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I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My father taught me the silence is golden. I try my best to be quite. Walk softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it! I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now over for me. I wonder how 'sick' we really are. Or have people simply turned into slobs? To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Monday, December 26, 2011 1:22 PM Subject: Re: (unknown)

Sign me up for the shock collar!

Thank you so much for all of your responses. I can't tell you how much it helps just to know that there are others out there who have these same thoughts and feelings. I sent my husband the link to the Today show interview but he hasn't watched it. I guess I am going to have to sit him down and force him to watch it and then have a very open and honest conversation letting him know that I take it as a direct attack on me when he chews on things and makes irritating noises just for the sake of making them. Either that or I will have to figure out some way to get a shock collar on him and then I can just zap him everytime he makes a sound. Oh, just think of it...how great would that be to be able to punish each and every

person who ever chewed gum...slurrped their food, smacked their lips? We could band together and we

would have this world irritating noise free in no time. Oh, what a wonderful world it could be...

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Ha! I definitely feel that my life would be a lot less stressful if more people

were taught basic table manners. Forget about which fork to use - I'm talking

" chew with your mouth closed. "

I became a full-time telecommuter about 5 years ago. Aah, such relief. The

corporate cube farm environment is seriously stressful to so many of us. Working

lunches? THE WORST.

-tam

>

> I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My

father taught me the silence is golden.  I try my best to be quite.  Walk

softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it! 

> I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now

over for me.

> I wonder how 'sick' we really are.  Or have people simply turned into slobs?

>

>

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Ha! I definitely feel that my life would be a lot less stressful if more people

were taught basic table manners. Forget about which fork to use - I'm talking

" chew with your mouth closed. "

I became a full-time telecommuter about 5 years ago. Aah, such relief. The

corporate cube farm environment is seriously stressful to so many of us. Working

lunches? THE WORST.

-tam

>

> I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My

father taught me the silence is golden.  I try my best to be quite.  Walk

softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it! 

> I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now

over for me.

> I wonder how 'sick' we really are.  Or have people simply turned into slobs?

>

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Totally agree, Tam. I am constantly amazed by how many people chew not only

their gum, but their food, with open mouths. Gross!

Lori

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> > I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My

father taught me the silence is golden.  I try my best to be quite.  Walk

softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it! 

> > I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now

over for me.

> > I wonder how 'sick' we really are.  Or have people simply turned into

slobs?

> >

> >

>

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Totally agree, Tam. I am constantly amazed by how many people chew not only

their gum, but their food, with open mouths. Gross!

Lori

> >

> > I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My

father taught me the silence is golden.  I try my best to be quite.  Walk

softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it! 

> > I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now

over for me.

> > I wonder how 'sick' we really are.  Or have people simply turned into

slobs?

> >

> >

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It has been my observation that tables manners vary with cultures and social class. The higher classes seem to stress better manners, and chewing with ones mouth closed.

Please correct me if I am wrong.

My mother (4S and proper English) was a stickler for table manners. I am very aware of how people eat, but have worked hard not to focus on it unless it is just blatantly horrible.

I have gotten up from a table many times over the years.

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Tuesday, January 3, 2012 8:56 AMSubject: Re: Bad Manners

Ha! I definitely feel that my life would be a lot less stressful if more people were taught basic table manners. Forget about which fork to use - I'm talking "chew with your mouth closed." I became a full-time telecommuter about 5 years ago. Aah, such relief. The corporate cube farm environment is seriously stressful to so many of us. Working lunches? THE WORST.-tam >> I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My father taught me the silence is golden. I try my best to be quite. Walk softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it! > I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is

now over for me. > I wonder how 'sick' we really are. Or have people simply turned into slobs?> >

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My dad enforced the good table manners. I'm always shocked that my friends all

have horrible table manners. Chewing with mouth open, talking with food,

slurping, scraping teeth and making a mess. I have one friend who almost always

ends up with food on her face while eating. I just don't get it!

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>It has been my observation that tables manners vary with cultures and social

class. The higher classes  seem to  stress better manners, and chewing with ones

mouth closed.

>Please correct me if I am wrong.

