Guest guest Posted July 2, 2012 Report Share Posted July 2, 2012 Chewing and talking and/or with too much food in the mouth - I just can't take it. I do try to put up with it but there are people I just won't eat with. Also I do not enjoy eating with people I don't know, perhaps they will be piggish. So I have altered my life as have most of you. I do address the talking and eating problem however in a very successful way. When someone talks and eats I tell "I am sorry but I just can't understand you when you talk with food in your mouth, please tell me again when you are finished.". It works well but is about me not them so no one has gotten insulted. Thanks for the laugh. I was picturing food falling out. One time when my nephew was about 7, he was eating so grossly I stopped and asked what he was doing and made him eat with his mouth closed. I didn't care if his mother (sister-in-law) got mad at me. If you don't say something when they are little, they grow up to be those adults that are just gross when they eat. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Monday, July 2, 2012 11:53 AM Subject: Re: Last weekend - a vent Same happens to me all the time..but I always wonder HOW they can eat like this. Tons of people do it, but I never can figure how anyone is raised this way. It's rude, gross and there's just no reason for it! It's also HARD to eat that way...I try it just to see and it hurts my jaw and stuff...Subject: Last weekend - a ventTo: Soundsensitivity Date: Monday, July 2, 2012, 1:03 PM Last weekend my boyfriend and I went to another couple's remote lake cabin. I was looking forward to a couple of relaxing days spent with the quiet sounds of nature...waves lapping at the doc. The wind shushing through in the trees. Loons, ducks, woodpeckers. This didn't happen, because I discovered that the male member of this couple eats like a wild animal. Every meal, every snack, there was unceasing smacking, slurping and crunching. He chewed with his mouth open and talked with food in his mouth. I came to dread every meal. I was gritting my teeth so hard I'm amazed they still have enamel. Situations like this confound me, because I honestly feel that calling his attention to his poor table manners by asking him to, for example, chew with his mouth closed, would be really bad manners on MY part. This is MY problem, not HIS. Does anyone else feel that way, or am I just weird? -tam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 2, 2012 Report Share Posted July 2, 2012 I did the same with my niece, and my sister got mad at me. But if you don't correct them when they're little, you lose your chance. Missy Thanks for the laugh. I was picturing food falling out. One time when my nephew was about 7, he was eating so grossly I stopped and asked what he was doing and made him eat with his mouth closed. I didn't care if his mother (sister-in-law) got mad at me. If you don't say something when they are little, they grow up to be those adults that are just gross when they eat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 2, 2012 Report Share Posted July 2, 2012 Karmelrio, I suspect that most of us are too often reluctant to complain to others regarding the obnoxious sounds they generate, because perhaps most of us feel that our sound sensitivities are shared by such a small percent of the general population (or are they?), that if we compained, they would not understand. I suppose we have all experienced that lonely feeling that no one else understands. Was your boyfriend annoyed by those invasive auditory oral assalts? > > Last weekend my boyfriend and I went to another couple's remote lake cabin. I was looking forward to a couple of relaxing days spent with the quiet sounds of nature...waves lapping at the doc. The wind shushing through in the trees. Loons, ducks, woodpeckers. > > This didn't happen, because I discovered that the male member of this couple eats like a wild animal. > > Every meal, every snack, there was unceasing smacking, slurping and crunching. He chewed with his mouth open and talked with food in his mouth. I came to dread every meal. I was gritting my teeth so hard I'm amazed they still have enamel. > > Situations like this confound me, because I honestly feel that calling his attention to his poor table manners by asking him to, for example, chew with his mouth closed, would be really bad manners on MY part. This is MY problem, not HIS. > > Does anyone else feel that way, or am I just weird? > > -tam > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 2, 2012 Report Share Posted July 2, 2012 He noticed, but primarily on my behalf, because he knew I had to be hanging on by the skin of my teeth. We went for a walk together after each meal so I could decompress. -tam > > > > Last weekend my boyfriend and I went