Re: fight or flight?

[Guest guest]

For the past 17 years I have been explaining to people who enter my work

enviroment not to make certain sounds. Mostly, repetitive tapping. I have always

found most people to be kind and understanding. I manage a bar while also acting

as the head bartender. People tend to tap a lot. It is akward, but I explain.

Mostly, they apologise to me. Other than a handle full of overly drunk people,

everyone understands. I have a great staff and following of regular customers

who help explaine to new people how tapping physically hurts me. In 17 years I

never experienced what happened last night. 2 guys, one of them, Collin, I have

known for a wile. I don,t see him for long, mostly during shift change. But we

always exchange pleasentries. He has always been very laid back and polite. Last

night his friend had a quarter and kept tapping it on the bar. When I asked him

to please stop Collin joined in with finger tapping. I was trying to explain,

but they didn't care. I started to panic. I said Lynda, my waitress, would

explain, and fled to the kitchen where I stood shaking. Lynda talked to them and

told them how it effects me. I regained composer and returned to work. I

starting talking to them and to explain my reactions. They seemed to be

listning. These were not strangers to me. They asked me about it, and I

explained that it was a real condition and had to do with the wiring of the

brain. The next words out of my mouth were to be that Misophonia causes a fight

or flight response, when Collin, whom I trusted, Took both of his fingers and

very rapidly started to tap. I didn't even have time to think, out of impulse,

feeling under attack, I drew back and slapped him across the face with full

force. He jumped up and I broke in to tears. I said how very sorry I was and

that I would do anything to fix it. His fist was raised and he said I was lucky

to be a woman. I said please hit me, I'm so sorry. He told me to F off and left

the bar. I guess I reacted so severly because I knew them, it was explained to

them, they saw my initial reaction, and yet chose to hurt me. I guess I saw it

as self defense. Didn't help that I had been up for four days. I feel so

ashamed. I was affected all night. I have never acted this way. The one time it

was that bad, I punched myself in the face and asked them if they wanted to

continue hurting me.How do I get over this shame? Misophonia is my problem, yes

he provocted me but I cant't excuse my reaction. I don't think I would have done

this to a stranger. I ALWAYS TAKE FLIGHT. This time I fought. Has anyone else

ever behaved this way? I never expected someone I know to disrespect me so. I

guess he had been drinking all day. His friend told me to stop beating myself

up. He said he would talk to him. Is my behavior forgiveable, especially

concidering my position?

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[Guest guest]

Yellie, reading this, my heart goes out to you -- but I am kind of proud of you.

That guy deserved to be slapped in the face. He was warned, and yet he went

ahead with making a trigger sound. What a jerk he is. Though you must be careful

not to get in trouble with the law, and though it is unfortunate you had to

resort to physical violence, I still have the reaction of " good for you. "

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> For the past 17 years I have been explaining to people who enter my work

enviroment not to make certain sounds. Mostly, repetitive tapping. I have always

found most people to be kind and understanding. I manage a bar while also acting

as the head bartender. People tend to tap a lot. It is akward, but I explain.

Mostly, they apologise to me. Other than a handle full of overly drunk people,

everyone understands. I have a great staff and following of regular customers

who help explaine to new people how tapping physically hurts me. In 17 years I

never experienced what happened last night. 2 guys, one of them, Collin, I have

known for a wile. I don,t see him for long, mostly during shift change. But we

always exchange pleasentries. He has always been very laid back and polite. Last

night his friend had a quarter and kept tapping it on the bar. When I asked him

to please stop Collin joined in with finger tapping. I was trying to explain,

but they didn't care. I started to panic. I said Lynda, my waitress, would

explain, and fled to the kitchen where I stood shaking. Lynda talked to them and

told them how it effects me. I regained composer and returned to work. I

starting talking to them and to explain my reactions. They seemed to be

listning. These were not strangers to me. They asked me about it, and I

explained that it was a real condition and had to do with the wiring of the

brain. The next words out of my mouth were to be that Misophonia causes a fight

or flight response, when Collin, whom I trusted, Took both of his fingers and

very rapidly started to tap. I didn't even have time to think, out of impulse,

feeling under attack, I drew back and slapped him across the face with full

force. He jumped up and I broke in to tears. I said how very sorry I was and

that I would do anything to fix it. His fist was raised and he said I was lucky

to be a woman. I said please hit me, I'm so sorry. He told me to F off and left

the bar. I guess I reacted so severly because I knew them, it was explained to

them, they saw my initial reaction, and yet chose to hurt me. I guess I saw it

as self defense. Didn't help that I had been up for four days. I feel so

ashamed. I was affected all night. I have never acted this way. The one time it

was that bad, I punched myself in the face and asked them if they wanted to

continue hurting me.How do I get over this shame? Misophonia is my problem, yes

he provocted me but I cant't excuse my reaction. I don't think I would have done

this to a stranger. I ALWAYS TAKE FLIGHT. This time I fought. Has anyone else

ever behaved this way? I never expected someone I know to disrespect me so. I

guess he had been drinking all day. His friend told me to stop beating myself

up. He said he would talk to him. Is my behavior forgiveable, especially

concidering my position?

