Re: Adrenal Fatigue, etc.

[Guest guest]

Thank you for sharing your stirring story, Rita.

Expectations, ours and others', are life-changing.

I understand the need to meet expectations of others which is why I am grateful

to live alone.

The little hints that this and that are not enough, or, why can you do this but

cannot do that ... it's hell on earth to subject oneself to these kinds of

questions.

The absolute hardest thing for anybody is to have others understand. If they do

not suffer similarly, they do not understand.

And many who suffer similarly also do not understand. It seems this is even

harder to accept that those who suffer like me do not get why I can't cook or do

dishes anymore. They want to offer " help " so I can do what they do so easily.

I understand this too because that was me when I was able to defy nature,

especially my own nature, to do, do, do until I could not do anymore. I couldn't

stand others suffering from these conditions worse than me. I offered advice

trying to help them suffer only as much as me, not worse.

Now I understand how insulting and misplaced such advice was.

Everybody is different. Everybody's journey is their own. And why take advice

from one suffering similarly only to suffer as they do, not to recovery. I mean

.... really.

toni

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On Aug 7, 2012, at 5:27 PM,

Rita G wrote:

> One really hard part of all this is that my husband is a person who has tons

of energy, always has, and his family is very energetic too. Their family

culture around work is the typical Protestant work ethic stuff -- you are only

as good a how much you do. I'm sure that his family just considers me lazy. My

husband is starting to (intellectually) understand that I actually have a

physical problem, and he tries to be supportive, but actually I feel very

pressured by him because he has little ways of expressing his disappointment in

me, that I haven't fulfilled his expectations as far as bringing in money, doing

my own housework, wanting sex, cooking lots of home-cooked meals, etc. etc. I

[Guest guest]

Rita,

Sorry I am so late in responding to your post....

Sometimes, I feel lonely---and need to be reminded how much easier it is for ME

to be living alone....and not trying to meet someone else's expectations.  I

had to retire on disability 10 years ago when I was 51....and I also moved from

cold weather to hot in FL--thinking that it would help my FMS symtoms.  Little

did I realize--that once retired....I wouldn't feel like I have ANY meaning and

purpose to my life.....and have been struggling to find it.  It is hard at our

age---especially when work USED to be my entire life.  I can't seem to develop

many outside interests---OR meet people of " like mind " .  I used to be very

active politically---and it seems as though I have moved to a strong-hold of R's

(sorry)....so, now I have my house up for sale--and once sold...will try further

South in Fl.  The stress of showing the house....amazes me---since I need to

keep it ultra clean!

I did rescue a five pound Yorkie---named her Hillary Rodham--so, that DOES give

me a reason to get up each day...and even walk a little bit around the block.

 But, sometimes, I even feel sorry for HER---that she isn't getting ENOUGH

exercise....She is such a delight, though--I highly recommend for those who can

to rescue an animal.  Her presence in my home fills my heart......and that is

what I need.

Here's to better days ahead....going to a specialist today to work on my thyroid

issues.  Hopefully, he will agree to increase my bio-identical compounded

thyroid medication---my numbers are " normal " ---but, I can tell that I'm needing

more......If not THIS doctor--then, on to the next!  

Lynn

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Subject: Adrenal Fatigue, etc.

Hi group,

This is my first post. I'm not sure if this group is the place for me. I've

been treated for adrenal fatigue and Lyme bacteria (and co-infections), and for

low energy for several years. The last two years with a Nutritionist and

Practitioner of Oriental Medicine. Before that, by prescriptions of

anti-depressants which eventually didn't give me enough energy, and I wanted to

get off of them anyway. I think most of my problems stem from being a

workaholic for years, and I essentially burnt out my body. I go to a

face-to-face Food Addicts Anonymous group once a week, if I have the energy, to

try to stay off of the stimulants I'm addicted to -- generally, sugar and other

high-carb foods which I used forever to fuel my work addiction. I've quit

coffee so many times, and am ready to try quitting again. I am trying to get

more into workaholic recovery through their online support group, literature and

journaling.