Re: Manners

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I've thought a lot about this. I'm big on manners, such as chewing with your

mouth closed, using napkins, etc... But, I realize that there are some foods

that just make noise no matter how quiet you try to be ie. chips and carrots.

But, for me, my sensitivity doesn't revolve around manners. Take my first

trigger for example. It was my father eating at the table. But, my father had

good manners... ate very quietly. Yet, it still drove me MAD. My worst

triggers include dogs barking, my dogs licking their paws and bluejays. Manners

have nothing to do with those since dogs do bark and lick and bluejays squawk.

That's nature. Funny thing is when I was watching 20/20 last night and they had

on the close up of people chomping and crunching with food hanging off their

mouths, I thought, " oh that's gross = bad manners " but the sounds never bothered

me. Go figure.

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> My wife asked me last night whether triggers are worse if they are considered

bad manners, such as smacking. To some extent, I think they are, but they're not

limited to that. It's doubly hard to suffer bad manners if the noise is also a

trigger.

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I find that for me personally, chewing or smacking on tv has no affect on me whatsoever. I could listen to that person all day and I would be perfectly okay. I don't know what it is but when it's in real life, like of that same person were then standing next to me, I'd most definitely rage or something. •Teardrops of a Flower•

I've thought a lot about this. I'm big on manners, such as chewing with your mouth closed, using napkins, etc... But, I realize that there are some foods that just make noise no matter how quiet you try to be ie. chips and carrots. But, for me, my sensitivity doesn't revolve around manners. Take my first trigger for example. It was my father eating at the table. But, my father had good manners... ate very quietly. Yet, it still drove me MAD. My worst triggers include dogs barking, my dogs licking their paws and bluejays. Manners have nothing to do with those since dogs do bark and lick and bluejays squawk. That's nature. Funny thing is when I was watching 20/20 last night and they had on the close up of people chomping and crunching with food hanging off their mouths, I thought, "oh that's gross = bad manners" but the sounds never bothered me. Go figure.

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> My wife asked me last night whether triggers are worse if they are considered bad manners, such as smacking. To some extent, I think they are, but they're not limited to that. It's doubly hard to suffer bad manners if the noise is also a trigger.

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My triggers/reaction is more extreme when associated with manners. Such as a dog barking....my axiety comes from knowing the neighbors are being extremely rude by not letting their dogs in and just making everyone else listen to the barking. Same with chewing. If I realize the person making the noises are, say a 2 year old child, who doesn't know any better, I am able to deal with it. Though, still upset that the parents don't attempt teaching manners.

Though some triggers are not associated with manners - but they always are "caused" by a human.

To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Monday, May 21, 2012 6:42 AMSubject: Re: Re: Manners

I find that for me personally, chewing or smacking on tv has no affect on me whatsoever. I could listen to that person all day and I would be perfectly okay. I don't know what it is but when it's in real life, like of that same person were then standing next to me, I'd most definitely rage or something. •Teardrops of a Flower•

I've thought a lot about this. I'm big on manners, such as chewing with your mouth closed, using napkins, etc... But, I realize that there are some foods that just make noise no matter how quiet you try to be ie. chips and carrots. But, for me, my sensitivity doesn't revolve around manners. Take my first trigger for example. It was my father eating at the table. But, my father had good manners... ate very quietly. Yet, it still drove me MAD. My worst triggers include dogs barking, my dogs licking their paws and bluejays. Manners have nothing to do with those since dogs do bark and lick and bluejays squawk. That's nature. Funny thing is when I was watching 20/20 last night and they had on the close up of people chomping and crunching with food hanging off their mouths, I thought, "oh that's gross = bad manners" but the sounds never bothered me. Go figure. >> My wife asked me last night whether triggers are worse if they are considered bad manners, such as smacking. To some extent, I think they are, but they're not limited to that. It's doubly hard to suffer bad manners if the noise is also a trigger.>

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When I was younger I know I always reminded people of manners when they were

chewing with their mouth open, but I think that was more of a coping technique I

used to make the sound stop and not have to admit to my insanity!

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> My wife asked me last night whether triggers are worse if they are considered

bad manners, such as smacking. To some extent, I think they are, but they're not

limited to that. It's doubly hard to suffer bad manners if the noise is also a

trigger.

