Re: First Post - Many questions

[Guest guest]

I would say the first thing you need to do is buy him some headphones. Noise

canceling headphones will greatly reduce the stress in your household. Most of

the time I can get away with wearing some $40 Sony headphones. They cancel out

the eating sounds but still allow me to hear and participate in most of the

conversation. They come with an on/off switch that boosts the noise cancelation

that I just switch on if things get louder.

I bet he hasn't been to see a movie in a theater in a while - I usually take my

Headphones with me and it works the same way. It blocks all of the popcorn

crunching and wrappers crinkling but still allow for great sound from the movie.

The theaters also provide headphones for the hearing impaired at no charge- they

work great too.

If the cheaper headphones don't work you might need to spring for the expensive

ones, but I'd try the Sony ones first. Could save you $250.

Sent from Tra's iPhone

>

> Hi all -

>

> For the past 5-6 mths., my husband and I thought our 11 yr. old son was just

being a typical, annoying kid at dinner. He started crying uncontrollably at

the sound of us eating. You could often hear, " get over it " , " cut the bologna

and eat! " coming from our mouths. We really just thought he was pushing our

buttons. Dinner, what has been traditionally our time to reconvene, has become

our most dreaded part of the day.

>

> I actually saw the 20/20 segment a couple of weeks ago and yelled for my

husband to come in. It is our son totally and completely. I asked him the

following day what it's like listening to us eat at dinner and he said, " louder

and more annoying than you know " . He was able to explain that the reason why it

doesn't bother him at school is because it's so loud in the lunchroom. Hm.

>

> Over the past 2 weeks, we've created a sign that lets us know when he's upset

at the table (more often than not). I'd also been concerned that he's leaving

the table to go to the bathroom during dinner. I was thinking that he was

throwing food out or, God forbid, something worse. Just last night I discovered

that his flights from the table to the bathroom during dinner have not been for

that, but to escape the sounds. He was standing in the corner with tears in his

eyes. My heart breaks for him.

>

> My parents noticed the same behavior at their house, too. It's all started to

make sense.

>

> We're actually thinking of bringing a TV into the kitchen to distract him, or

having him eat earlier than us now. However, is it something that I should

bring up to his pediatrician? I have no idea where to go with this and I just

know that I feel so badly for him and what he must be going through.

>

> I live in the metro NYC area - one would think there would be some resource to

help in this?

>

> Any thoughts/advice would be greatly appreciated. And, as a P.S., according

to my husband I'm the same way (I am...), but not to the same extreme as our

son. Interesting.

>

> Thank you!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

And earplugs too, which made my life tolerable as a child. I use Hearos

Ultimate Softness Series, but there are many kinds and your son will feel

empowered if you buy many types and let him experiment.

Best hope,

---- wrote:

> I would say the first thing you need to do is buy him some headphones. Noise

canceling headphones will greatly reduce the stress in your household. Most of

the time I can get away with wearing some $40 Sony headphones. They cancel out

the eating sounds but still allow me to hear and participate in most of the

conversation. They come with an on/off switch that boosts the noise cancelation

that I just switch on if things get louder.

>

> I bet he hasn't been to see a movie in a theater in a while - I usually take

my Headphones with me and it works the same way. It blocks all of the popcorn

crunching and wrappers crinkling but still allow for great sound from the movie.

The theaters also provide headphones for the hearing impaired at no charge- they

work great too.

>

> If the cheaper headphones don't work you might need to spring for the

expensive ones, but I'd try the Sony ones first. Could save you $250.

>

> Sent from Tra's iPhone

>

>

> >

> > Hi all -

> >

> > For the past 5-6 mths., my husband and I thought our 11 yr. old son was just

being a typical, annoying kid at dinner. He started crying uncontrollably at

the sound of us eating. You could often hear, " get over it " , " cut the bologna

and eat! " coming from our mouths. We really just thought he was pushing our

buttons. Dinner, what has been traditionally our time to reconvene, has become

our most dreaded part of the day.

> >

> > I actually saw the 20/20 segment a couple of weeks ago and yelled for my

husband to come in. It is our son totally and completely. I asked him the

following day what it's like listening to us eat at dinner and he said, " louder

and more annoying than you know " . He was able to explain that the reason why it

doesn't bother him at school is because it's so loud in the lunchroom. Hm.

> >

> > Over the past 2 weeks, we've created a sign that lets us know when he's

upset at the table (more often than not). I'd also been concerned that he's

leaving the table to go to the bathroom during dinner. I was thinking that he

was throwing food out or, God forbid, something worse. Just last night I

discovered that his flights from the table to the bathroom during dinner have

not been for that, but to escape the sounds. He was standing in the corner with

tears in his eyes. My heart breaks for him.

