Re: Noise even in the country. Thoughts and Advice, please!

[Guest guest]

I believe this sounds like misophonia.I too have been bothered by basketballs, stereos, and people talking in other rooms.I have also had experiences very similar to yours -- where everything goes just fine for a time, a few months or even a year.And then someone moves in next door, or something changes and some new noise enters the environment.It leaves me infuriated and wishing, "why can't this one thing just stop? Then everything would be perfect! Why can't it be like it was before?"I've found that earplugs and noise machines can be very helpful, also listening to music.It doesn't

stop the problem completely, but it helps my obsession level and gives me back some "control."One of the problems with being somewhere that's *almost* perfect, is that the one imperfection can drive you absolutely nuts. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, January 20, 2012 10:10 AM Subject: Noise even in the country. Thoughts and Advice, please!

Hi! I don't know exactly what condition I have I get disturbed by eating sounds, but I can avoid those. I get furious around basketballs, stereos, motorcycles, people talking in other rooms or yards, car doors shutting, shoes clipping in stores, sounds I can't get away from.

I was tormented living in the city for the last few years. I moved to the country to get away from noise. It was peaceful a year. Now there's a new neighbor who sometimes likes to play his truck stereo in his garage. It's not crazy-loud, but he's clear across the street and I can hear it in my backyard. He's a younger guy, who occasionally comes and goes on a dirt bike at 1am or 7am. I wake up feeling violated.

The yards here are 1/2-1 acre wide. I am the only person it seems to bother. He's not in any lawful violation, and doesn't look like he'd be open to altering his lifestyle to my special needs.

I'm fearing summer noise based on his actions on the good-weather-days since he moved here in October. Talking to this guy is OUT of the question, as is anything legal. I will have to find ways to cope. It stinks to be afraid of Spring because of the noise of others.

Can anyone tell what specific condition this sounds like? Any other thoughts or suggestions on buffering the noise or treating the condition holistically are welcomed.

[Guest guest]

I hate neighbor noise of any kind, especially stereos. I am glad I am no longer

in apartments. Still, even with free-standing houses, morons have a way of

invading your space with their stupid noise. Some kind of whirring fan type

noise might help. I can't even stand loud stereos when I am sitting in my car at

a red light in the summer and morons around me have blasting stereos of their

bad music taste torturing me. This reminds me of something funny that happened

to me, which could have turned out scary, but I have quick thinking. In a

parking lot of a bunch of shops, I walked back to my car. Parked right next to

me was a moron blasting stupid music. As I pulled away, I thought I discreetly

put my middle finger low on my side window. As I am driving slowly around the

parking lot, the moron drives up fast and pulls right next to me and looks about

ready to kill me. He said, " Why did you give me the finger, huh? " I am a 5-foot

woman and the moron is a big man. So, I put on a fake foreign accent and said

stuff like I had no idea what he was saying. I said, " Geev mee? I am sorry, my

English not so good. I can help you? " I am dark-skinned so that helped, too. The

moron sped off feeling stupid, which he already is to begin with anyway.

Something similar happened to my sister. She thought quick, too; she told her

moron that she was doing the gesture to the occupants in her own car, which was

our parents.

>

> Hi! I don't know exactly what condition I have I get disturbed by eating

sounds, but I can avoid those. I get furious around basketballs, stereos,

motorcycles, people talking in other rooms or yards, car doors shutting, shoes

clipping in stores, sounds I can't get away from.

>

> I was tormented living in the city for the last few years. I moved to the

country to get away from noise. It was peaceful a year. Now there's a new

neighbor who sometimes likes to play his truck stereo in his garage. It's not

crazy-loud, but he's clear across the street and I can hear it in my backyard.

He's a younger guy, who occasionally comes and goes on a dirt bike at 1am or

7am. I wake up feeling violated.

>

> The yards here are 1/2-1 acre wide. I am the only person it seems to bother.

He's not in any lawful violation, and doesn't look like he'd be open to altering

his lifestyle to my special needs.

>

> I'm fearing summer noise based on his actions on the good-weather-days since

he moved here in October. Talking to this guy is OUT of the question, as is

anything legal. I will have to find ways to cope. It stinks to be afraid of

Spring because of the noise of others.

>

> Can anyone tell what specific condition this sounds like? Any other thoughts

or suggestions on buffering the noise or treating the condition holistically are

welcomed.

