Re: Hypocritical Disorder? Phantom sounds

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I can tolerate noises from strangers longer than I can tolerate them from people I have an emotional attachment to. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Sunday, May 20, 2012 3:47 PM Subject: Hypocritical Disorder? Phantom sounds"

I am new here! Just joined today. I wanted to vent about my condition and how terrible I have felt about my "unreasonable demands" that plagued my family life growing up. I often times heard the sounds even when they weren't occurring. I blamed mostly my sister when I was really young but the blame slowly shifted towards my mother. Other people could smack while chewing and I would feel the rage, but when my sister or my mother made the sound the rage would be boiling and violent thoughts, I would never mention, occurred!

Does other people have this issue where the problem seems to be worse with the people your closest too. A pattern I notice is when a person is closer to me, and I have vocalized my problem to them, they just blow it off as if I am just an "unreasonable person". This in turn makes the sounds worse for me when it's coming from these people. If I've known them longer the worse the sounds are amplified!

Finally does anyone have the issue of hearing phantom sounds from these people close to you. It seemed that after smacking occurred I swear the sound kept on after they removed their gum to try and calm me down. I would put head sets on and listen to loud music but I swear I heard the sound, even if it wasn't occurring!

If I here the sound from total strangers I still get extremely enraged, but only with the real bad triggers, gum chewing and the worst of the worst gum popping (or the combination of two ... I cringe thinking of the pop followed by opened mouth chew chew chew! It seems the really loud gum chewers are the talkative, constantly gossiping on the phone, high "Fran The Nanny" like voice/attitudes. Perhaps I am only noticing the sounds from people like this for a reason. However, I do here the sounds from other people as well, I just get annoyed more when its emanating from a certain "class" of people.

Does anyone also have the phantom sound issue? Like I said, I think it's linked to the idea that these people should no better but they don't seem to either care or just blow it off like it's not their problem which makes their offending sounds worse and more amplified.

I feel so hypocritical, or like I have a controlling problem. The only thing I ever try to control is involved with this disorder, I am otherwise an extremely laid back do what you will type of guy!

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Yep, me too--because I think we expect family and friends who know it bothers us to be respectful. My mother almost always threw away her chewing gum when I was around. My sister-in-law however, seemed to start chewing just to irritate me. My youngest brother is much more sensitive to the issue than the other two and yet one of his kids is a loud eater and she's 29. It just doesn't seem as important to people who don't hear the sounds. My youngest brother does say he believes he is much more aware of loud eaters because of me but doesn't thank me that I made him more aware. I still say some of it is just good manners. To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Sunday, May 20, 2012 3:16 PM Subject: Re: Hypocritical Disorder? Phantom sounds"

I can tolerate noises from strangers longer than I can tolerate them from people I have an emotional attachment to. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Sunday, May 20, 2012 3:47 PM Subject: Hypocritical Disorder? Phantom sounds"

I am new here! Just joined today. I wanted to vent about my condition and how terrible I have felt about my "unreasonable demands" that plagued my family life growing up. I often times heard the sounds even when they weren't occurring. I blamed mostly my sister when I was really young but the blame slowly shifted towards my mother. Other people could smack while chewing and I would feel the rage, but when my sister or my mother made the sound the rage would be boiling and violent thoughts, I would never mention, occurred!

Does other people have this issue where the problem seems to be worse with the people your closest too. A pattern I notice is when a person is closer to me, and I have vocalized my problem to them, they just blow it off as if I am just an "unreasonable person". This in turn makes the sounds worse for me when it's coming from these people. If I've known them longer the worse the sounds are amplified!

Finally does anyone have the issue of hearing phantom sounds from these people close to you. It seemed that after smacking occurred I swear the sound kept on after they removed their gum to try and calm me down. I would put head sets on and listen to loud music but I swear I heard the sound, even if it wasn't occurring!

If I here the sound from total strangers I still get extremely enraged, but only with the real bad triggers, gum chewing and the worst of the worst gum popping (or the combination of two ... I cringe thinking of the pop followed by opened mouth chew chew chew! It seems the really loud gum chewers are the talkative, constantly gossiping on the phone, high "Fran The Nanny" like voice/attitudes. Perhaps I am only noticing the sounds from people like this for a reason. However, I do here the sounds from other people as well, I just get annoyed more when its emanating from a certain "class" of people.

Does anyone also have the phantom sound issue? Like I said, I think it's linked to the idea that these people should no better but they don't seem to either care or just blow it off like it's not their problem which makes their offending sounds worse and more amplified.

I feel so hypocritical, or like I have a controlling problem. The only thing I ever try to control is involved with this disorder, I am otherwise an extremely laid back do what you will type of guy!