> >

> > My parents noticed the same behavior at their house, too. It's all started

to make sense.

> >

> > We're actually thinking of bringing a TV into the kitchen to distract him,

or having him eat earlier than us now. However, is it something that I should

bring up to his pediatrician? I have no idea where to go with this and I just

know that I feel so badly for him and what he must be going through.

> >

> > I live in the metro NYC area - one would think there would be some resource

to help in this?

> >

> > Any thoughts/advice would be greatly appreciated. And, as a P.S., according

to my husband I'm the same way (I am...), but not to the same extreme as our

son. Interesting.

> >

> > Thank you!

> >

> >

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

Poor guy : ( Why not let him eat in a separate room or in front of the TV?

I know you probably want dinner time to be family time, but if it's really that

aggravating for him, it might be better to have a family movie or something

afterwards on the couch, minus the eating popcorn.

It really is louder for us, and more annoying than you can imagine.

I just moved into a new apartment to get away from neighbor noise, and my new

place is above a bakery that fires up at 3am (didn't know til I moved in). And I

complained twice already in a week, about the noise. My landlord describes the

sound as a " low hum " and says I'm the first renter to complain in 34 years. Well

it's no low hum to me - it's more like a dryer with a pair of shoes in it - and

I can feel it rumbling my floor and bed. I can't imagine how people DON'T hear

it like I do! But no one seems to understand that - that I hear it differently.

And that's why it's so hard to not come off as crazy or just nit picky.

>

> Hi all -

>

> For the past 5-6 mths., my husband and I thought our 11 yr. old son was just

being a typical, annoying kid at dinner. He started crying uncontrollably at

the sound of us eating. You could often hear, " get over it " , " cut the bologna

and eat! " coming from our mouths. We really just thought he was pushing our

buttons. Dinner, what has been traditionally our time to reconvene, has become

our most dreaded part of the day.

>

> I actually saw the 20/20 segment a couple of weeks ago and yelled for my

husband to come in. It is our son totally and completely. I asked him the

following day what it's like listening to us eat at dinner and he said, " louder

and more annoying than you know " . He was able to explain that the reason why it

doesn't bother him at school is because it's so loud in the lunchroom. Hm.

>

> Over the past 2 weeks, we've created a sign that lets us know when he's upset

at the table (more often than not). I'd also been concerned that he's leaving

the table to go to the bathroom during dinner. I was thinking that he was

throwing food out or, God forbid, something worse. Just last night I discovered

that his flights from the table to the bathroom during dinner have not been for

that, but to escape the sounds. He was standing in the corner with tears in his

eyes. My heart breaks for him.

>

> My parents noticed the same behavior at their house, too. It's all started to

make sense.

>

> We're actually thinking of bringing a TV into the kitchen to distract him, or

having him eat earlier than us now. However, is it something that I should

bring up to his pediatrician? I have no idea where to go with this and I just

know that I feel so badly for him and what he must be going through.

>

> I live in the metro NYC area - one would think there would be some resource to

help in this?

>

> Any thoughts/advice would be greatly appreciated. And, as a P.S., according

to my husband I'm the same way (I am...), but not to the same extreme as our

son. Interesting.

>

> Thank you!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,I understand what your son is going through. I had the same crying spells when I was a child - only difference was that I didn't think I could tell my parents. Your son is lucky to have two wonderful parents who understand. Why not empower your son and give HIM the choice as to what he would like while providing alternatives that work for everyone; ie headphones, TV during dinner etc. I know that he is still quite young but this will enable him to start coming up with his own coping mechanisms and solutions for the future. I have a 14 year old son and he always amazes me as to how insightful he and his friends are. Providing your son with the ability to find his own solution will be indispensable for the future. He'll equally

thank you for not judging him and for supporting him. Good luck.Margaret To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Wednesday, May 30, 2012 7:11:56 PM Subject: First Post - Many questions

Hi all -

For the past 5-6 mths., my husband and I thought our 11 yr. old son was just being a typical, annoying kid at dinner. He started crying uncontrollably at the sound of us eating. You could often hear, "get over it", "cut the bologna and eat!" coming from our mouths. We really just thought he was pushing our buttons. Dinner, what has been traditionally our time to reconvene, has become our most dreaded part of the day.

I actually saw the 20/20 segment a couple of weeks ago and yelled for my husband to come in. It is our son totally and completely. I asked him the following day what it's like listening to us eat at dinner and he said, "louder and more annoying than you know". He was able to explain that the reason why it doesn't bother him at school is because it's so loud in the lunchroom. Hm.