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[Guest guest]

Please don't beat yourself up over this- you were totally in the right. That guy

didn't get slapped for innocently tapping his fingers; he got slapped for

deliberately using your disability to mock you. Maybe your reaction will finally

bring it home to him that this is no joke, and that when somebody confides a

personal problem to you, you do NOT take advantage of it. I know violence is

never the ideal solution, but I'm glad this guy was held accountable for his

cruel behavior. It doesn't seem like you injured him, so no harm done, but

hopefully the lesson will return to him the next time he wants to do some

drunken bullying.

-Kate K.

P.S. If it makes you feel any better, I have seriously considered dumping a

glass of water on a guy's head when he laughed at my polite request to stop

smacking his lips. Thankfully, he stopped the obnoxious behavior before he could

earn himself an impromptu shower.

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> > For the past 17 years I have been explaining to people who enter my work

enviroment not to make certain sounds. Mostly, repetitive tapping. I have always

found most people to be kind and understanding. I manage a bar while also acting

as the head bartender. People tend to tap a lot. It is akward, but I explain.

Mostly, they apologise to me. Other than a handle full of overly drunk people,

everyone understands. I have a great staff and following of regular customers

who help explaine to new people how tapping physically hurts me. In 17 years I

never experienced what happened last night. 2 guys, one of them, Collin, I have

known for a wile. I don,t see him for long, mostly during shift change. But we

always exchange pleasentries. He has always been very laid back and polite. Last

night his friend had a quarter and kept tapping it on the bar. When I asked him

to please stop Collin joined in with finger tapping. I was trying to explain,

but they didn't care. I started to panic. I said Lynda, my waitress, would

explain, and fled to the kitchen where I stood shaking. Lynda talked to them and

told them how it effects me. I regained composer and returned to work. I

starting talking to them and to explain my reactions. They seemed to be

listning. These were not strangers to me. They asked me about it, and I

explained that it was a real condition and had to do with the wiring of the

brain. The next words out of my mouth were to be that Misophonia causes a fight

or flight response, when Collin, whom I trusted, Took both of his fingers and

very rapidly started to tap. I didn't even have time to think, out of impulse,

feeling under attack, I drew back and slapped him across the face with full

force. He jumped up and I broke in to tears. I said how very sorry I was and

that I would do anything to fix it. His fist was raised and he said I was lucky

to be a woman. I said please hit me, I'm so sorry. He told me to F off and left

the bar. I guess I reacted so severly because I knew them, it was explained to

them, they saw my initial reaction, and yet chose to hurt me. I guess I saw it

as self defense. Didn't help that I had been up for four days. I feel so

ashamed. I was affected all night. I have never acted this way. The one time it

was that bad, I punched myself in the face and asked them if they wanted to

continue hurting me.How do I get over this shame? Misophonia is my problem, yes

he provocted me but I cant't excuse my reaction. I don't think I would have done

this to a stranger. I ALWAYS TAKE FLIGHT. This time I fought. Has anyone else

ever behaved this way? I never expected someone I know to disrespect me so. I

guess he had been drinking all day. His friend told me to stop beating myself

up. He said he would talk to him. Is my behavior forgiveable, especially

concidering my position?

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[Guest guest]

Please don't beat yourself up over this- you were totally in the right. That guy

didn't get slapped for innocently tapping his fingers; he got slapped for

deliberately using your disability to mock you. Maybe your reaction will finally

bring it home to him that this is no joke, and that when somebody confides a

personal problem to you, you do NOT take advantage of it. I know violence is

never the ideal solution, but I'm glad this guy was held accountable for his

cruel behavior. It doesn't seem like you injured him, so no harm done, but

hopefully the lesson will return to him the next time he wants to do some

drunken bullying.

-Kate K.

P.S. If it makes you feel any better, I have seriously considered dumping a

glass of water on a guy's head when he laughed at my polite request to stop

smacking his lips. Thankfully, he stopped the obnoxious behavior before he could

earn himself an impromptu shower.

> >

> > For the past 17 years I have been explaining to people who enter my work

enviroment not to make certain sounds. Mostly, repetitive tapping. I have always

found most people to be kind and understanding. I manage a bar while also acting

as the head bartender. People tend to tap a lot. It is akward, but I explain.