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I think most of us are triggered by nasty manner noises, but not just those. My

triggers start out as something annoying, then expand from there, especially if

I have no means of escape and it happens regularly. For example, I had a rude

neighbor that beeped her remote car lock incessantly outside my bedroom window.

I mean, I would get ticked off as soon as I heard her pull up. But now, I hate

all remote car locks. I give people the nasty eye when they beep their car locks

next to me. I mean, it's so annoying! F*$k! Why do they need that LOUD obnoxious

reminder that they locked their g-damn cars?!

It's pissing me off just talking about it.

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> My wife asked me last night whether triggers are worse if they are considered

bad manners, such as smacking. To some extent, I think they are, but they're not

limited to that. It's doubly hard to suffer bad manners if the noise is also a

trigger.

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I'm new to this forum after watching the 20/20 show. My wife is obsessed with beeping the car every time she locks it. Although the noise doesn't bother me much, she tells me the difference between the first click and the second click is the activation of the car alarm with the second click/beep. I'm not sure if that helps, but sometimes with sounds, if I know the source and the meaning behind the source, then I may be able to deal with it better. Noises that bother me the most are whistling, popping/smacking of gum, and making animal noises at work. Actually, I can't stand the noises anywhere, but work is where I hear the noises the most. I am not sure if ear plugs are a benefit because the ear plugs drown out the shop noise (not a bother minus the

loudness) so I can hear the people smacking gum, whistling, or making animal sounds better. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Monday, May 21, 2012 4:28 PM Subject: Re: Manners

I think most of us are triggered by nasty manner noises, but not just those. My triggers start out as something annoying, then expand from there, especially if I have no means of escape and it happens regularly. For example, I had a rude neighbor that beeped her remote car lock incessantly outside my bedroom window. I mean, I would get ticked off as soon as I heard her pull up. But now, I hate all remote car locks. I give people the nasty eye when they beep their car locks next to me. I mean, it's so annoying! F*$k! Why do they need that LOUD obnoxious reminder that they locked their g-damn cars?!

It's pissing me off just talking about it.

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> My wife asked me last night whether triggers are worse if they are considered bad manners, such as smacking. To some extent, I think they are, but they're not limited to that. It's doubly hard to suffer bad manners if the noise is also a trigger.

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Why do they need an audible verification that the alarm is on? Shouldn't it just

be a given when they lock the door?

But my old neighbor - she would beep it repeatedly, like she was doing it over

and over, and I was paranoid she did it just to bother me, because she knew I

had complained.

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> > My wife asked me last night whether triggers are worse if they are

considered bad manners, such as smacking. To some extent, I think they are, but

they're not limited to that. It's doubly hard to suffer bad manners if the noise

is also a trigger.

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My understanding is the first time they click the button is to lock the doors. The second click sets the alarm. Believe me, I have always thought the same thing as you- people needing the "idiot alarm" to remind them they locked their car's doors. I can understand the the frustration with the obsessive-compulsive behavior. Who knows- she could be in a forum now complainging about her need to hear the alarm multiple times to feel comfortable the alarm is set. I have looked into completely dark rooms multiple times just to verify no lights are on. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Monday, May 21, 2012 5:05 PM Subject: Re: Manners

Why do they need an audible verification that the alarm is on? Shouldn't it just be a given when they lock the door?

But my old neighbor - she would beep it repeatedly, like she was doing it over and over, and I was paranoid she did it just to bother me, because she knew I had complained.

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> > My wife asked me last night whether triggers are worse if they are considered bad manners, such as smacking. To some extent, I think they are, but they're not limited to that. It's doubly hard to suffer bad manners if the noise is also a trigger.

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This is one of my bigger triggers. I have written letters to CA legislators asking that they tell car companies to stop using horns as car alarm indicators as it is a violation of the CA vehicle code. I cited to noise pollution and the book that talks about how bad noise pollution is for humans. I was not at all surprised that never got any responses. But it felt good to complain. HeidiSent from my iPhone

Why do they need an audible verification that the alarm is on? Shouldn't it just be a given when they lock the door?

But my old neighbor - she would beep it repeatedly, like she was doing it over and over, and I was paranoid she did it just to bother me, because she knew I had complained.

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> > My wife asked me last night whether triggers are worse if they are considered bad manners, such as smacking. To some extent, I think they are, but they're not limited to that. It's doubly hard to suffer bad manners if the noise is also a trigger.

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