Over the past 2 weeks, we've created a sign that lets us know when he's upset at the table (more often than not). I'd also been concerned that he's leaving the table to go to the bathroom during dinner. I was thinking that he was throwing food out or, God forbid, something worse. Just last night I discovered that his flights from the table to the bathroom during dinner have not been for that, but to escape the sounds. He was standing in the corner with tears in his eyes. My heart breaks for him.

My parents noticed the same behavior at their house, too. It's all started to make sense.

We're actually thinking of bringing a TV into the kitchen to distract him, or having him eat earlier than us now. However, is it something that I should bring up to his pediatrician? I have no idea where to go with this and I just know that I feel so badly for him and what he must be going through.

I live in the metro NYC area - one would think there would be some resource to help in this?

Any thoughts/advice would be greatly appreciated. And, as a P.S., according to my husband I'm the same way (I am...), but not to the same extreme as our son. Interesting.

Thank you!

[Guest guest]

Tristan,You might try background music. Or a white/brown noise machine near him. Eating separate May be best but I would try background noise first. MikeSent from my iPad

And earplugs too, which made my life tolerable as a child. I use Hearos Ultimate Softness Series, but there are many kinds and your son will feel empowered if you buy many types and let him experiment.

Best hope,

---- wrote:

> I would say the first thing you need to do is buy him some headphones. Noise canceling headphones will greatly reduce the stress in your household. Most of the time I can get away with wearing some $40 Sony headphones. They cancel out the eating sounds but still allow me to hear and participate in most of the conversation. They come with an on/off switch that boosts the noise cancelation that I just switch on if things get louder.

>

> I bet he hasn't been to see a movie in a theater in a while - I usually take my Headphones with me and it works the same way. It blocks all of the popcorn crunching and wrappers crinkling but still allow for great sound from the movie. The theaters also provide headphones for the hearing impaired at no charge- they work great too.

>

> If the cheaper headphones don't work you might need to spring for the expensive ones, but I'd try the Sony ones first. Could save you $250.

>

> Sent from Tra's iPhone

>

>

> >

> > Hi all -

> >

> > For the past 5-6 mths., my husband and I thought our 11 yr. old son was just being a typical, annoying kid at dinner. He started crying uncontrollably at the sound of us eating. You could often hear, "get over it", "cut the bologna and eat!" coming from our mouths. We really just thought he was pushing our buttons. Dinner, what has been traditionally our time to reconvene, has become our most dreaded part of the day.

> >

> > I actually saw the 20/20 segment a couple of weeks ago and yelled for my husband to come in. It is our son totally and completely. I asked him the following day what it's like listening to us eat at dinner and he said, "louder and more annoying than you know". He was able to explain that the reason why it doesn't bother him at school is because it's so loud in the lunchroom. Hm.

> >

> > Over the past 2 weeks, we've created a sign that lets us know when he's upset at the table (more often than not). I'd also been concerned that he's leaving the table to go to the bathroom during dinner. I was thinking that he was throwing food out or, God forbid, something worse. Just last night I discovered that his flights from the table to the bathroom during dinner have not been for that, but to escape the sounds. He was standing in the corner with tears in his eyes. My heart breaks for him.

> >

> > My parents noticed the same behavior at their house, too. It's all started to make sense.

> >

> > We're actually thinking of bringing a TV into the kitchen to distract him, or having him eat earlier than us now. However, is it something that I should bring up to his pediatrician? I have no idea where to go with this and I just know that I feel so badly for him and what he must be going through.

> >

> > I live in the metro NYC area - one would think there would be some resource to help in this?

> >

> > Any thoughts/advice would be greatly appreciated. And, as a P.S., according to my husband I'm the same way (I am...), but not to the same extreme as our son. Interesting.

> >

> > Thank you!

> >

> >

> >

>

>

=

[Guest guest]

Cognitive behavior therapy. I just read an article about this and it said not to use any ear plugs or headphones. That will make it worse. Find someone who knows about soundsensitivity and does CBT.

If u say ur the same way, but not that bad. It could be that ur son has picked it up from u. Learned behavior. You might not even have realized it. Kids watch our every move.

I am always on alert to any noise around me and now my son is the same way:( I didn't realize the effect it was having on him till it was too late.