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A guy sitting next to me on the train was softly sniffling and it was driving me

crazy so I put my headphones on and turned the music up but I could still hear

him! I'm not sure if I was really hearing him though maybe it was just replaying

in my head because I'm pretty sure I couldn't have heard that over my music.

>

> I am new here! Just joined today. I wanted to vent about my condition and

how terrible I have felt about my " unreasonable demands " that plagued my family

life growing up. I often times heard the sounds even when they weren't

occurring. I blamed mostly my sister when I was really young but the blame

slowly shifted towards my mother. Other people could smack while chewing and I

would feel the rage, but when my sister or my mother made the sound the rage

would be boiling and violent thoughts, I would never mention, occurred!

>

> Does other people have this issue where the problem seems to be worse with the

people your closest too. A pattern I notice is when a person is closer to me,

and I have vocalized my problem to them, they just blow it off as if I am just

an " unreasonable person " . This in turn makes the sounds worse for me when it's

coming from these people. If I've known them longer the worse the sounds are

amplified!

>

> Finally does anyone have the issue of hearing phantom sounds from these people

close to you. It seemed that after smacking occurred I swear the sound kept on

after they removed their gum to try and calm me down. I would put head sets on

and listen to loud music but I swear I heard the sound, even if it wasn't

occurring!

>

> If I here the sound from total strangers I still get extremely enraged, but

only with the real bad triggers, gum chewing and the worst of the worst gum

popping (or the combination of two ... I cringe thinking of the pop followed by

opened mouth chew chew chew! It seems the really loud gum chewers are the

talkative, constantly gossiping on the phone, high " Fran The Nanny " like

voice/attitudes. Perhaps I am only noticing the sounds from people like this

for a reason. However, I do here the sounds from other people as well, I just

get annoyed more when its emanating from a certain " class " of people.

>

> Does anyone also have the phantom sound issue? Like I said, I think it's

linked to the idea that these people should no better but they don't seem to

either care or just blow it off like it's not their problem which makes their

offending sounds worse and more amplified.

>

> I feel so hypocritical, or like I have a controlling problem. The only thing

I ever try to control is involved with this disorder, I am otherwise an

extremely laid back do what you will type of guy!

>

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Hi - Welcome to the group!  I just joined a few weeks ago and people here are really nice and supportive too.My mom constantly called me " intolerant " when I lost it because of the noises she and my brother were making.  I couldn't even be in the same room as my father but because it would have pissed him off if I told him that, I would make excuses like needing to get another glass of juice during dinner, or putting the dishes in the sink during dinner to let them soak.  Anything I could think up to get me away from the table and from his eating noises.  

One of the things we all seem to have in common is that those closest to us bother us the most.  I've noticed that when I meet someone new things seem to go relatively well for a few months, and then, when we settle into an intimate cozy relationship, all of a sudden, something clicks and I can hear the other person.  It's always sad when I realize the new person is being added to my friends and family list of people I can't stand to be around.

I recognize the phantom sound thing too, I can't stop looking and listening once it starts.  I don't think you're hypocritical, or controlling.  Sherri

 

I am new here! Just joined today. I wanted to vent about my condition and how terrible I have felt about my " unreasonable demands " that plagued my family life growing up. I often times heard the sounds even when they weren't occurring. I blamed mostly my sister when I was really young but the blame slowly shifted towards my mother. Other people could smack while chewing and I would feel the rage, but when my sister or my mother made the sound the rage would be boiling and violent thoughts, I would never mention, occurred!

Does other people have this issue where the problem seems to be worse with the people your closest too. A pattern I notice is when a person is closer to me, and I have vocalized my problem to them, they just blow it off as if I am just an " unreasonable person " . This in turn makes the sounds worse for me when it's coming from these people. If I've known them longer the worse the sounds are amplified!

Finally does anyone have the issue of hearing phantom sounds from these people close to you. It seemed that after smacking occurred I swear the sound kept on after they removed their gum to try and calm me down. I would put head sets on and listen to loud music but I swear I heard the sound, even if it wasn't occurring!

If I here the sound from total strangers I still get extremely enraged, but only with the real bad triggers, gum chewing and the worst of the worst gum popping (or the combination of two ... I cringe thinking of the pop followed by opened mouth chew chew chew! It seems the really loud gum chewers are the talkative, constantly gossiping on the phone, high " Fran The Nanny " like voice/attitudes. Perhaps I am only noticing the sounds from people like this for a reason. However, I do here the sounds from other people as well, I just get annoyed more when its emanating from a certain " class " of people.

Does anyone also have the phantom sound issue? Like I said, I think it's linked to the idea that these people should no better but they don't seem to either care or just blow it off like it's not their problem which makes their offending sounds worse and more amplified.

I feel so hypocritical, or like I have a controlling problem. The only thing I ever try to control is involved with this disorder, I am otherwise an extremely laid back do what you will type of guy!