Mostly, they apologise to me. Other than a handle full of overly drunk people,

everyone understands. I have a great staff and following of regular customers

who help explaine to new people how tapping physically hurts me. In 17 years I

never experienced what happened last night. 2 guys, one of them, Collin, I have

known for a wile. I don,t see him for long, mostly during shift change. But we

always exchange pleasentries. He has always been very laid back and polite. Last

night his friend had a quarter and kept tapping it on the bar. When I asked him

to please stop Collin joined in with finger tapping. I was trying to explain,

but they didn't care. I started to panic. I said Lynda, my waitress, would

explain, and fled to the kitchen where I stood shaking. Lynda talked to them and

told them how it effects me. I regained composer and returned to work. I

starting talking to them and to explain my reactions. They seemed to be

listning. These were not strangers to me. They asked me about it, and I

explained that it was a real condition and had to do with the wiring of the

brain. The next words out of my mouth were to be that Misophonia causes a fight

or flight response, when Collin, whom I trusted, Took both of his fingers and

very rapidly started to tap. I didn't even have time to think, out of impulse,

feeling under attack, I drew back and slapped him across the face with full

force. He jumped up and I broke in to tears. I said how very sorry I was and

that I would do anything to fix it. His fist was raised and he said I was lucky

to be a woman. I said please hit me, I'm so sorry. He told me to F off and left

the bar. I guess I reacted so severly because I knew them, it was explained to

them, they saw my initial reaction, and yet chose to hurt me. I guess I saw it

as self defense. Didn't help that I had been up for four days. I feel so

ashamed. I was affected all night. I have never acted this way. The one time it

was that bad, I punched myself in the face and asked them if they wanted to

continue hurting me.How do I get over this shame? Misophonia is my problem, yes

he provocted me but I cant't excuse my reaction. I don't think I would have done

this to a stranger. I ALWAYS TAKE FLIGHT. This time I fought. Has anyone else

ever behaved this way? I never expected someone I know to disrespect me so. I

guess he had been drinking all day. His friend told me to stop beating myself

up. He said he would talk to him. Is my behavior forgiveable, especially

concidering my position?

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[Guest guest]

Pleas don't resort to self-infliction of pain, I would've slapped the bastard too. While you may not be in the legal right, you were in the moral right. Give yourself a break.One thing you can do to prevent it in the future is sleep. I know lack of sleep makes my misophonia 1000x worse. Also, kudos to you for telling people all these years and I hope many who read this will take away from it that you had a 17 year run of people reacting amazingly toward you and you just happen to have only one bad egg, that's great odds and should give us all the courage to let people know. The more we each talk about it to strangers, the more we educate people and make this condition know, then the more it's heard about the more likely it'll be researched. Also, it's empowering to let others know and to care for yourself. So good for you for not suffering in silence.And please, seriously, don't ever hit yourself again, you are worth more than that. It's good to feel bad about inflicting pain, but no need to inflict it on one's self. Like your friend said, it's time to give yourself a break.You are totally supported!Heidi

For the past 17 years I have been explaining to people who enter my work enviroment not to make certain sounds. Mostly, repetitive tapping. I have always found most people to be kind and understanding. I manage a bar while also acting as the head bartender. People tend to tap a lot. It is akward, but I explain. Mostly, they apologise to me. Other than a handle full of overly drunk people, everyone understands. I have a great staff and following of regular customers who help explaine to new people how tapping physically hurts me. In 17 years I never experienced what happened last night. 2 guys, one of them, Collin, I have known for a wile. I don,t see him for long, mostly during shift change. But we always exchange pleasentries. He has always been very laid back and polite. Last night his friend had a quarter and kept tapping it on the bar. When I asked him to please stop Collin joined in with finger tapping. I was trying to explain, but they didn't care. I started to panic. I said Lynda, my waitress, would explain, and fled to the kitchen where I stood shaking. Lynda talked to them and told them how it effects me. I regained composer and returned to work. I starting talking to them and to explain my reactions. They seemed to be listning. These were not strangers to me. They asked me about it, and I explained that it was a real condition and had to do with the wiring of the brain. The next words out of my mouth were to be that Misophonia causes a fight or flight response, when Collin, whom I trusted, Took both of his fingers and very rapidly started to tap. I didn't even have time to think, out of impulse, feeling under attack, I drew back and slapped him across the face with full force. He jumped up and I broke in to tears. I said how very sorry I was and that I would do anything to fix it. His fist was raised and he said I was lucky to be a woman. I said please hit me, I'm so sorry. He told me to F off and left the bar. I guess I reacted so severly because I knew them, it was explained to them, they saw my initial reaction, and yet chose to hurt me. I guess I saw it as self defense. Didn't help that I had been up for four days. I feel so ashamed. I was affected all night. I have never acted this way. The one time it was that bad, I punched myself in the face and asked them if they wanted to continue hurting me.How do I get over this shame? Misophonia is my problem, yes he provocted me but I cant't excuse my reaction. I don't think I would have done this to a stranger. I ALWAYS TAKE FLIGHT. This time I fought. Has anyone else ever behaved this way? I never expected someone I know to disrespect me so. I guess he had been drinking all day. His friend told me to stop beating myself up. He said he would talk to him. Is my behavior forgiveable, especially concidering my position?

