Guest guest Posted June 5, 2012 Report Share Posted June 5, 2012 Tam, I could not have said it better. There is no 'the one', really. Every relationship comes with pros and cons, sacrifices, challenges and compromises. The best thing you can do is really get to know yourself well so you can easily determine what is compromisable and what isn't in a relationship - what you really want and need out of a relationship, so you can base a long term commitment on those things as well as attraction and romance (which are important). If you aren't attracted to your boyfriend, this is the first place to recognize this guy isn't suitable for long term. For me, miso was never a deal breaker. The ones who were keepers (for me) worked with me on my sound issues and loved me anyway. From what I have read, miso does tend to get worse with those we are closest too - but you should be able to recover from the trigger and still love them just as much as ever. If the trigger is 'always there' - then run for the hills. Take your time, be young, do the things you can't do when you are tied to someone else, get to know yourself and love your freedom. Stac From: karmelrio To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Tuesday, June 5, 2012 8:48 AM Subject: Re: Relationships I completely agree, Mike. , if you're not attracted to him anymore, there's your answer, misophonia or not. If I could offer you some advice from 30 years down the road...reconsider the romantic concept of "the one." There are over seven billion people in the world. How likely is it that any of us would ever meet "the one" at any point in our lifetime, much less in our hometown or at our school??! The reality is that you will meet any number of potentially compatible mates. I personally have had long-term relationships with some extraordinary men over the years, each of them a fabulous individual, each bringing pros and cons into the relationship - as I did. Sometimes the compatibility works for the long haul, and sometimes it doesn't. We live and learn, and we love again - not necessarily just once, which might be the romantic ideal, but which simply isn't reality for so many of us. And guess what? It's not the end of the world. ;-) Please give it some thought. -Tam > > Since you are no longer attracted to him, your decision is made. > > A lifetime is a LONG time to spend with someone whose normal activities are triggers for you. Move on. > > > > Relationships > > > > > > Hello all! I am 19, have been in a relationship with a great guy (who is 23) for about 5 months now. At first everything was fabulous and i thought he was the one. But recently EVERYTHING he does drives me crazy! He understand my condition (4s) and is cautious of what he does. But now even smaller sounds of his are beginning to bother me. Like when he sings country music, and the "twang" in his voice makes me want to strangle > Him. Also, I am no longer attracted to him. Like the thought of having sexual relations just makes my stomach turn..... Has anyone else had this experience w 4s before? And when you finally found "the one" were your triggers worse w them, or better bc you loved them? Or was it the same with every relationship and when you found the one to settle down with you just worked harder at the relationship to not let it fail because of miso? Or do y'all think it has nothing to do w miso and we just aren't meant to be ? Soooo confused :/ - P<3 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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