Re: Family moved in, 4S getting worst

[Guest guest]

That’s a tough situation. We’re are all sympathetic and cheering for you!

My anxiety builds whenever I feel I cannot escape my trigger noises. It helps me to always have an escape route planned: earplugs, leaving the room, driving away, etc.

I used to walk around work with one earplug in, and the other one handy. At a family reunion breakfast, my mom was sneezing over and over and over, so I got up and went to my room. I have my priorities. My advice: never get in a car with your cousin unless you have some effective earplugs or headphones.

Having escape routes planned is one thing, but I have to remember that I have options while I’m being triggered. Realizing I have options reduces my anxiety level so I can think about what to do.

Best hope,

From: kayleyrs_615

Sent: Saturday, August 25, 2012 7:45 AM

To: Soundsensitivity

Subject: Family moved in, 4S getting worst

My aunt and two of my cousins moved in about a week ago. The youngest (11 yrs old) has a mild case of Autism. He is unaware of the noises he makes. I get waves of rage towards him to the point where I almost lose it. Afterwards I feel so horrible. I try to ask him to be quiet but he just ignores me. My family does not understand Misophonia so it's hard for them to help me. Do any of you have methods of remaining calm? I tried listening to music, reminding myself he doesn't know, leaving the room, and going to my room but for some reason the anxiety keeps building with anger. I was able to control it a lot better before they moved in but now it seems to be slipping. I'm afraid I'm going to end up screaming at him or worst. Please help!

[Guest guest]

Maybe I’m misunderstanding your situation. Do you have a lot of distressing thoughts about his noises even when you haven’t been recently exposed?

Cheers,

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Sent: Saturday, August 25, 2012 10:42 AM

To: Soundsensitivity

Subject: Re: Family moved in, 4S getting worst

That’s a tough situation. We’re are all sympathetic and cheering for you!

My anxiety builds whenever I feel I cannot escape my trigger noises. It helps me to always have an escape route planned: earplugs, leaving the room, driving away, etc.

I used to walk around work with one earplug in, and the other one handy. At a family reunion breakfast, my mom was sneezing over and over and over, so I got up and went to my room. I have my priorities. My advice: never get in a car with your cousin unless you have some effective earplugs or headphones.

Having escape routes planned is one thing, but I have to remember that I have options while I’m being triggered. Realizing I have options reduces my anxiety level so I can think about what to do.

Best hope,

From: kayleyrs_615

Sent: Saturday, August 25, 2012 7:45 AM

To: Soundsensitivity

Subject: Family moved in, 4S getting worst

My aunt and two of my cousins moved in about a week ago. The youngest (11 yrs old) has a mild case of Autism. He is unaware of the noises he makes. I get waves of rage towards him to the point where I almost lose it. Afterwards I feel so horrible. I try to ask him to be quiet but he just ignores me. My family does not understand Misophonia so it's hard for them to help me. Do any of you have methods of remaining calm? I tried listening to music, reminding myself he doesn't know, leaving the room, and going to my room but for some reason the anxiety keeps building with anger. I was able to control it a lot better before they moved in but now it seems to be slipping. I'm afraid I'm going to end up screaming at him or worst. Please help!

[Guest guest]

Hi,That sounds like a tough one. I imagine that the rage is only accentuated by the fact that the boy ignores your requests to be quiet. I would also be enraged, especially if you're making a request which is basically being shunned. I don't think that the autism should be held as an excuse. If you make a request and you're in your own home (I'm assuming that's the case), the parent(s) should have the good manners to sit their child down and explain the situation. You can easily explain this to the parents of the child in a diplomatic manner. I don't mean to sound indifferent to the fact that the child has autism but I have been acquainted with children with autism and they can very well understand limits. In this case, it sounds to me like the autism is an excuse to avoid setting

certain rules.Margaret To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Saturday, August 25, 2012 2:45:56 PM Subject: Family moved in, 4S getting worst

My aunt and two of my cousins moved in about a week ago. The youngest (11 yrs old) has a mild case of Autism. He is unaware of the noises he makes. I get waves of rage towards him to the point where I almost lose it. Afterwards I feel so horrible. I try to ask him to be quiet but he just ignores me. My family does not understand Misophonia so it's hard for them to help me. Do any of you have methods of remaining calm? I tried listening to music, reminding myself he doesn't know, leaving the room, and going to my room but for some reason the anxiety keeps building with anger. I was able to control it a lot better before they moved in but now it seems to be slipping. I'm afraid I'm going to end up screaming at him or worst. Please help!

[Guest guest]

, once I've been triggered by him it takes maybe an hour or so for me to be

able to be around him. It's mostly the aftermath. Since they moved in I've been

triggered more often which would only make sense because theres more people

around but the real issue is that I can't calm myself as quick as before. The

headphones, earplugs, leaving the room ect. all worked pretty well before this.