>My mother (4S and proper English) was a stickler for table manners. I am very

aware of how people eat, but have worked hard not to focus on it unless it is

just blatantly horrible.

> I have gotten up from a table many times over the years.

>Mike

>

>

>

>To: Soundsensitivity

>Sent: Tuesday, January 3, 2012 8:56 AM

>Subject: Re: Bad Manners

>

>

>Ha! I definitely feel that my life would be a lot less stressful if more people

were taught basic table manners. Forget about which fork to use - I'm talking

" chew with your mouth closed. "

>

>I became a full-time telecommuter about 5 years ago. Aah, such relief. The

corporate cube farm environment is seriously stressful to so many of us. Working

lunches? THE WORST.

>

>-tam

>

>

>>

>> I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My

father taught me the silence is golden.  I try my best to be quite.  Walk

softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it! 

>> I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now

over for me.

>> I wonder how 'sick' we really are.  Or have people simply turned into slobs?

>>

>>

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My dad enforced the good table manners. I'm always shocked that my friends all

have horrible table manners. Chewing with mouth open, talking with food,

slurping, scraping teeth and making a mess. I have one friend who almost always

ends up with food on her face while eating. I just don't get it!

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>It has been my observation that tables manners vary with cultures and social

class. The higher classes  seem to  stress better manners, and chewing with ones

mouth closed.

>Please correct me if I am wrong.

>My mother (4S and proper English) was a stickler for table manners. I am very

aware of how people eat, but have worked hard not to focus on it unless it is

just blatantly horrible.

> I have gotten up from a table many times over the years.

>Mike

>

>

>

>To: Soundsensitivity

>Sent: Tuesday, January 3, 2012 8:56 AM

>Subject: Re: Bad Manners

>

>

>Ha! I definitely feel that my life would be a lot less stressful if more people

were taught basic table manners. Forget about which fork to use - I'm talking

" chew with your mouth closed. "

>

>I became a full-time telecommuter about 5 years ago. Aah, such relief. The

corporate cube farm environment is seriously stressful to so many of us. Working

lunches? THE WORST.

>

>-tam

>

>

>>

>> I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My

father taught me the silence is golden.  I try my best to be quite.  Walk

softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it! 

>> I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now

over for me.

>> I wonder how 'sick' we really are.  Or have people simply turned into slobs?

>>

>>

>

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I find eating with your mouth open really irritating too, as well as making a mess, etc. However, there are problems which can, in a few cases, lead to this, although I agree, manners seem not to be taught so much. For example, (and it doesn't stop me finding it infuriating!) a relative of mine has breathing problems, he eats with his mouth open and makes the most horrendous racket! My husband has dyspraxia, he makes a terrible mess, has food around his face, on the floor etc, all the time. That of course irritates me too! But, it does help to understand why it is happening, and we can laugh about it, and it is a humbling reminder that we are all having our problems in life!

-- Re: Bad Manners>>> >Ha! I definitely feel that my life would be a lot less stressful if more people were taught basic table manners. Forget about which fork to use - I'm talking "chew with your mouth closed." >>I became a full-time telecommuter about 5 years ago. Aah, such relief. The corporate cube farm environment is seriously stressful to so many of us. Working lunches? THE WORST.>>-tam >>>>>> I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My father taught me the silence is golden. I try my best to be quite. Walk softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it! >> I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now over for me. >> I wonder how 'sick' we really are. Or have people simply turned into slobs?>> >> >>

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I find eating with your mouth open really irritating too, as well as making a mess, etc. However, there are problems which can, in a few cases, lead to this, although I agree, manners seem not to be taught so much. For example, (and it doesn't stop me finding it infuriating!) a relative of mine has breathing problems, he eats with his mouth open and makes the most horrendous racket! My husband has dyspraxia, he makes a terrible mess, has food around his face, on the floor etc, all the time. That of course irritates me too! But, it does help to understand why it is happening, and we can laugh about it, and it is a humbling reminder that we are all having our problems in life!