>

[Guest guest]

I hate neighbor noise of any kind, especially stereos. I am glad I am no longer

in apartments. Still, even with free-standing houses, morons have a way of

invading your space with their stupid noise. Some kind of whirring fan type

noise might help. I can't even stand loud stereos when I am sitting in my car at

a red light in the summer and morons around me have blasting stereos of their

bad music taste torturing me. This reminds me of something funny that happened

to me, which could have turned out scary, but I have quick thinking. In a

parking lot of a bunch of shops, I walked back to my car. Parked right next to

me was a moron blasting stupid music. As I pulled away, I thought I discreetly

put my middle finger low on my side window. As I am driving slowly around the

parking lot, the moron drives up fast and pulls right next to me and looks about

ready to kill me. He said, " Why did you give me the finger, huh? " I am a 5-foot

woman and the moron is a big man. So, I put on a fake foreign accent and said

stuff like I had no idea what he was saying. I said, " Geev mee? I am sorry, my

English not so good. I can help you? " I am dark-skinned so that helped, too. The

moron sped off feeling stupid, which he already is to begin with anyway.

Something similar happened to my sister. She thought quick, too; she told her

moron that she was doing the gesture to the occupants in her own car, which was

our parents.

>

> Hi! I don't know exactly what condition I have I get disturbed by eating

sounds, but I can avoid those. I get furious around basketballs, stereos,

motorcycles, people talking in other rooms or yards, car doors shutting, shoes

clipping in stores, sounds I can't get away from.

>

> I was tormented living in the city for the last few years. I moved to the

country to get away from noise. It was peaceful a year. Now there's a new

neighbor who sometimes likes to play his truck stereo in his garage. It's not

crazy-loud, but he's clear across the street and I can hear it in my backyard.

He's a younger guy, who occasionally comes and goes on a dirt bike at 1am or

7am. I wake up feeling violated.

>

> The yards here are 1/2-1 acre wide. I am the only person it seems to bother.

He's not in any lawful violation, and doesn't look like he'd be open to altering

his lifestyle to my special needs.

>

> I'm fearing summer noise based on his actions on the good-weather-days since

he moved here in October. Talking to this guy is OUT of the question, as is

anything legal. I will have to find ways to cope. It stinks to be afraid of

Spring because of the noise of others.

>

> Can anyone tell what specific condition this sounds like? Any other thoughts

or suggestions on buffering the noise or treating the condition holistically are

welcomed.

>

[Guest guest]

I too moved to the country but misophonia moved with me. I can avoid mouth

noises, breathing and footsteps by staying home (except for husband and some

others, of course). I am anguished and disturbed by mowers, blowers, vacuums,

car stereos, chain saws, back-up construction beeps, conversation, radios and

garage bands and any other sounds in the distance. It's because I have

misophonia and there's nothing I can do about it. I am very happy to know I am

not alone and I am excited to know there is some research happening.

I have some headphones and earplugs and that's how I cope. I found some earplugs

at the hardware store that come on a thing that looks like a headband. I keep

them around my neck when I am outside so I can quickly get them in and not have

to fuss with getting separate earplugs in. Sometimes I just have to run inside

and scream. I am so grateful that I can live simply and my husband can support

us and I don't have to work very much. I keep myself somewhat calm and

somewhat sane by knowing that we are not alone and someday there will be a cure.

>

> I believe this sounds like misophonia.

>

> I too have been bothered by basketballs, stereos, and people talking in other

rooms.

>

> I have also had experiences very similar to yours -- where everything goes

just fine for a time, a few months or even a year.

> And then someone moves in next door, or something changes and some new noise

enters the environment.

> It leaves me infuriated and wishing, " why can't this one thing just stop?

 Then everything would be perfect!  Why can't it be like it was before? "

>

> I've found that earplugs and noise machines can be very helpful, also

listening to music.

> It doesn't stop the problem completely, but it helps my obsession level and

gives me back some " control. "

>

> One of the problems with being somewhere that's *almost* perfect, is that the

one imperfection can drive you absolutely nuts.

>

>

> Chris

>

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Sent: Friday, January 20, 2012 10:10 AM

> Subject: Noise even in the country. Thoughts and Advice,

please!

>

>

>  

> Hi! I don't know exactly what condition I have I get disturbed by eating

sounds, but I can avoid those. I get furious around basketballs, stereos,

motorcycles, people talking in other rooms or yards, car doors shutting, shoes

clipping in stores, sounds I can't get away from.

>

> I was tormented living in the city for the last few years. I moved to the

country to get away from noise. It was peaceful a year. Now there's a new

neighbor who sometimes likes to play his truck stereo in his garage. It's not

crazy-loud, but he's clear across the street and I can hear it in my backyard.