Thank you guys for the answers:)

Sent from my iPhone

[Guest guest]

Hi Kayley,

I imagine different calming techniques work for different people, so here’s a list to choose from:

Positive self-talk – tell yourself “it’s overâ€, “I’m safe nowâ€, “this is my safe placeâ€, etc.

Deep breathing – breathing with your diaphragm, both inhaling and exhaling to a count of three

Relaxation – progressively relaxing your face, neck, shoulders, etc.

Distraction – listening to music, exercising, cleaning your room, taking a walk, etc.

Mindfulness Meditation – focusing on and accepting physical sensations like your arm resting on the chair, the breeze on your cheek, etc.

Anti-anxiety medication – my family doctor prescribed a small-dose benzodiazepine for whenever I think I’m going to get stressed (3 cents per day!)

I also take a probiotic. See my post #28434 if you’re interested.

Best wishes,

From: Kayley

Sent: Saturday, August 25, 2012 4:55 PM

To: Soundsensitivity

Subject: Re: Family moved in, 4S getting worst

, once I've been triggered by him it takes maybe an hour or so for me to be able to be around him. It's mostly the aftermath. Since they moved in I've been triggered more often which would only make sense because theres more people around but the real issue is that I can't calm myself as quick as before. The headphones, earplugs, leaving the room ect. all worked pretty well before this.Thank you guys for the answers:)Sent from my iPhone

[Guest guest]

,I am interested in what you said about Mindfulness and anti-anxiety medication.I have Bipolar Disorder and ADHD in addition to the Misophonia.I did a lot of DBT to learn to cope with the Bipolar.  Generalizing that to the Misophonia never occurred to me.

I also am on several medications for the Bipolar.  For 3 years, my current cocktail controlled the Misophonia too.  Then I went off of them, and had to be hospitalized to be put back on them, and they haven't controlled the Misophonia since I went back on them.  It has been about 3 weeks.

I think the med that was controlling the Misophonia was the Abilify, an anti-psychotic that works as a mood-stabilizer for me.Have you ever heard of this before?Thanks, " All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing. "   Edmund Burke 1729-1797

 

Hi Kayley,

 

I imagine different calming techniques work for different people, so here’s a list to choose from:

 

Positive self-talk – tell yourself “it’s over”, “I’m safe now”, “this is my safe place”, etc.

Deep breathing – breathing with your diaphragm, both inhaling and exhaling to a count of three

Relaxation – progressively relaxing your face, neck, shoulders, etc.

Distraction – listening to music, exercising, cleaning your room, taking a walk, etc.

Mindfulness Meditation – focusing on and accepting physical sensations like your arm resting on the chair, the breeze on your cheek, etc.

Anti-anxiety medication – my family doctor prescribed a small-dose benzodiazepine for whenever I think I’m going to get stressed (3 cents per day!)

 

I also take a probiotic.  See my post #28434 if you’re interested.

 

Best wishes,

 

From: Kayley

Sent: Saturday, August 25, 2012 4:55 PM

To: Soundsensitivity

Subject: Re: Family moved in, 4S getting worst

 

 

, once I've been triggered by him it takes maybe an hour or so for me to be able to be around him. It's mostly the aftermath. Since they moved in I've been triggered more often which would only make sense because theres more people around but the real issue is that I can't calm myself as quick as before. The headphones, earplugs, leaving the room ect. all worked pretty well before this.Thank you guys for the answers:)Sent from my iPhone

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I don’t have experience with Abilify, but I might try it based on your experience. It’s exciting that your meds controlled your misophonia at one time. Would you feel comfortable sharing the other meds in your cocktail? Perhaps in an e-mail directly to me?

DBT (dielectical behavior therapy) is really powerful as I understand, so I tried the mindfulness portion to distract myself from my OCD. It really helps!

My previous list was focused on short-term techniques for calming/distraction every day after misophonia exposure. Here are some meds that help me before or during exposure:

Propranalol helps if I take it before or during exposure, but I understand it can’t be taken every day or it stops being effective.

My probiotic takes the “sting” out of my OCD, which is similar to the initial sting of my misophonia. See my post #28434.

Notes:

My current treatment for misophonia is avoiding my triggers, plus propranolol when I can’t (or don’t want to).

In the past, relaxation really helped my misophonia during exposure, but I usually stopped everything else I was doing or thinking. I never tried mindfulness during exposure.