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[Guest guest]

Pleas don't resort to self-infliction of pain, I would've slapped the bastard too. While you may not be in the legal right, you were in the moral right. Give yourself a break.One thing you can do to prevent it in the future is sleep. I know lack of sleep makes my misophonia 1000x worse. Also, kudos to you for telling people all these years and I hope many who read this will take away from it that you had a 17 year run of people reacting amazingly toward you and you just happen to have only one bad egg, that's great odds and should give us all the courage to let people know. The more we each talk about it to strangers, the more we educate people and make this condition know, then the more it's heard about the more likely it'll be researched. Also, it's empowering to let others know and to care for yourself. So good for you for not suffering in silence.And please, seriously, don't ever hit yourself again, you are worth more than that. It's good to feel bad about inflicting pain, but no need to inflict it on one's self. Like your friend said, it's time to give yourself a break.You are totally supported!Heidi

For the past 17 years I have been explaining to people who enter my work enviroment not to make certain sounds. Mostly, repetitive tapping. I have always found most people to be kind and understanding. I manage a bar while also acting as the head bartender. People tend to tap a lot. It is akward, but I explain. Mostly, they apologise to me. Other than a handle full of overly drunk people, everyone understands. I have a great staff and following of regular customers who help explaine to new people how tapping physically hurts me. In 17 years I never experienced what happened last night. 2 guys, one of them, Collin, I have known for a wile. I don,t see him for long, mostly during shift change. But we always exchange pleasentries. He has always been very laid back and polite. Last night his friend had a quarter and kept tapping it on the bar. When I asked him to please stop Collin joined in with finger tapping. I was trying to explain, but they didn't care. I started to panic. I said Lynda, my waitress, would explain, and fled to the kitchen where I stood shaking. Lynda talked to them and told them how it effects me. I regained composer and returned to work. I starting talking to them and to explain my reactions. They seemed to be listning. These were not strangers to me. They asked me about it, and I explained that it was a real condition and had to do with the wiring of the brain. The next words out of my mouth were to be that Misophonia causes a fight or flight response, when Collin, whom I trusted, Took both of his fingers and very rapidly started to tap. I didn't even have time to think, out of impulse, feeling under attack, I drew back and slapped him across the face with full force. He jumped up and I broke in to tears. I said how very sorry I was and that I would do anything to fix it. His fist was raised and he said I was lucky to be a woman. I said please hit me, I'm so sorry. He told me to F off and left the bar. I guess I reacted so severly because I knew them, it was explained to them, they saw my initial reaction, and yet chose to hurt me. I guess I saw it as self defense. Didn't help that I had been up for four days. I feel so ashamed. I was affected all night. I have never acted this way. The one time it was that bad, I punched myself in the face and asked them if they wanted to continue hurting me.How do I get over this shame? Misophonia is my problem, yes he provocted me but I cant't excuse my reaction. I don't think I would have done this to a stranger. I ALWAYS TAKE FLIGHT. This time I fought. Has anyone else ever behaved this way? I never expected someone I know to disrespect me so. I guess he had been drinking all day. His friend told me to stop beating myself up. He said he would talk to him. Is my behavior forgiveable, especially concidering my position?

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[Guest guest]

Pleas don't resort to self-infliction of pain, I would've slapped the bastard too. While you may not be in the legal right, you were in the moral right. Give yourself a break.One thing you can do to prevent it in the future is sleep. I know lack of sleep makes my misophonia 1000x worse. Also, kudos to you for telling people all these years and I hope many who read this will take away from it that you had a 17 year run of people reacting amazingly toward you and you just happen to have only one bad egg, that's great odds and should give us all the courage to let people know. The more we each talk about it to strangers, the more we educate people and make this condition know, then the more it's heard about the more likely it'll be researched. Also, it's empowering to let others know and to care for yourself. So good for you for not suffering in silence.And please, seriously, don't ever hit yourself again, you are worth more than that. It's good to feel bad about inflicting pain, but no need to inflict it on one's self. Like your friend said, it's time to give yourself a break.You are totally supported!Heidi

