My daughter

[Guest guest]

Hello!

My 11 year old daughter, I believe, has this condition. It has developed over

the past year. She glares and then gets upset when she hears a trigger, which

tends to be a certain type of chewing sound - more of a quiet lip smacking sound

while eating. We have worked with her to modify her response to it and she is

asking much more nicely for us to stop, which is great! I try hard to comply.

It's hard to stop it, because I don't realize I'm doing it. But I really

appreciate it when she gently reminds me, verses saying it in a demeaning way.

She also tends to focus in on it after she hears it once, but this sounds normal

for this condition. We try to distract her at the dinner table.

She also tends to get nauseated in the car if she is reading or doing something

that requires looking at something. She wasn't this way when she was younger.

I'm just wondering how this can develop?

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My mother used to get carsick as a child, and even as an adult if she read in the car. I think it has to do with not looking at the horizon while reading. My mother never had misophonia as far as I know.

I'm 49 and just learned that I had it. It developed in my teen years, and life would have been so much easier then if I had been able to request that someone stop - instead I was not taken seriously and felt like mean brat for letting it bother me. Over time, my parents seem to have adjusted their eating habits probably subconsiously as they knew certain things bothered me, but that was over a long time period with lots of time to change habits, and the old habits would still sneak back in somtimes. Now they're gone, my mother in 2011, and my dad last Tues morning, so I'll never get to explain to them why I was so hard to live with at meals. I've never been carsick or motion sick, even on roller coasters or on a stormy cruise.

Missy in Nashville

Hello!My 11 year old daughter, I believe, has this condition. It has developed over the past year. She glares and then gets upset when she hears a trigger, which tends to be a certain type of chewing sound - more of a quiet lip smacking sound while eating. We have worked with her to modify her response to it and she is asking much more nicely for us to stop, which is great! I try hard to comply. It's hard to stop it, because I don't realize I'm doing it. But I really appreciate it when she gently reminds me, verses saying it in a demeaning way. She also tends to focus in on it after she hears it once, but this sounds normal for this condition. We try to distract her at the dinner table.She also tends to get nauseated in the car if she is reading or doing something that requires looking at something. She wasn't this way when she was younger. I'm just wondering how this can develop?

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It is great that you are working with her on this. I've had this problem for as long as I can remember and everyone just thought I was being a brat too. She is going to have to figure out her own ways of coping because they is no cure. My husband and I have worked out ways to eat together like turning the stereo on and sitting across the room from each other. Earplugs are wonderful things! That is the only way I got through college, if only I would of thought about it sooner. My 10 year old niece has started having issues too. I am trying to work with her on how to cope. I am teaching her about meditation and breathing. I wish someone would have worked with me at a young age. Just support her and give her as much info you can on the subject. Good luck.Sent from my HTC on the Now Network from Sprint!----- Reply message -----From: miniaturehome@...Date: Sun, May 27, 2012 12:02 pmSubject: My daughterTo: <Soundsensitivity > My mother used to get carsick as a child, and even as an adult if she read in the car. I think it has to do with not looking at the horizon while reading. My mother never had misophonia as far as I know. I'm 49 and just learned that I had it. It developed in my teen years, and life would have been so much easier then if I had been able to request that someone stop - instead I was not taken seriously and felt like mean brat for letting it bother me. Over time, my parents seem to have adjusted their eating habits probably subconsiously as they knew certain things bothered me, but that was over a long time period with lots of time to change habits, and the old habits would still sneak back in somtimes. Now they're gone, my mother in 2011, and my dad last Tues morning, so I'll never get to explain to them why I was so hard to live with at meals. I've never been carsick or motion sick, even on roller coasters or on a stormy cruise. Missy in Nashville Hello!My 11 year old daughter, I believe, has this condition. It has developed over the past year. She glares and then gets upset when she hears a trigger, which tends to be a certain type of chewing sound - more of a quiet lip smacking sound while eating. We have worked with her to modify her response to it and she is asking much more nicely for us to stop, which is great! I try hard to comply. It's hard to stop it, because I don't realize I'm doing it. But I really appreciate it when she gently reminds me, verses saying it in a demeaning way. She also tends to focus in on it after she hears it once, but this sounds normal for this condition. We try to distract her at the dinner table.She also tends to get nauseated in the car if she is reading or doing something that requires looking at something. She wasn't this way when she was younger. I'm just wondering how this can develop?

[Guest guest]

I'm so sorry for your loss Missy. I bet if your parents knew about the

condition, they would have treated you differently.

I didn't react very well when my daughter first started doing it. The way she

was reacting came across as making fun of me and it triggered emotional pain

from my past. But now that I know about this, it really helps, because I can be

respectful of her and she thus can be more respectful to me as well. It's a

win-win.

I'm very thankful to know about this condition.

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Thank you for the kind words! My parents were the best I could possibly have had, and I know they did the best they could and were incredibly patient with me - even though it seemed that I was making fun and being mean. That's why I wish I could have told them I wasn't making fun - just trying to survive the pain in whatever way I could. Of course, as a child I didn't handle it as well as I did later - not that I handle it that well now! Your daughter is very lucky to have a mother who understands.

Missy

I'm so sorry for your loss Missy. I bet if your parents knew about the condition, they would have treated you differently. I didn't react very well when my daughter first started doing it. The way she was reacting came across as making fun of me and it triggered emotional pain from my past. But now that I know about this, it really helps, because I can be respectful of her and she thus can be more respectful to me as well. It's a win-win. I'm very thankful to know about this condition.