Re: being triggered right now

[Guest guest]

This doesnt happen all the time, but i've notice certain noise triggers when i

am stressed or trying to complete a task and pressured to get it done and if the

noises happen during these times i experience reactions and others are just

irritation and i have a reaction.

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> I just got back from walking the dogs and settle in the living room to work on

the computer when I heard it - the darn bass from the radio. I could've sworn

that neighbor already washed their car yesterday, so maybe it's another car or

another neighbor (we're in a townhome unit), but all I hear is boom boom boom.

So I took my laptop to the only room on the opposite side of the house and

closed the door and put earplugs in, but at times I still hear it a little

through the window.

>

> I must be relatively stress-free, because it's not an immediate rage, but

rather I noticed it and know that it will only build up with time. So I had

time to think about what I did last time and I'm trying it, but not sure how

long I can keep myself busy. Since they are washing a car, that means this is

temporary. I'm thinking in a half hour they should hopefully be done. Then

again, they like to wax and lolligag and do who knows what. Not the smartest

people in the world, either, since they're calling for rain for tomorrow. [eye

roll]

>

> Sometimes I wonder if I only hear triggers after I've taken steps to minimize

the response because I know they're there, and it's more psychological at that

point than auditory?

>

> I've definitely thought about moving to an area where I wouldn't have

neighbors all around me, but rural living isn't going to work with our jobs. My

hubs already commutes nearly an hour and a half one way, and moving into a more

rural area (we're in the suburbs) would make that commute impossible. I, on the

other hand, could walk to work if they only built sidewalks and put in

pedestrian crosswalks and lights.

>

> In a way, I try to keep my eye on the prize - retirement away from these

!@#$%^ & *( noisy people.

>

[Guest guest]

It's making me think of ADD almost, the inability to focus on the task at hand,

either when it's gradual or when the reaction is immediate. The trigger becomes

my whole world for that moment, and not in a good way.

....

Looks like sitting in this back room is helping, as my blood pressure and heart

rate don't seem to be going up. It's been a half hour since I noticed the

trigger and moved. Thanks for being here.

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> > I just got back from walking the dogs and settle in the living room to work

on the computer when I heard it - the darn bass from the radio. I could've

sworn that neighbor already washed their car yesterday, so maybe it's another

car or another neighbor (we're in a townhome unit), but all I hear is boom boom

boom. So I took my laptop to the only room on the opposite side of the house

and closed the door and put earplugs in, but at times I still hear it a little

through the window.

> >

> > I must be relatively stress-free, because it's not an immediate rage, but

rather I noticed it and know that it will only build up with time. So I had

time to think about what I did last time and I'm trying it, but not sure how

long I can keep myself busy. Since they are washing a car, that means this is

temporary. I'm thinking in a half hour they should hopefully be done. Then

again, they like to wax and lolligag and do who knows what. Not the smartest

people in the world, either, since they're calling for rain for tomorrow. [eye

roll]

> >

> > Sometimes I wonder if I only hear triggers after I've taken steps to

minimize the response because I know they're there, and it's more psychological

at that point than auditory?

> >

> > I've definitely thought about moving to an area where I wouldn't have

neighbors all around me, but rural living isn't going to work with our jobs. My

hubs already commutes nearly an hour and a half one way, and moving into a more

rural area (we're in the suburbs) would make that commute impossible. I, on the

other hand, could walk to work if they only built sidewalks and put in

pedestrian crosswalks and lights.

> >

> > In a way, I try to keep my eye on the prize - retirement away from these

!@#$%^ & *( noisy people.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Karolina - I have a neighbor who drums constantly - the bass drives me insane.  I get into a huge rage when I hear it.  The only thing I've found that works is to put on the radio relatively loud in my house.  The bass of my own radio drowns out the bass from the neighbor - and for some reason, I'm okay with bass that I control.  

It would probably be a complete nightmare if I were in a relationship but I have pretty much given up on that.  I often have the radio on in the living room quite loud, and then the TV on in the sitting room, also at quite a high level.  The combo blocks out dogs barking, drumming, motorcycles, construction noise etc.  Little loud but it works for me.

 

I just got back from walking the dogs and settle in the living room to work on the computer when I heard it - the darn bass from the radio. I could've sworn that neighbor already washed their car yesterday, so maybe it's another car or another neighbor (we're in a townhome unit), but all I hear is boom boom boom. So I took my laptop to the only room on the opposite side of the house and closed the door and put earplugs in, but at times I still hear it a little through the window.