-- Re: Bad Manners>>> >Ha! I definitely feel that my life would be a lot less stressful if more people were taught basic table manners. Forget about which fork to use - I'm talking "chew with your mouth closed." >>I became a full-time telecommuter about 5 years ago. Aah, such relief. The corporate cube farm environment is seriously stressful to so many of us. Working lunches? THE WORST.>>-tam >>>>>> I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My father taught me the silence is golden. I try my best to be quite. Walk softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it! >> I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now over for me. >> I wonder how 'sick' we really are. Or have people simply turned into slobs?>> >> >>

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Maybe your dad had Misophonia too? Seems abit extreme to end dinner over a slurp. There is a strong genetic component to this. I always think fondly of Willie Wonka and all it's social messages which now are just not the norm, sadly for us. Sent from my iPhone

I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My father taught me the silence is golden. I try my best to be quite. Walk softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it! I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now over for me. I wonder how 'sick' we really are. Or have people simply turned into slobs? To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Monday, December 26, 2011 1:22 PM Subject: Re: (unknown)

Sign me up for the shock collar!

Thank you so much for all of your responses. I can't tell you how much it helps just to know that there are others out there who have these same thoughts and feelings. I sent my husband the link to the Today show interview but he hasn't watched it. I guess I am going to have to sit him down and force him to watch it and then have a very open and honest conversation letting him know that I take it as a direct attack on me when he chews on things and makes irritating noises just for the sake of making them. Either that or I will have to figure out some way to get a shock collar on him and then I can just zap him everytime he makes a sound. Oh, just think of it...how great would that be to be able to punish each and every

person who ever chewed gum...slurrped their food, smacked their lips? We could band together and we

would have this world irritating noise free in no time. Oh, what a wonderful world it could be...

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Maybe your dad had Misophonia too? Seems abit extreme to end dinner over a slurp. There is a strong genetic component to this. I always think fondly of Willie Wonka and all it's social messages which now are just not the norm, sadly for us. Sent from my iPhone

I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My father taught me the silence is golden. I try my best to be quite. Walk softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it! I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now over for me. I wonder how 'sick' we really are. Or have people simply turned into slobs? To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Monday, December 26, 2011 1:22 PM Subject: Re: (unknown)

Sign me up for the shock collar!

Thank you so much for all of your responses. I can't tell you how much it helps just to know that there are others out there who have these same thoughts and feelings. I sent my husband the link to the Today show interview but he hasn't watched it. I guess I am going to have to sit him down and force him to watch it and then have a very open and honest conversation letting him know that I take it as a direct attack on me when he chews on things and makes irritating noises just for the sake of making them. Either that or I will have to figure out some way to get a shock collar on him and then I can just zap him everytime he makes a sound. Oh, just think of it...how great would that be to be able to punish each and every

person who ever chewed gum...slurrped their food, smacked their lips? We could band together and we

would have this world irritating noise free in no time. Oh, what a wonderful world it could be...

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Maybe your dad had Misophonia too? Seems abit extreme to end dinner over a slurp. There is a strong genetic component to this. I always think fondly of Willie Wonka and all it's social messages which now are just not the norm, sadly for us. Sent from my iPhone

I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My father taught me the silence is golden. I try my best to be quite. Walk softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it! I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now over for me. I wonder how 'sick' we really are. Or have people simply turned into slobs? To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Monday, December 26, 2011 1:22 PM Subject: Re: (unknown)

Sign me up for the shock collar!

Thank you so much for all of your responses. I can't tell you how much it helps just to know that there are others out there who have these same thoughts and feelings. I sent my husband the link to the Today show interview but he hasn't watched it. I guess I am going to have to sit him down and force him to watch it and then have a very open and honest conversation letting him know that I take it as a direct attack on me when he chews on things and makes irritating noises just for the sake of making them. Either that or I will have to figure out some way to get a shock collar on him and then I can just zap him everytime he makes a sound. Oh, just think of it...how great would that be to be able to punish each and every

person who ever chewed gum...slurrped their food, smacked their lips? We could band together and we

would have this world irritating noise free in no time. Oh, what a wonderful world it could be...

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Were we all taught proper table manners by our parent(s)? Did we all try to follow their instructions carefully? Did we come to believe that those who didn't have the same table manners were lower class people? I was taught distain for others who didn't do as I did. That has caused me problems in many areas of my life. I can trace it to my perfectionist requirements of others throughout the years.

