope I learn from you all.

[Guest guest]

Welcome Karla -

I also thought it was just a " family thing " . I too inherited it from my father

and it looks like all 3 of my siblings have it too (I believe my brother and I

have it worse than my sisters). Do any of your siblings have it? Even to a

lesser degree? Are your kids showing any signs of it?

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> OMG you guys...wow!!! I totally thought I was alone with this problem, or that

it was part of my family.  A story my mom tells over and over again from the 70s

is that my dad used to ask my mom not to invite his friend, Felipe, cups of

coffee when he came over to play chess with my dad 'cause of the slirpping

sounds he made. Also, we had awkward moments when we were invited to dinners. 

When someone in the other family made eating noises all of us as kids turned to

look at my dad to see his reaction; he held the anger in...lol.  Sadly enough,

my older sister, and I are probably the only ones that acquired that S4 (?) from

him (dad). 

>  

> It's sad, though, because as a teen, I used to make my little brother (7 yrs

younger) make noise with his Dorito's bag while he crunched. Poor kid, but

that's what he had to do if he wanted to eat chips infront of me. 

>  

> Also, when my older brother wanted me to fight his battles with girls, I would

tell him to atleast give someone a bag of chips to eat just so I could be mad

enough to get angry and fight for him (ofcourse we were kids...lol.)

>  

> Now I feel bad because my kids nor my hubby eat comfortable infront of me.  My

husband still crunches away, and I can't hold in my body language that says how

angry I get, but he asks, " Do you want me to wet my chips, or something so you

wont have to hear me? " I understand a person's gotta eat, and I ask God all the

time to help me with this issue, and I guess that this forum, and the fact that

I can communicate to people about it helps. I've been telling my family that I'm

not the only one with this problem, and they have gotten a bit more

understanding, instead of feeling bad about the whole situation.

>  

> One thing I tried was telling one of my daughters to crunch ice in my ears

while I did the same to her...we were laughing, but I tried tolerating really

bad.  It worked because I was in a really good mood, but a couple of days after

that she tried it again, and I had to tell her, " No doll...not today. " And she

stopped. I did that in a fun kinda' way so she doesn't think I'm an impatient

jerk, 'cause the crunching sounds, or eating sounds make me act like one.

>  

> As for the sound of a bunch of little kids screaming away at whatever excites

them, I don't know how I will be dealing with that since I'm working on my

credentials to be an elementary school teacher. I would rather teach high

school, but that will be an even longer journey. I suppose I will have to

communicate the S4 to the kids early on, and have a couple of rules about noise

levels....I'm sure they'll understand if I do it creatively. Subbing is a whole

other story 'cause I get brand new kids every single day, different age,

different grade, and different subject at different schools....soooo. 

>  

> Wooooo, I guess I needed to write, and vent, huh? I didn't know I was going to

write this much.  I wonder if anyone will read this.....lol.  I would probably

be lazy to :0)...If you all do read it, I hope you were entertained, and hope I

learn from you all.

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