I must be relatively stress-free, because it's not an immediate rage, but rather I noticed it and know that it will only build up with time. So I had time to think about what I did last time and I'm trying it, but not sure how long I can keep myself busy. Since they are washing a car, that means this is temporary. I'm thinking in a half hour they should hopefully be done. Then again, they like to wax and lolligag and do who knows what. Not the smartest people in the world, either, since they're calling for rain for tomorrow. [eye roll]

Sometimes I wonder if I only hear triggers after I've taken steps to minimize the response because I know they're there, and it's more psychological at that point than auditory?

I've definitely thought about moving to an area where I wouldn't have neighbors all around me, but rural living isn't going to work with our jobs. My hubs already commutes nearly an hour and a half one way, and moving into a more rural area (we're in the suburbs) would make that commute impossible. I, on the other hand, could walk to work if they only built sidewalks and put in pedestrian crosswalks and lights.

In a way, I try to keep my eye on the prize - retirement away from these !@#$%^ & *( noisy people.

[Guest guest]

Hi Sherri. It does sound familiar to have a sense of control over the situation

as being helpful...I discovered in my anger management classes (that I took

before I understood that my rages were being triggered by 4S) that anger is a

secondary emotion, and I figured that for me, lack of control often led directly

into anger. I guess the problem is that I have to be flexible with what I'm

trying to do. I prefer peace and quiet, so adding my own noise (like a white

noise machine) is counterproductive. If I'm trying to grade papers, I can't do

it with anyone's music blasting, my own included. So it sounds like I'll need

to adjust my sense of control over when I do what. Sleep also - this one sucks,

because I need a lot of sleep to feel rested. But since I can't sleep with bass

on, I'd have to get up and do something else just to keep from going insane. I

don't like it, but I'm slowly starting to see how I need to control what I CAN

control, and quit whining about it

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> >

> > I just got back from walking the dogs and settle in the living room to

> > work on the computer when I heard it - the darn bass from the radio. I

> > could've sworn that neighbor already washed their car yesterday, so maybe

> > it's another car or another neighbor (we're in a townhome unit), but all I

> > hear is boom boom boom. So I took my laptop to the only room on the

> > opposite side of the house and closed the door and put earplugs in, but at

> > times I still hear it a little through the window.

> >

> > I must be relatively stress-free, because it's not an immediate rage, but

> > rather I noticed it and know that it will only build up with time. So I had

> > time to think about what I did last time and I'm trying it, but not sure

> > how long I can keep myself busy. Since they are washing a car, that means

> > this is temporary. I'm thinking in a half hour they should hopefully be

> > done. Then again, they like to wax and lolligag and do who knows what. Not

> > the smartest people in the world, either, since they're calling for rain

> > for tomorrow. [eye roll]

> >

> > Sometimes I wonder if I only hear triggers after I've taken steps to

> > minimize the response because I know they're there, and it's more

> > psychological at that point than auditory?

> >

> > I've definitely thought about moving to an area where I wouldn't have

> > neighbors all around me, but rural living isn't going to work with our

> > jobs. My hubs already commutes nearly an hour and a half one way, and

> > moving into a more rural area (we're in the suburbs) would make that

> > commute impossible. I, on the other hand, could walk to work if they only

> > built sidewalks and put in pedestrian crosswalks and lights.

> >

> > In a way, I try to keep my eye on the prize - retirement away from these

> > !@#$%^ & *( noisy people.

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Karolina, I understand, there's nothing like peace and quiet.  Sleep was a real problem for me too - I am such a zombie without a good night's sleep.  Have you tried sleeping with ear plugs?  I use Ohropax, I've tried them all and this one seems to be the best one for me - I like the fact that they feel so secure.  It's a personal preference as to the type and brand of course, and there are lots of people in this group who have been able to obtain custom-made ear plugs, which also sounds like a great idea.  Ear plugs have helped me to sleep soundly and to sleep through noises like cars, rain, noisy parties at neighborhood houses, etc.