My dad enforced the good table manners. I'm always shocked that my friends all have horrible table manners. Chewing with mouth open, talking with food, slurping, scraping teeth and making a mess. I have one friend who almost always ends up with food on her face while eating. I just don't get it!

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>It has been my observation that tables manners vary with cultures and social class. The higher classes seem to stress better manners, and chewing with ones mouth closed.

>Please correct me if I am wrong.

>My mother (4S and proper English) was a stickler for table manners. I am very aware of how people eat, but have worked hard not to focus on it unless it is just blatantly horrible.

> I have gotten up from a table many times over the years.

>Mike

>

>

>

>To: Soundsensitivity

>Sent: Tuesday, January 3, 2012 8:56 AM

>Subject: Re: Bad Manners

>

>

>

>Ha! I definitely feel that my life would be a lot less stressful if more people were taught basic table manners. Forget about which fork to use - I'm talking "chew with your mouth closed."

>

>I became a full-time telecommuter about 5 years ago. Aah, such relief. The corporate cube farm environment is seriously stressful to so many of us. Working lunches? THE WORST.

>

>-tam

>

>

>>

>> I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My father taught me the silence is golden. I try my best to be quite. Walk softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it!Â

>> I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now over for me.

>> I wonder how 'sick' we really are. Or have people simply turned into slobs?

>>

>>

>

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Were we all taught proper table manners by our parent(s)? Did we all try to follow their instructions carefully? Did we come to believe that those who didn't have the same table manners were lower class people? I was taught distain for others who didn't do as I did. That has caused me problems in many areas of my life. I can trace it to my perfectionist requirements of others throughout the years.

My dad enforced the good table manners. I'm always shocked that my friends all have horrible table manners. Chewing with mouth open, talking with food, slurping, scraping teeth and making a mess. I have one friend who almost always ends up with food on her face while eating. I just don't get it!

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>It has been my observation that tables manners vary with cultures and social class. The higher classes seem to stress better manners, and chewing with ones mouth closed.

>Please correct me if I am wrong.

>My mother (4S and proper English) was a stickler for table manners. I am very aware of how people eat, but have worked hard not to focus on it unless it is just blatantly horrible.

> I have gotten up from a table many times over the years.

>Mike

>

>

>

>To: Soundsensitivity

>Sent: Tuesday, January 3, 2012 8:56 AM

>Subject: Re: Bad Manners

>

>

>

>Ha! I definitely feel that my life would be a lot less stressful if more people were taught basic table manners. Forget about which fork to use - I'm talking "chew with your mouth closed."

>

>I became a full-time telecommuter about 5 years ago. Aah, such relief. The corporate cube farm environment is seriously stressful to so many of us. Working lunches? THE WORST.

>

>-tam

>

>

>>

>> I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My father taught me the silence is golden. I try my best to be quite. Walk softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it!Â

>> I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now over for me.

>> I wonder how 'sick' we really are. Or have people simply turned into slobs?

>>

>>

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Wow.....the millions of times I've thought this exact thing! Does anyone have manners anymore?! People are not teaching their kids the basic rules I grew up with for sure. Too bad for all of us that these lovely rules for the comfort of others aren't common place today.

To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Mon, December 26, 2011 3:39:21 PMSubject: Re: Bad Manners

I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My father taught me the silence is golden. I try my best to be quite. Walk softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it!

I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now over for me.

I wonder how 'sick' we really are. Or have people simply turned into slobs?

To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Monday, December 26, 2011 1:22 PMSubject: Re: (unknown)

Sign me up for the shock collar!

Thank you so much for all of your responses. I can't tell you how much it helps just to know that there are others out there who have these same thoughts and feelings. I sent my husband the link to the Today show interview but he hasn't watched it. I guess I am going to have to sit him down and force him to watch it and then have a very open and honest conversation letting him know that I take it as a direct attack on me when he chews on things and makes irritating noises just for the sake of making them. Either that or I will have to figure out some way to get a shock collar on him and then I can just zap him everytime he makes a sound. Oh, just think of it...how great would that be to be able to punish each and every person who ever chewed gum...slurrped their food,

smacked their lips? We could band together and we would have this world irritating noise free in no time. Oh, what a wonderful world it could be...