For the past 17 years I have been explaining to people who enter my work enviroment not to make certain sounds. Mostly, repetitive tapping. I have always found most people to be kind and understanding. I manage a bar while also acting as the head bartender. People tend to tap a lot. It is akward, but I explain. Mostly, they apologise to me. Other than a handle full of overly drunk people, everyone understands. I have a great staff and following of regular customers who help explaine to new people how tapping physically hurts me. In 17 years I never experienced what happened last night. 2 guys, one of them, Collin, I have known for a wile. I don,t see him for long, mostly during shift change. But we always exchange pleasentries. He has always been very laid back and polite. Last night his friend had a quarter and kept tapping it on the bar. When I asked him to please stop Collin joined in with finger tapping. I was trying to explain, but they didn't care. I started to panic. I said Lynda, my waitress, would explain, and fled to the kitchen where I stood shaking. Lynda talked to them and told them how it effects me. I regained composer and returned to work. I starting talking to them and to explain my reactions. They seemed to be listning. These were not strangers to me. They asked me about it, and I explained that it was a real condition and had to do with the wiring of the brain. The next words out of my mouth were to be that Misophonia causes a fight or flight response, when Collin, whom I trusted, Took both of his fingers and very rapidly started to tap. I didn't even have time to think, out of impulse, feeling under attack, I drew back and slapped him across the face with full force. He jumped up and I broke in to tears. I said how very sorry I was and that I would do anything to fix it. His fist was raised and he said I was lucky to be a woman. I said please hit me, I'm so sorry. He told me to F off and left the bar. I guess I reacted so severly because I knew them, it was explained to them, they saw my initial reaction, and yet chose to hurt me. I guess I saw it as self defense. Didn't help that I had been up for four days. I feel so ashamed. I was affected all night. I have never acted this way. The one time it was that bad, I punched myself in the face and asked them if they wanted to continue hurting me.How do I get over this shame? Misophonia is my problem, yes he provocted me but I cant't excuse my reaction. I don't think I would have done this to a stranger. I ALWAYS TAKE FLIGHT. This time I fought. Has anyone else ever behaved this way? I never expected someone I know to disrespect me so. I guess he had been drinking all day. His friend told me to stop beating myself up. He said he would talk to him. Is my behavior forgiveable, especially concidering my position?

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[Guest guest]

Thank you all for your support. I have finally calmed down and decided not to

obsess over it. When I first learned that my condition was real and had a name I

printed a copy about misophonia and took it to work. I just showed a hand full

of people, I just wanted to show the people who support me that it was an actual

condition. I'm going to print out a copy for Collin (the guy I slapped)

high-light the section about fight or flight and give this to him with a letter

of apology for hitting him. But I will also state in the letter that I felt

equaly disrespected by him and I am positive I sufferd more pain during this

incident than he did. If he doesn't forgive me, I'm ok with that now. At least I

tried my best to apologise to him and to educate him. I didn't hit him for fun

or amusement, unlike what he did to me. And yes I think having had worked 4 12

hour shifts in a row with absolutly no sleep in between. Probably had a lot to

do with my reaction. Thanks again for the support.

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[Guest guest]

Thank you all for your support. I have finally calmed down and decided not to

obsess over it. When I first learned that my condition was real and had a name I

printed a copy about misophonia and took it to work. I just showed a hand full

of people, I just wanted to show the people who support me that it was an actual

condition. I'm going to print out a copy for Collin (the guy I slapped)

high-light the section about fight or flight and give this to him with a letter

of apology for hitting him. But I will also state in the letter that I felt

equaly disrespected by him and I am positive I sufferd more pain during this

incident than he did. If he doesn't forgive me, I'm ok with that now. At least I

tried my best to apologise to him and to educate him. I didn't hit him for fun

or amusement, unlike what he did to me. And yes I think having had worked 4 12

hour shifts in a row with absolutly no sleep in between. Probably had a lot to

do with my reaction. Thanks again for the support.

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[Guest guest]

Thank you all for your support. I have finally calmed down and decided not to

obsess over it. When I first learned that my condition was real and had a name I

printed a copy about misophonia and took it to work. I just showed a hand full

of people, I just wanted to show the people who support me that it was an actual

condition. I'm going to print out a copy for Collin (the guy I slapped)

high-light the section about fight or flight and give this to him with a letter

of apology for hitting him. But I will also state in the letter that I felt

equaly disrespected by him and I am positive I sufferd more pain during this

incident than he did. If he doesn't forgive me, I'm ok with that now. At least I

tried my best to apologise to him and to educate him. I didn't hit him for fun

or amusement, unlike what he did to me. And yes I think having had worked 4 12

hour shifts in a row with absolutly no sleep in between. Probably had a lot to

do with my reaction. Thanks again for the support.

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[Guest guest]

I m bothered by different sounds than you are, but I totally agree with you and

empathize with you. I once almost slugged someone for doing the same thing.

This guy said the word " Pie " around me, and I asked him not to say it. I told

him that it bothers me very badly, and so it gets me very angry when I hear it.

