RE: daughters increase behaviors since puberty

[Guest guest]

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Your email sounds like us. I notice the aggressiveness tends to happen when

she is tired and hungry. But, I haven't any solutions either, except I am

working harder at noticing when she is tired and having meals or snacks

ready and changing my " no's " to " we'll see " or " later " to avoid the

aggression, but not sure if that is right either. I have often wanted one

of those swat team shields. Her periods have not been regular either, so I

can't even put it in my outlook calendar to remind me. We used to manage to

coax her to her room and shut her in there to keep her from hitting us, but

she tore her door and breaks her things too, and now the door has splinters

and needs replacing. Nothing seems to get through to her, except that if

she tears up our house and beats us up, she will have to go live somewhere

else (something I can't bear to really do, but there is a facility in the

area that can take in out of control kids), but I don't want to wear that

out as an idle threat. We even had a cop pull over to us during one of her

rampages and I had to pull over to keep from having an accident. Having the

officer talk to her didn't even help for long and eventually the " fighting

to get her way " returned. Sometimes it was triggered by being told " no " to

a second turn on the computer (often accompanied with her being tired and/or

hungry).

In the very least, you are not alone

Regina

I am looking for some help. My daughter started her 1st period in January.

We had many months leading into January with high behaviors and aggression.

It has increased. She is a high functioning child who is usually is very

happy. When she has melt downs, she losses her verbal skills and hit, kicks,

throws items and screams.

What has helped others? I am about to take self defense classes. I threw out

my shoulder tonight while protected not only herself from getting hurt but

me.

[Guest guest]

Are the episodes constant since her periods started, or tied to her PMS? We

had begun dealing with huge episodes with our dd the day or two before her

period, and tracked it down to hormones in flux.

Sandi

In a message dated 2/16/2012 10:30:31 P.M. Central Standard Time,

courtneri2001@... writes:

I am looking for some help. My daughter started her 1st period in January.

We had many months leading into January with high behaviors and

aggression. It has increased. She is a high functioning child who is usually is

very

happy. When she has melt downs, she losses her verbal skills and hit,

kicks, throws items and screams.

What has helped others? I am about to take self defense classes. I threw

out my shoulder tonight while protected not only herself from getting hurt

but me.