He's a younger guy, who occasionally comes and goes on a dirt bike at 1am or

7am. I wake up feeling violated.

>

> The yards here are 1/2-1 acre wide. I am the only person it seems to bother.

He's not in any lawful violation, and doesn't look like he'd be open to altering

his lifestyle to my special needs.

>

> I'm fearing summer noise based on his actions on the good-weather-days since

he moved here in October. Talking to this guy is OUT of the question, as is

anything legal. I will have to find ways to cope. It stinks to be afraid of

Spring because of the noise of others.

>

> Can anyone tell what specific condition this sounds like? Any other thoughts

or suggestions on buffering the noise or treating the condition holistically are

welcomed.

>

[Guest guest]

I too moved to the country but misophonia moved with me. I can avoid mouth

noises, breathing and footsteps by staying home (except for husband and some

others, of course). I am anguished and disturbed by mowers, blowers, vacuums,

car stereos, chain saws, back-up construction beeps, conversation, radios and

garage bands and any other sounds in the distance. It's because I have

misophonia and there's nothing I can do about it. I am very happy to know I am

not alone and I am excited to know there is some research happening.

I have some headphones and earplugs and that's how I cope. I found some earplugs

at the hardware store that come on a thing that looks like a headband. I keep

them around my neck when I am outside so I can quickly get them in and not have

to fuss with getting separate earplugs in. Sometimes I just have to run inside

and scream. I am so grateful that I can live simply and my husband can support

us and I don't have to work very much. I keep myself somewhat calm and

somewhat sane by knowing that we are not alone and someday there will be a cure.

>

> I believe this sounds like misophonia.

>

> I too have been bothered by basketballs, stereos, and people talking in other

rooms.

>

> I have also had experiences very similar to yours -- where everything goes

just fine for a time, a few months or even a year.

> And then someone moves in next door, or something changes and some new noise

enters the environment.

> It leaves me infuriated and wishing, " why can't this one thing just stop?

 Then everything would be perfect!  Why can't it be like it was before? "

>

> I've found that earplugs and noise machines can be very helpful, also

listening to music.

> It doesn't stop the problem completely, but it helps my obsession level and

gives me back some " control. "

>

> One of the problems with being somewhere that's *almost* perfect, is that the

one imperfection can drive you absolutely nuts.

>

>

> Chris

>

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Sent: Friday, January 20, 2012 10:10 AM

> Subject: Noise even in the country. Thoughts and Advice,

please!

>

>

>  

> Hi! I don't know exactly what condition I have I get disturbed by eating

sounds, but I can avoid those. I get furious around basketballs, stereos,

motorcycles, people talking in other rooms or yards, car doors shutting, shoes

clipping in stores, sounds I can't get away from.

>

> I was tormented living in the city for the last few years. I moved to the

country to get away from noise. It was peaceful a year. Now there's a new

neighbor who sometimes likes to play his truck stereo in his garage. It's not

crazy-loud, but he's clear across the street and I can hear it in my backyard.

He's a younger guy, who occasionally comes and goes on a dirt bike at 1am or

7am. I wake up feeling violated.

>

> The yards here are 1/2-1 acre wide. I am the only person it seems to bother.

He's not in any lawful violation, and doesn't look like he'd be open to altering

his lifestyle to my special needs.

>

> I'm fearing summer noise based on his actions on the good-weather-days since

he moved here in October. Talking to this guy is OUT of the question, as is

anything legal. I will have to find ways to cope. It stinks to be afraid of

Spring because of the noise of others.

>

> Can anyone tell what specific condition this sounds like? Any other thoughts

or suggestions on buffering the noise or treating the condition holistically are

welcomed.

>

[Guest guest]

Sorry to post again: Misophonia makes it impossible for us to become used to

sounds like other people do. Everything is OK for a while in a new place but

then we hear the new sounds over and over again. And even when we are not aware

of the sounds our nervous systems are. Then comes the day that the sound

becomes a trigger and it all sucks again. So we either keep moving or we

surrender. I can't move again.

>

> I believe this sounds like misophonia.

>

> I too have been bothered by basketballs, stereos, and people talking in other

rooms.

>

> I have also had experiences very similar to yours -- where everything goes

just fine for a time, a few months or even a year.

> And then someone moves in next door, or something changes and some new noise

enters the environment.

> It leaves me infuriated and wishing, " why can't this one thing just stop?