Well he started to laugh and said " Pie " and I told him to stop. He laughed

harder and said, " Pie, pie, pie, pie. " Well his wife (who is my lifelong best

friend) yelled at him to stop, and I told her, " Get him away from me because I

am going to deck him. " She did that, and later on told him what my issue was,

and why he should not tease me in that way. There's just some things you don't

joke about, etc. Tapping noises kind of bother me, and repetitive noises are

not fun either. But my problem has always been saliva sounds. When people say

words that start with (or contain) the letters P, C, K or G. P is the worst for

me. I hate the wet sound of the saliva that escapes from the person's

lips/mouth. I don't like saliva sounds at all, I never have. I don't know why

I am so sensitive to them, but I am.

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> For the past 17 years I have been explaining to people who enter my work

enviroment not to make certain sounds. Mostly, repetitive tapping. I have always

found most people to be kind and understanding. I manage a bar while also acting

as the head bartender. People tend to tap a lot. It is akward, but I explain.

Mostly, they apologise to me. Other than a handle full of overly drunk people,

everyone understands. I have a great staff and following of regular customers

who help explaine to new people how tapping physically hurts me. In 17 years I

never experienced what happened last night. 2 guys, one of them, Collin, I have

known for a wile. I don,t see him for long, mostly during shift change. But we

always exchange pleasentries. He has always been very laid back and polite. Last

night his friend had a quarter and kept tapping it on the bar. When I asked him

to please stop Collin joined in with finger tapping. I was trying to explain,

but they didn't care. I started to panic. I said Lynda, my waitress, would

explain, and fled to the kitchen where I stood shaking. Lynda talked to them and

told them how it effects me. I regained composer and returned to work. I

starting talking to them and to explain my reactions. They seemed to be

listning. These were not strangers to me. They asked me about it, and I

explained that it was a real condition and had to do with the wiring of the

brain. The next words out of my mouth were to be that Misophonia causes a fight

or flight response, when Collin, whom I trusted, Took both of his fingers and

very rapidly started to tap. I didn't even have time to think, out of impulse,

feeling under attack, I drew back and slapped him across the face with full

force. He jumped up and I broke in to tears. I said how very sorry I was and

that I would do anything to fix it. His fist was raised and he said I was lucky

to be a woman. I said please hit me, I'm so sorry. He told me to F off and left

the bar. I guess I reacted so severly because I knew them, it was explained to

them, they saw my initial reaction, and yet chose to hurt me. I guess I saw it

as self defense. Didn't help that I had been up for four days. I feel so

ashamed. I was affected all night. I have never acted this way. The one time it

was that bad, I punched myself in the face and asked them if they wanted to

continue hurting me.How do I get over this shame? Misophonia is my problem, yes

he provocted me but I cant't excuse my reaction. I don't think I would have done

this to a stranger. I ALWAYS TAKE FLIGHT. This time I fought. Has anyone else

ever behaved this way? I never expected someone I know to disrespect me so. I

guess he had been drinking all day. His friend told me to stop beating myself

up. He said he would talk to him. Is my behavior forgiveable, especially

concidering my position?

>

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>

[Guest guest]

I m bothered by different sounds than you are, but I totally agree with you and

empathize with you. I once almost slugged someone for doing the same thing.

This guy said the word " Pie " around me, and I asked him not to say it. I told

him that it bothers me very badly, and so it gets me very angry when I hear it.

Well he started to laugh and said " Pie " and I told him to stop. He laughed

harder and said, " Pie, pie, pie, pie. " Well his wife (who is my lifelong best

friend) yelled at him to stop, and I told her, " Get him away from me because I

am going to deck him. " She did that, and later on told him what my issue was,

and why he should not tease me in that way. There's just some things you don't

joke about, etc. Tapping noises kind of bother me, and repetitive noises are

not fun either. But my problem has always been saliva sounds. When people say

words that start with (or contain) the letters P, C, K or G. P is the worst for

me. I hate the wet sound of the saliva that escapes from the person's

lips/mouth. I don't like saliva sounds at all, I never have. I don't know why

I am so sensitive to them, but I am.

>

> For the past 17 years I have been explaining to people who enter my work

enviroment not to make certain sounds. Mostly, repetitive tapping. I have always

found most people to be kind and understanding. I manage a bar while also acting

as the head bartender. People tend to tap a lot. It is akward, but I explain.