Ann

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Wednesday, May 30, 2012 3:11 PMSubject: First Post - Many questions

Hi all -For the past 5-6 mths., my husband and I thought our 11 yr. old son was just being a typical, annoying kid at dinner. He started crying uncontrollably at the sound of us eating. You could often hear, "get over it", "cut the bologna and eat!" coming from our mouths. We really just thought he was pushing our buttons. Dinner, what has been traditionally our time to reconvene, has become our most dreaded part of the day.I actually saw the 20/20 segment a couple of weeks ago and yelled for my husband to come in. It is our son totally and completely. I asked him the following day what it's like listening to us eat at dinner and he said, "louder and more annoying than you know". He was able to explain that the reason why it doesn't bother him at school is because it's so loud in the lunchroom. Hm.Over the past 2 weeks, we've created a sign that lets us know when he's upset at the table (more often than not). I'd also been

concerned that he's leaving the table to go to the bathroom during dinner. I was thinking that he was throwing food out or, God forbid, something worse. Just last night I discovered that his flights from the table to the bathroom during dinner have not been for that, but to escape the sounds. He was standing in the corner with tears in his eyes. My heart breaks for him. My parents noticed the same behavior at their house, too. It's all started to make sense. We're actually thinking of bringing a TV into the kitchen to distract him, or having him eat earlier than us now. However, is it something that I should bring up to his pediatrician? I have no idea where to go with this and I just know that I feel so badly for him and what he must be going through. I live in the metro NYC area - one would think there would be some resource to help in this? Any thoughts/advice would be greatly appreciated. And, as a P.S., according to

my husband I'm the same way (I am...), but not to the same extreme as our son. Interesting. Thank you!

[Guest guest]

I agree. I stop telling my daughter what is bothering me. I notice, I am not doing any good by making her aware that a certain sound or movement is triggering me. Now I hear her complaining about the sound when she was never even aware of it. I don't want her to turn like me. From: Ann

To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Cc: "garciaann78@..." Sent: Tuesday, June 12, 2012 8:13 PM Subject: Re: First Post - Many questions

Cognitive behavior therapy. I just read an article about this and it said not to use any ear plugs or headphones. That will make it worse. Find someone who knows about soundsensitivity and does CBT.

If u say ur the same way, but not that bad. It could be that ur son has picked it up from u. Learned behavior. You might not even have realized it. Kids watch our every move.

I am always on alert to any noise around me and now my son is the same way:( I didn't realize the effect it was having on him till it was too late.

Ann

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Wednesday, May 30, 2012 3:11 PMSubject: First Post - Many questions

Hi all -For the past 5-6 mths., my husband and I thought our 11 yr. old son was just being a typical, annoying kid at dinner. He started crying uncontrollably at the sound of us eating. You could often hear, "get over it", "cut the bologna and eat!" coming from our mouths. We really just thought he was pushing our buttons. Dinner, what has been traditionally our time to reconvene, has become our most dreaded part of the day.I actually saw the 20/20 segment a couple of weeks ago and yelled for my husband to come in. It is our son totally and completely. I asked him the following day what it's like listening to us eat at dinner and he said, "louder and more annoying than you know". He was able to explain that the reason why it doesn't bother him at school is because it's so loud in the lunchroom. Hm.Over the past 2 weeks, we've created a sign that lets us know when he's upset at the table (more often than not). I'd also been

concerned that he's leaving the table to go to the bathroom during dinner. I was thinking that he was throwing food out or, God forbid, something worse. Just last night I discovered that his flights from the table to the bathroom during dinner have not been for that, but to escape the sounds. He was standing in the corner with tears in his eyes. My heart breaks for him. My parents noticed the same behavior at their house, too. It's all started to make sense. We're actually thinking of bringing a TV into the kitchen to distract him, or having him eat earlier than us now. However, is it something that I should bring up to his pediatrician? I have no idea where to go with this and I just know that I feel so badly for him and what he must be going through. I live in the metro NYC area - one would think there would be some resource to help in this? Any thoughts/advice would be greatly appreciated. And, as a P.S., according to

my husband I'm the same way (I am...), but not to the same extreme as our son. Interesting. Thank you!

[Guest guest]

It just doen't seem t me like their knowing the sounds bother us cause noises to

bother them. I would be more inclined to belive that it is hereditary.

>

> I agree.  I stop telling my daughter what is bothering me.  I notice, I am

not doing any good by making her aware that a certain sound or movement is

triggering me.  Now I hear her complaining about the sound when she was never

even aware of it.  I don't want her to turn like me.

>

>

>

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> To: " Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >

> Cc: " garciaann78@... "

> Sent: Tuesday, June 12, 2012 8:13 PM

> Subject: Re: First Post - Many questions

>

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>  

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>  Cognitive behavior therapy.  I just read an article about this and it said

not to use any ear plugs or headphones. That will make it worse. Find someone

who knows about soundsensitivity and does CBT.