Best Hope,

From:

Sent: Sunday, August 26, 2012 9:22 AM

To: Soundsensitivity

Subject: Re: Family moved in, 4S getting worst

,I am interested in what you said about Mindfulness and anti-anxiety medication.I have Bipolar Disorder and ADHD in addition to the Misophonia.I did a lot of DBT to learn to cope with the Bipolar. Generalizing that to the Misophonia never occurred to me.I also am on several medications for the Bipolar. For 3 years, my current cocktail controlled the Misophonia too. Then I went off of them, and had to be hospitalized to be put back on them, and they haven't controlled the Misophonia since I went back on them. It has been about 3 weeks.I think the med that was controlling the Misophonia was the Abilify, an anti-psychotic that works as a mood-stabilizer for me.Have you ever heard of this before?Thanks,"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing." Edmund Burke 1729-1797

Hi Kayley,

I imagine different calming techniques work for different people, so here’s a list to choose from:

Positive self-talk – tell yourself “it’s over”, “I’m safe now”, “this is my safe place”, etc.

Deep breathing – breathing with your diaphragm, both inhaling and exhaling to a count of three

Relaxation – progressively relaxing your face, neck, shoulders, etc.

Distraction – listening to music, exercising, cleaning your room, taking a walk, etc.

Mindfulness Meditation – focusing on and accepting physical sensations like your arm resting on the chair, the breeze on your cheek, etc.

Anti-anxiety medication – my family doctor prescribed a small-dose benzodiazepine for whenever I think I’m going to get stressed (3 cents per day!)

I also take a probiotic. See my post #28434 if you’re interested.

Best wishes,

From: Kayley

Sent: Saturday, August 25, 2012 4:55 PM

To: Soundsensitivity

Subject: Re: Family moved in, 4S getting worst

, once I've been triggered by him it takes maybe an hour or so for me to be able to be around him. It's mostly the aftermath. Since they moved in I've been triggered more often which would only make sense because theres more people around but the real issue is that I can't calm myself as quick as before. The headphones, earplugs, leaving the room ect. all worked pretty well before this.Thank you guys for the answers:)Sent from my iPhone

[Guest guest]

I take 40 mg Lexapro SID, 10 mg Abilify SID, 15 mg Adderrall XR SID.  I used to take 1 mg Xanax PRN, but I stopped that.  I also used to take 200 mg Wellbutrin XR BID, but that made me feel horrible, so my doctor took me off it.

" All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing. "   Edmund Burke 1729-1797

 

Hi ,

 

I don’t have experience with Abilify, but I might try it based on your experience.  It’s exciting that your meds controlled your misophonia at one time.  Would you feel comfortable sharing the other meds in your cocktail?  Perhaps in an e-mail directly to me?

 

DBT (dielectical behavior therapy) is really powerful as I understand, so I tried the mindfulness portion to distract myself from my OCD.  It really helps!

 

My previous list was focused on short-term techniques for calming/distraction every day after misophonia exposure.  Here are some meds that help me before or during exposure:

 

Propranalol helps if I take it before or during exposure, but I understand it can’t be taken every day or it stops being effective.

My probiotic takes the “sting” out of my OCD, which is similar to the initial sting of my misophonia.  See my post #28434.

 

Notes:

My current treatment for misophonia is avoiding my triggers, plus propranolol when I can’t (or don’t want to).

In the past, relaxation really helped my misophonia during exposure, but I usually stopped everything else I was doing or thinking.  I never tried mindfulness during exposure.

 

Best Hope,

[Guest guest]

Thanks !

From:

Sent: Sunday, August 26, 2012 11:02 AM

To: Soundsensitivity

Subject: Re: Family moved in, 4S getting worst

I take 40 mg Lexapro SID, 10 mg Abilify SID, 15 mg Adderrall XR SID. I used to take 1 mg Xanax PRN, but I stopped that. I also used to take 200 mg Wellbutrin XR BID, but that made me feel horrible, so my doctor took me off it."All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing." Edmund Burke 1729-1797

Hi ,

I don’t have experience with Abilify, but I might try it based on your experience. It’s exciting that your meds controlled your misophonia at one time. Would you feel comfortable sharing the other meds in your cocktail? Perhaps in an e-mail directly to me?

DBT (dielectical behavior therapy) is really powerful as I understand, so I tried the mindfulness portion to distract myself from my OCD. It really helps!

My previous list was focused on short-term techniques for calming/distraction every day after misophonia exposure. Here are some meds that help me before or during exposure:

Propranalol helps if I take it before or during exposure, but I understand it can’t be taken every day or it stops being effective.

My probiotic takes the “sting” out of my OCD, which is similar to the initial sting of my misophonia. See my post #28434.

Notes:

My current treatment for misophonia is avoiding my triggers, plus propranolol when I can’t (or don’t want to).

In the past, relaxation really helped my misophonia during exposure, but I usually stopped everything else I was doing or thinking. I never tried mindfulness during exposure.

Best Hope,