Mostly, they apologise to me. Other than a handle full of overly drunk people,

everyone understands. I have a great staff and following of regular customers

who help explaine to new people how tapping physically hurts me. In 17 years I

never experienced what happened last night. 2 guys, one of them, Collin, I have

known for a wile. I don,t see him for long, mostly during shift change. But we

always exchange pleasentries. He has always been very laid back and polite. Last

night his friend had a quarter and kept tapping it on the bar. When I asked him

to please stop Collin joined in with finger tapping. I was trying to explain,

but they didn't care. I started to panic. I said Lynda, my waitress, would

explain, and fled to the kitchen where I stood shaking. Lynda talked to them and

told them how it effects me. I regained composer and returned to work. I

starting talking to them and to explain my reactions. They seemed to be

listning. These were not strangers to me. They asked me about it, and I

explained that it was a real condition and had to do with the wiring of the

brain. The next words out of my mouth were to be that Misophonia causes a fight

or flight response, when Collin, whom I trusted, Took both of his fingers and

very rapidly started to tap. I didn't even have time to think, out of impulse,

feeling under attack, I drew back and slapped him across the face with full

force. He jumped up and I broke in to tears. I said how very sorry I was and

that I would do anything to fix it. His fist was raised and he said I was lucky

to be a woman. I said please hit me, I'm so sorry. He told me to F off and left

the bar. I guess I reacted so severly because I knew them, it was explained to

them, they saw my initial reaction, and yet chose to hurt me. I guess I saw it

as self defense. Didn't help that I had been up for four days. I feel so

ashamed. I was affected all night. I have never acted this way. The one time it

was that bad, I punched myself in the face and asked them if they wanted to

continue hurting me.How do I get over this shame? Misophonia is my problem, yes

he provocted me but I cant't excuse my reaction. I don't think I would have done

this to a stranger. I ALWAYS TAKE FLIGHT. This time I fought. Has anyone else

ever behaved this way? I never expected someone I know to disrespect me so. I

guess he had been drinking all day. His friend told me to stop beating myself

up. He said he would talk to him. Is my behavior forgiveable, especially

concidering my position?

>

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>

[Guest guest]

I m bothered by different sounds than you are, but I totally agree with you and

empathize with you. I once almost slugged someone for doing the same thing.

This guy said the word " Pie " around me, and I asked him not to say it. I told

him that it bothers me very badly, and so it gets me very angry when I hear it.

Well he started to laugh and said " Pie " and I told him to stop. He laughed

harder and said, " Pie, pie, pie, pie. " Well his wife (who is my lifelong best

friend) yelled at him to stop, and I told her, " Get him away from me because I

am going to deck him. " She did that, and later on told him what my issue was,

and why he should not tease me in that way. There's just some things you don't

joke about, etc. Tapping noises kind of bother me, and repetitive noises are

not fun either. But my problem has always been saliva sounds. When people say

words that start with (or contain) the letters P, C, K or G. P is the worst for

me. I hate the wet sound of the saliva that escapes from the person's

lips/mouth. I don't like saliva sounds at all, I never have. I don't know why

I am so sensitive to them, but I am.

>

> For the past 17 years I have been explaining to people who enter my work

enviroment not to make certain sounds. Mostly, repetitive tapping. I have always

found most people to be kind and understanding. I manage a bar while also acting

as the head bartender. People tend to tap a lot. It is akward, but I explain.

Mostly, they apologise to me. Other than a handle full of overly drunk people,

everyone understands. I have a great staff and following of regular customers

who help explaine to new people how tapping physically hurts me. In 17 years I

never experienced what happened last night. 2 guys, one of them, Collin, I have

known for a wile. I don,t see him for long, mostly during shift change. But we

always exchange pleasentries. He has always been very laid back and polite. Last

night his friend had a quarter and kept tapping it on the bar. When I asked him

to please stop Collin joined in with finger tapping. I was trying to explain,

but they didn't care. I started to panic. I said Lynda, my waitress, would

explain, and fled to the kitchen where I stood shaking. Lynda talked to them and

told them how it effects me. I regained composer and returned to work. I

starting talking to them and to explain my reactions. They seemed to be

listning. These were not strangers to me. They asked me about it, and I

explained that it was a real condition and had to do with the wiring of the

brain. The next words out of my mouth were to be that Misophonia causes a fight

or flight response, when Collin, whom I trusted, Took both of his fingers and

very rapidly started to tap. I didn't even have time to think, out of impulse,

feeling under attack, I drew back and slapped him across the face with full

force. He jumped up and I broke in to tears. I said how very sorry I was and

that I would do anything to fix it. His fist was raised and he said I was lucky

to be a woman. I said please hit me, I'm so sorry. He told me to F off and left

the bar. I guess I reacted so severly because I knew them, it was explained to

them, they saw my initial reaction, and yet chose to hurt me. I guess I saw it

as self defense. Didn't help that I had been up for four days. I feel so

ashamed. I was affected all night. I have never acted this way. The one time it

was that bad, I punched myself in the face and asked them if they wanted to

continue hurting me.How do I get over this shame? Misophonia is my problem, yes

he provocted me but I cant't excuse my reaction. I don't think I would have done

this to a stranger. I ALWAYS TAKE FLIGHT. This time I fought. Has anyone else

ever behaved this way? I never expected someone I know to disrespect me so. I

guess he had been drinking all day. His friend told me to stop beating myself

up. He said he would talk to him. Is my behavior forgiveable, especially

concidering my position?