to another couple's remote lake cabin. I was looking forward to a couple of relaxing days spent with the quiet sounds of nature...waves lapping at the doc. The wind shushing through in the trees. Loons, ducks, woodpeckers. > > > > This didn't happen, because I discovered that the male member of this couple eats like a wild animal. > > > > Every meal, every snack, there was unceasing smacking, slurping and crunching. He chewed with his mouth open and talked with food in his mouth. I came to dread every meal. I was gritting my teeth so hard I'm amazed they still have enamel. > > > > Situations like this confound me, because I honestly feel that calling his attention to his poor table manners by asking him to, for example, chew with his mouth closed, would be really bad manners on MY part. This is MY problem, not HIS. > > > > Does anyone else feel that way, or am I just weird? > > > > -tam > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 2, 2012 Report Share Posted July 2, 2012 I know it's not really amusing but I suppose his mate must find he's awfully charming; there are a lot of slobs out there.Point final,Margaret To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Monday, July 2, 2012 7:07:18 PM Subject: Re: Last weekend - a vent Thanks for the laugh. I was picturing food falling out. One time when my nephew was about 7, he was eating so grossly I stopped and asked what he was doing and made him eat with his mouth closed. I didn't care if his mother (sister-in-law) got mad at me. If you don't say something when they are little, they grow up to be those adults that are just gross when they eat. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Monday, July 2, 2012 11:53 AM Subject: Re: Last weekend - a vent Same happens to me all the time..but I always wonder HOW they can eat like this. Tons of people do it, but I never can figure how anyone is raised this way. It's rude, gross and there's just no reason for it! It's also HARD to eat that way...I try it just to see and it hurts my jaw and stuff...Subject: Last weekend - a ventTo: Soundsensitivity Date: Monday, July 2, 2012, 1:03 PM Last weekend my boyfriend and I went to another couple's remote lake cabin. I was looking forward to a couple of relaxing days spent with the quiet sounds of nature...waves lapping at the doc. The wind shushing through in the trees. Loons, ducks, woodpeckers. This didn't happen, because I discovered that the male member of this couple eats like a wild animal. Every meal, every snack, there was unceasing smacking, slurping and crunching. He chewed with his mouth open and talked with food in his mouth. I came to dread every meal. I was gritting my teeth so hard I'm amazed they still have enamel. Situations like this confound me, because I honestly feel that calling his attention to his poor table manners by asking him to, for example, chew with his mouth closed, would be really bad manners on MY part. This is MY problem, not HIS. Does anyone else feel that way, or am I just weird? -tam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 3, 2012 Report Share Posted July 3, 2012 My cousin (who, looking back on it now, probably had misophonia) who never seemed to have much of a problem with anything else, was really upset with my brother and I when we were young and eating with our mouths open at the table while he was babysitting us. I never ate with my mouth open after that because I am conscientious, but my brother eventually forgot to, and still does to this day, eat with his mouth open. " Thanks for the laugh. I was picturing food falling out. One time when my nephew was about 7, he was eating so grossly I stopped and asked what he was doing and made him eat with his mouth closed. I didn't care if his mother (sister-in-law) got mad at me. If you don't say something when they are little, they grow up to be those adults that are just gross when they eat. " > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 Both my kids chew with their mouth closed, my son still keeps talking with his mouth full though. Oh well, can't win 'em all lol. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Monday, July 2, 2012 5:58 PM Subject: Re: Last weekend - a vent I did the same with my niece, and my sister got mad at me. But if you don't correct them when they're little, you lose your chance. Missy Thanks for the laugh. I was picturing food falling out. One time when my nephew was about 7, he was eating so grossly I stopped and asked what he was doing and made him eat with his mouth closed. I didn't care if his mother (sister-in-law) got mad at me. If you don't say something when they are little, they grow up to be those adults that are just gross when they eat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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