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It seems generational, and cultural as in how parents relate to the children. I

grew up respecting my elders and table manners were (mostly) enforced. My sister

does the same to his boys, and she also makes them use tissue to blow their

nose: no sniffling or slurping in her house. I'm from Europe and when I first

came here, I was astonished by the lack of table manners and sniffling, it made

me think it's an american thing to not use tissues in public or slurp cereal or

soda or whatever. It could be that parents aren't as strict as before, let them

be free... (as long as the parent isn't suffering from 4S). I think they are

doing them a disservice: even if others aren't as sensitive as us, most people

are disgusted by table noise.

> >>

> >> I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these

noises. My father taught me the silence is golden.  I try my best to be

quite.  Walk softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS

darn it! 

> >> I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is

now over for me.

> >> I wonder how 'sick' we really are.  Or have people simply turned into

slobs?

> >>

> >>

> >

> >

>

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It seems generational, and cultural as in how parents relate to the children. I

grew up respecting my elders and table manners were (mostly) enforced. My sister

does the same to his boys, and she also makes them use tissue to blow their

nose: no sniffling or slurping in her house. I'm from Europe and when I first

came here, I was astonished by the lack of table manners and sniffling, it made

me think it's an american thing to not use tissues in public or slurp cereal or

soda or whatever. It could be that parents aren't as strict as before, let them

be free... (as long as the parent isn't suffering from 4S). I think they are

doing them a disservice: even if others aren't as sensitive as us, most people

are disgusted by table noise.

> >>

> >> I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these

noises. My father taught me the silence is golden.  I try my best to be

quite.  Walk softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS

darn it! 

> >> I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is

now over for me.

> >> I wonder how 'sick' we really are.  Or have people simply turned into

slobs?

> >>

> >>

> >

> >

>

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Since learning about Misophonia and looking back at the way my dad was, we

believe he probably had it too. He was very strict about good manners at the

table, and I guess around the time my brother and I were pre-teens we stopped

eating at the table together as a family. He always preferred to be in his back

room where he could watch tv and listen to music without being bothered.

------------------------------

>Maybe your dad had Misophonia too? Seems a

>bit extreme to end dinner over a slurp. There is a strong genetic component to

this.

>I always think fondly of Willie Wonka and all it's social messages which now

are just not the norm, sadly for us.

>

>Sent from my iPhone

>

>

>

>> I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My

father taught me the silence is golden. I try my best to be quite. Walk

softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it!

>> I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now

over for me.

>> I wonder how 'sick' we really are. Or have people simply turned into slobs?

>>

>>

>> To: " Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >

>> Sent: Monday, December 26, 2011 1:22 PM

>> Subject: Re: (unknown)

>>

>> Sign me up for the shock collar! On Dec 25, 2011, at 11:28 AM, Christy

wrote:

>>

>> Thank you so much for all of your responses. I can't tell you how much it

helps just to know that there are others out there who have these same thoughts

and feelings. I sent my husband the link to the Today show interview but he

hasn't watched it. I guess I am going to have to sit him down and force him to

watch it and then have a very open and honest conversation letting him know that

I take it as a direct attack on me when he chews on things and makes irritating

noises just for the sake of making them. Either that or I will have to figure

out some way to get a shock collar on him and then I can just zap him everytime

he makes a sound. Oh, just think of it...how great would that be to be able to

punish each and every person who ever chewed gum...slurrped their food, smacked

their lips? We could band together and we would have this world irritating

noise free in no time. Oh, what a wonderful world it could be...

>>

>>

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Since learning about Misophonia and looking back at the way my dad was, we

believe he probably had it too. He was very strict about good manners at the

table, and I guess around the time my brother and I were pre-teens we stopped

eating at the table together as a family. He always preferred to be in his back

room where he could watch tv and listen to music without being bothered.

------------------------------

>Maybe your dad had Misophonia too? Seems a

>bit extreme to end dinner over a slurp. There is a strong genetic component to

this.