 

Hi Sherri. It does sound familiar to have a sense of control over the situation as being helpful...I discovered in my anger management classes (that I took before I understood that my rages were being triggered by 4S) that anger is a secondary emotion, and I figured that for me, lack of control often led directly into anger. I guess the problem is that I have to be flexible with what I'm trying to do. I prefer peace and quiet, so adding my own noise (like a white noise machine) is counterproductive. If I'm trying to grade papers, I can't do it with anyone's music blasting, my own included. So it sounds like I'll need to adjust my sense of control over when I do what. Sleep also - this one sucks, because I need a lot of sleep to feel rested. But since I can't sleep with bass on, I'd have to get up and do something else just to keep from going insane. I don't like it, but I'm slowly starting to see how I need to control what I CAN control, and quit whining about it

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> > **

> >

> >

> > I just got back from walking the dogs and settle in the living room to

> > work on the computer when I heard it - the darn bass from the radio. I

> > could've sworn that neighbor already washed their car yesterday, so maybe

> > it's another car or another neighbor (we're in a townhome unit), but all I

> > hear is boom boom boom. So I took my laptop to the only room on the

> > opposite side of the house and closed the door and put earplugs in, but at

> > times I still hear it a little through the window.

> >

> > I must be relatively stress-free, because it's not an immediate rage, but

> > rather I noticed it and know that it will only build up with time. So I had

> > time to think about what I did last time and I'm trying it, but not sure

> > how long I can keep myself busy. Since they are washing a car, that means

> > this is temporary. I'm thinking in a half hour they should hopefully be

> > done. Then again, they like to wax and lolligag and do who knows what. Not

> > the smartest people in the world, either, since they're calling for rain

> > for tomorrow. [eye roll]

> >

> > Sometimes I wonder if I only hear triggers after I've taken steps to

> > minimize the response because I know they're there, and it's more

> > psychological at that point than auditory?

> >

> > I've definitely thought about moving to an area where I wouldn't have

> > neighbors all around me, but rural living isn't going to work with our

> > jobs. My hubs already commutes nearly an hour and a half one way, and

> > moving into a more rural area (we're in the suburbs) would make that

> > commute impossible. I, on the other hand, could walk to work if they only

> > built sidewalks and put in pedestrian crosswalks and lights.

> >

> > In a way, I try to keep my eye on the prize - retirement away from these

> > !@#$%^ & *( noisy people.

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Sherri. Yes, I do sleep with earplugs. But it doesn't drown out the trigger

noises for me. It only provides the peace and quiet I need to fall asleep if

there aren't the trigger sounds going on. But I've only tried two different

kinds of earplugs, and this group is the first time I've heard of custom made

earplugs, so I'll look into that option. Actually, I think (hope!) that the

Bose noise cancelling headphones will do the trick and allow me to sleep through

even the triggers. That would be ideal, because it would mean my hubby and I

could share a bed again. And that I wouldn't be at the mercy of our neighbors'

plans or my dog's whims as to when I could sleep and for how long.

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> > > > I just got back from walking the dogs and settle in the living room to

> > > > work on the computer when I heard it - the darn bass from the radio. I

> > > > could've sworn that neighbor already washed their car yesterday, so

> > maybe

> > > > it's another car or another neighbor (we're in a townhome unit), but

> > all I

> > > > hear is boom boom boom. So I took my laptop to the only room on the

> > > > opposite side of the house and closed the door and put earplugs in,

> > but at

> > > > times I still hear it a little through the window.

> > > >

> > > > I must be relatively stress-free, because it's not an immediate rage,

> > but

> > > > rather I noticed it and know that it will only build up with time. So

> > I had

> > > > time to think about what I did last time and I'm trying it, but not

> > sure

> > > > how long I can keep myself busy. Since they are washing a car, that

> > means

> > > > this is temporary. I'm thinking in a half hour they should hopefully be

> > > > done. Then again, they like to wax and lolligag and do who knows what.

> > Not

> > > > the smartest people in the world, either, since they're calling for

> > rain

> > > > for tomorrow. [eye roll]

> > > >

> > > > Sometimes I wonder if I only hear triggers after I've taken steps to

> > > > minimize the response because I know they're there, and it's more

> > > > psychological at that point than auditory?

> > > >

> > > > I've definitely thought about moving to an area where I wouldn't have

> > > > neighbors all around me, but rural living isn't going to work with our

> > > > jobs. My hubs already commutes nearly an hour and a half one way, and

> > > > moving into a more rural area (we're in the suburbs) would make that

> > > > commute impossible. I, on the other hand, could walk to work if they

> > only

> > > > built sidewalks and put in pedestrian crosswalks and lights.

> > > >

> > > > In a way, I try to keep my eye on the prize - retirement away from

> > these

> > > > !@#$%^ & *( noisy people.

> > > >

> > > >

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