>

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>

[Guest guest]

The worst sound in the universe for me is the hollow sound that peoples heads make when crunching on ice or raw carrots and the like. Second is snapping gum loudly. My sister did it throughout my childhood and may have been compounded by other feelings of powerlessness and anger I had towards her, being the favored older child and very bossy and critical. I think that one reason Misophonia can get worse over time is is that all past incidences of listening to these sounds compound and the entire history can be triggered each time we hear them. Just a thought. Mike To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Tuesday, January 17, 2012 7:50 PM Subject: Re: Fight or Flight?

I m bothered by different sounds than you are, but I totally agree with you and empathize with you. I once almost slugged someone for doing the same thing. This guy said the word "Pie" around me, and I asked him not to say it. I told him that it bothers me very badly, and so it gets me very angry when I hear it. Well he started to laugh and said "Pie" and I told him to stop. He laughed harder and said, "Pie, pie, pie, pie." Well his wife (who is my lifelong best friend) yelled at him to stop, and I told her, "Get him away from me because I am going to deck him." She did that, and later on told him what my issue was, and why he should not tease me in that way. There's just some things you don't joke about, etc. Tapping noises kind of bother me, and repetitive noises are not fun either. But my problem has always been saliva sounds. When people say words that start with (or contain) the letters P, C, K or G. P is the worst for me. I

hate the wet sound of the saliva that escapes from the person's lips/mouth. I don't like saliva sounds at all, I never have. I don't know why I am so sensitive to them, but I am.

>

> For the past 17 years I have been explaining to people who enter my work enviroment not to make certain sounds. Mostly, repetitive tapping. I have always found most people to be kind and understanding. I manage a bar while also acting as the head bartender. People tend to tap a lot. It is akward, but I explain. Mostly, they apologise to me. Other than a handle full of overly drunk people, everyone understands. I have a great staff and following of regular customers who help explaine to new people how tapping physically hurts me. In 17 years I never experienced what happened last night. 2 guys, one of them, Collin, I have known for a wile. I don,t see him for long, mostly during shift change. But we always exchange pleasentries. He has always been very laid back and polite. Last night his friend had a quarter and kept tapping it on the bar. When I asked him to please stop Collin joined in with finger tapping. I was trying to explain, but they didn't

care. I started to panic. I said Lynda, my waitress, would explain, and fled to the kitchen where I stood shaking. Lynda talked to them and told them how it effects me. I regained composer and returned to work. I starting talking to them and to explain my reactions. They seemed to be listning. These were not strangers to me. They asked me about it, and I explained that it was a real condition and had to do with the wiring of the brain. The next words out of my mouth were to be that Misophonia causes a fight or flight response, when Collin, whom I trusted, Took both of his fingers and very rapidly started to tap. I didn't even have time to think, out of impulse, feeling under attack, I drew back and slapped him across the face with full force. He jumped up and I broke in to tears. I said how very sorry I was and that I would do anything to fix it. His fist was raised and he said I was lucky to be a woman. I said please hit me, I'm so sorry. He told me to

F off and left the bar. I guess I reacted so severly because I knew them, it was explained to them, they saw my initial reaction, and yet chose to hurt me. I guess I saw it as self defense. Didn't help that I had been up for four days. I feel so ashamed. I was affected all night. I have never acted this way. The one time it was that bad, I punched myself in the face and asked them if they wanted to continue hurting me.How do I get over this shame? Misophonia is my problem, yes he provocted me but I cant't excuse my reaction. I don't think I would have done this to a stranger. I ALWAYS TAKE FLIGHT. This time I fought. Has anyone else ever behaved this way? I never expected someone I know to disrespect me so. I guess he had been drinking all day. His friend told me to stop beating myself up. He said he would talk to him. Is my behavior forgiveable, especially concidering my position?

>

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>

[Guest guest]

Collin, was mad that I was not going to be disciplined. He was told that he was

hurting me at least three times. He assulted me when I beggeg him yo top. Now he

is going to press charges. He he knew he was hurting me first. Doesn't help that

his boyfriend went through a mutual firing and quitting a few months go. So time

to fce the music.I'll be ok. I just believe tht when the alcohol wore off he is

still being such n f'ing jerk. I alway thought hr was so sweet and understnding.

I have an Pology letter ready and everything

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[Guest guest]

Not sure you want to send an apology letter without someone reviewing it with an eye toward his possibly pressing charges. Time to protect yourself. Sent from my iPhone

Collin, was mad that I was not going to be disciplined. He was told that he was hurting me at least three times. He assulted me when I beggeg him yo top. Now he is going to press charges. He he knew he was hurting me first. Doesn't help that his boyfriend went through a mutual firing and quitting a few months go. So time to fce the music.I'll be ok. I just believe tht when the alcohol wore off he is still being such n f'ing jerk. I alway thought hr was so sweet and understnding. I have an Pology letter ready and everything

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