>I always think fondly of Willie Wonka and all it's social messages which now

are just not the norm, sadly for us.

>

>Sent from my iPhone

>

>

>

>> I remember when it was simple bad manners to make a lot of these noises. My

father taught me the silence is golden. I try my best to be quite. Walk

softly. Close doors gently. If my allergies kick up I take MEDS darn it!

>> I still remember if I slurped anything my father would tell me dinner is now

over for me.

>> I wonder how 'sick' we really are. Or have people simply turned into slobs?

>>

>>

>> To: " Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >

>> Sent: Monday, December 26, 2011 1:22 PM

>> Subject: Re: (unknown)

>>

>> Sign me up for the shock collar! On Dec 25, 2011, at 11:28 AM, Christy

wrote:

>>

>> Thank you so much for all of your responses. I can't tell you how much it

helps just to know that there are others out there who have these same thoughts

and feelings. I sent my husband the link to the Today show interview but he

hasn't watched it. I guess I am going to have to sit him down and force him to

watch it and then have a very open and honest conversation letting him know that

I take it as a direct attack on me when he chews on things and makes irritating

noises just for the sake of making them. Either that or I will have to figure

out some way to get a shock collar on him and then I can just zap him everytime

he makes a sound. Oh, just think of it...how great would that be to be able to

punish each and every person who ever chewed gum...slurrped their food, smacked

their lips? We could band together and we would have this world irritating

noise free in no time. Oh, what a wonderful world it could be...

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My father was a lot like yours only more so. He was misophonic.

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> >Thank you so much for all of your responses.  I can't tell you how much it

helps just to know that there are others out there who have these same thoughts

and feelings.  I sent my husband the link to the Today show interview but he

hasn't watched it.  I guess I am going to have to sit him down and force him to

watch it and then have a very open and honest conversation letting him know that

I take it as a direct attack on me when he chews on things and makes irritating

noises just for the sake of making them.  Either that or I will have to figure

out some way to get a shock collar on him and then I can just zap him everytime

he makes a sound.  Oh, just think of it...how great would that be to be able to

punish each and every person who ever chewed gum...slurrped their food, smacked

their lips?  We could band together and we would have this world irritating

noise free in no time.  Oh, what a wonderful world it could be...

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I'm doing a book order at work and I came across this book:

Would it Kill You to Stop Doing That?: A Modern Guide to Manners by Henry

Alford. http://tinyurl.com/8xkk6jf

Amazon Book Description

Publication Date: January 3, 2012

" We all know bad manners when we see them, " NPR and Vanity Fair contributor

Henry Alford observes at the beginning of his new book. But what, he asks, do

good manners look like in our day and age? When someone answers their cell phone

in the middle of dining with you, or runs you off the sidewalk with their

doublewide stroller, or you enter a post-apocalyptic public restroom, the

long-revered wisdom of Post can seem downright prehistoric.

Troubled by the absence of good manners in his day-to-day life-by the people who

clip their toenails on the subway or give three-letter replies to one's

laboriously crafted missives-Alford embarks on a journey to find out how things

might look if people were on their best behavior a tad more often. He travels to

Japan (the " Fort Knox Reserve " of good manners) to observe its culture of

collective politesse. He interviews etiquette experts both likely (Judith

, Tim Gunn) and unlikely (a former prisoner, an army sergeant). He plays a

game called Touch the Waiter. And he volunteers himself as a tour guide to

foreigners visiting New York City in order to do ground-level reconnaissance on

cultural manners divides. Along the way (in typical Alford style) he also finds

time to teach Miss Manners how to steal a cab; designates the World's Most

Annoying Bride; and tosses his own hat into the ring, volunteering as an online

etiquette coach.

Ultimately, by tackling the etiquette questions specific to our age-such as Why

shouldn't you ask a cab driver where's he's from?, Why is posting baby pictures

on Facebook a fraught activity? and What's the problem with " No problem " ?-Alford

finds a wry and warm way into a subject that has sometimes been seen as pedantic

or elitist. And in this way, he looks past the standard " dos " and " don'ts " of

good form to present an illuminating, seriously entertaining book about grace

and civility, and how we can simply treat each other better.

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