Re: Been around him to long

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I'm so sorry to hear your story. I am going to therapy with my father and it started over my sound sensitivity. He was very critical of me and ignorant about my problem. The therapist explained to him that my misophonia is like his diabetes- unable to cure. My Dad seemed to get that and has tried to be more empathetic since. Sometimes it helps if a professional says it. I also gave him literature to educate him on 4S. Just an idea- I hope you can find peace with your dad.

Audrey

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Tuesday, July 10, 2012 7:47 AMSubject: Been around him to long

I don't know if I would cry if my father died. How much can a person close to you be loved when they are always close in the wrong way? It should matter that he only behaves according to what he believes is right, or that he is only responding to his own uncontrollable feelings, yet my own feelings belie, appose, and shape my sense of rationality, negating it's purpose for existing. I don't believe that he wants to cause me pain, or blames me for my temperament when he knows damn well who I get it from. He always somehow manages to be in the wrong place at the wrong time, almost like it was planned; always making the noises that I hate when I am least able to deal with it, in the worst moments, in the worst possible way in the worst possible situation consistently against insurmountable odds in ways that one could not possibly plan; always saying the wrong things as a result of his own mental dysfunction, never understanding, always hypocritical,

always preaching at me, always upset with me as I am with him. My father would always be annoying, though half of these things would not have taken place were it not for my selective sensitivity and resulting irritable disposition; exacerbated by someone who never really had any business with children, as he literally has mild retardation.