>  

> If u say ur the same way, but not that bad. It could be that ur son has picked

it up from u. Learned behavior. You might not even have realized it. Kids watch

our every move.

>  

> I am always on alert to any noise around me and now my son is the same way:( I

didn't realize the effect it was having on him till it was too late.

>  

> Ann

>

>

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> To: Soundsensitivity

> Sent: Wednesday, May 30, 2012 3:11 PM

> Subject: First Post - Many questions

>

>

>  

> Hi all -

>

> For the past 5-6 mths., my husband and I thought our 11 yr. old son was just

being a typical, annoying kid at dinner. He started crying uncontrollably at the

sound of us eating. You could often hear, " get over it " , " cut the bologna and

eat! " coming from our mouths. We really just thought he was pushing our buttons.

Dinner, what has been traditionally our time to reconvene, has become our most

dreaded part of the day.

>

> I actually saw the 20/20 segment a couple of weeks ago and yelled for my

husband to come in. It is our son totally and completely. I asked him the

following day what it's like listening to us eat at dinner and he said, " louder

and more annoying than you know " . He was able to explain that the reason why it

doesn't bother him at school is because it's so loud in the lunchroom. Hm.

>

> Over the past 2 weeks, we've created a sign that lets us know when he's upset

at the table (more often than not). I'd also been

> concerned that he's leaving the table to go to the bathroom during dinner. I

was thinking that he was throwing food out or, God forbid, something worse. Just

last night I discovered that his flights from the table to the bathroom during

dinner have not been for that, but to escape the sounds. He was standing in the

corner with tears in his eyes. My heart breaks for him.

>

> My parents noticed the same behavior at their house, too. It's all started to

make sense.

>

> We're actually thinking of bringing a TV into the kitchen to distract him, or

having him eat earlier than us now. However, is it something that I should bring

up to his pediatrician? I have no idea where to go with this and I just know

that I feel so badly for him and what he must be going through.

>

> I live in the metro NYC area - one would think there would be some resource to

help in this?

>

> Any thoughts/advice would be greatly appreciated. And, as a P.S., according to

> my husband I'm the same way (I am...), but not to the same extreme as our

son. Interesting.

>

> Thank you!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I really cannot say how much I don't believe miso can be learned behavior. While I believe that those around us can become heighten to our noise sensitivites as they learn to be on the look out. I do not believe the miso response can similarly be acquired by learning it. Sent from my iPhoneReal Results. Real science. Age-Defying Skin. www.heidisalerno.nerium.comHappy Dancing!www.jitterbal.comOn Jun 12, 2012, at 5:13 PM, Ann wrote:

Cognitive behavior therapy. I just read an article about this and it said not to use any ear plugs or headphones. That will make it worse. Find someone who knows about soundsensitivity and does CBT.

If u say ur the same way, but not that bad. It could be that ur son has picked it up from u. Learned behavior. You might not even have realized it. Kids watch our every move.

I am always on alert to any noise around me and now my son is the same way:( I didn't realize the effect it was having on him till it was too late.

Ann

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Wednesday, May 30, 2012 3:11 PMSubject: First Post - Many questions

Hi all -For the past 5-6 mths., my husband and I thought our 11 yr. old son was just being a typical, annoying kid at dinner. He started crying uncontrollably at the sound of us eating. You could often hear, "get over it", "cut the bologna and eat!" coming from our mouths. We really just thought he was pushing our buttons. Dinner, what has been traditionally our time to reconvene, has become our most dreaded part of the day.I actually saw the 20/20 segment a couple of weeks ago and yelled for my husband to come in. It is our son totally and completely. I asked him the following day what it's like listening to us eat at dinner and he said, "louder and more annoying than you know". He was able to explain that the reason why it doesn't bother him at school is because it's so loud in the lunchroom. Hm.Over the past 2 weeks, we've created a sign that lets us know when he's upset at the table (more often than not). I'd also been

concerned that he's leaving the table to go to the bathroom during dinner. I was thinking that he was throwing food out or, God forbid, something worse. Just last night I discovered that his flights from the table to the bathroom during dinner have not been for that, but to escape the sounds. He was standing in the corner with tears in his eyes. My heart breaks for him. My parents noticed the same behavior at their house, too. It's all started to make sense. We're actually thinking of bringing a TV into the kitchen to distract him, or having him eat earlier than us now. However, is it something that I should bring up to his pediatrician? I have no idea where to go with this and I just know that I feel so badly for him and what he must be going through. I live in the metro NYC area - one would think there would be some resource to help in this? Any thoughts/advice would be greatly appreciated. And, as a P.S., according to

my husband I'm the same way (I am...), but not to the same extreme as our son. Interesting. Thank you!