 Then everything would be perfect!  Why can't it be like it was before? "

>

> I've found that earplugs and noise machines can be very helpful, also

listening to music.

> It doesn't stop the problem completely, but it helps my obsession level and

gives me back some " control. "

>

> One of the problems with being somewhere that's *almost* perfect, is that the

one imperfection can drive you absolutely nuts.

>

>

> Chris

>

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Sent: Friday, January 20, 2012 10:10 AM

> Subject: Noise even in the country. Thoughts and Advice,

please!

>

>

>  

> Hi! I don't know exactly what condition I have I get disturbed by eating

sounds, but I can avoid those. I get furious around basketballs, stereos,

motorcycles, people talking in other rooms or yards, car doors shutting, shoes

clipping in stores, sounds I can't get away from.

>

> I was tormented living in the city for the last few years. I moved to the

country to get away from noise. It was peaceful a year. Now there's a new

neighbor who sometimes likes to play his truck stereo in his garage. It's not

crazy-loud, but he's clear across the street and I can hear it in my backyard.

He's a younger guy, who occasionally comes and goes on a dirt bike at 1am or

7am. I wake up feeling violated.

>

> The yards here are 1/2-1 acre wide. I am the only person it seems to bother.

He's not in any lawful violation, and doesn't look like he'd be open to altering

his lifestyle to my special needs.

>

> I'm fearing summer noise based on his actions on the good-weather-days since

he moved here in October. Talking to this guy is OUT of the question, as is

anything legal. I will have to find ways to cope. It stinks to be afraid of

Spring because of the noise of others.

>

> Can anyone tell what specific condition this sounds like? Any other thoughts

or suggestions on buffering the noise or treating the condition holistically are

welcomed.

>

[Guest guest]

When I read those words, "I hate neighbor noise of any kind," I wondered if I had written that post myself. For as long as I can remember, (and that's a long time,) I have freaked out about throbbing stereos, barking dogs, revving mopeds, and even loud talking, especially for long periods of time late at night. Our homes are very close together, and our weather is often mild, so my windows are open most of the time. Otherwise, I get claustrophobia. Our houses are built of single redwood planks which offer little protection from outside noises, and to make it even more extreme, I live on a hill above a shopping center which has a small coffee shop that sets up a live band on random evenings. That band draws a crowd of caffeine fiends who scream and whoop into the

night. I can't relax in my own home, never mind sleep, then my stomach begins to ache as if I had consumed poison... The anger burns me to the core. I'm just venting... Sorry... I've lived in many different houses in 3 different states, and it's always the same. For years I've been fighting the battle by asking people nicely to keep the noise down. They either get mad, or just stare in disbelief and think I'm some sort of psycho. People are going to continue to slurp, grunt, sneeze, play music, race cars, etc. Calling the police is like spraying a mist on a raging fire. The police don't really cre. They have more pressing issues to deal with. I'm looking at land in the country, but I also ran across some throwbacks who live in the middle of nowhere so they can make as much noise as

they want... I have noise cancelling earphones. They're great for cancelling the noise of the airplane engines during flights, but that's about it. I also have 2 ear infections from excessive use of earplugs. Yoga, gardening, and pets are my salvation. So is this forum. Thanks for listening.

[Guest guest]

I would agree if the offender was making “normal” noises, however in this case of the blasting stereo, anyone who plays loud pounding music loudly where others can hear are simply being rude to EVERYone, not just those with misophonia who may or may not be nearby, known or unknown to the offender. I do not have misophonia (my son does), but I still consider anyone who blasts their stereo near others to be rude and inconsiderate to everyone, and just because they may not know there is someone nearby with misophonia, is no excuse for them to still treat everyone else (such as me) with such rudeness. I might have chosen a different word than “moron”, only because it has been wrongly used before as a derogatory version of a disability, but I also think the use of that word may have been part of venting the resulting extreme frustration and this is supposed to be a safe place to do that. That said, I do still agree with you when it’s about “normal” everyday sounds where the “offender” has no way of knowing that they are hurting someone, such as when eating, shutting a car door, how they pronounce certain consonants, etc). (Note to Mel: I’m giving you the benefit of the doubt – that you called them morons because their behaviour would be considered rude and inconsiderate to anyone, with or without misophonia, and they should know better in this case). Just my 2 cents . . . From: Soundsensitivity [mailto:Soundsensitivity ] On Behalf Of JoySent: Tuesday, January 24, 2012 11:09 AMTo: Soundsensitivity Subject: Re: Noise even in the country. Thoughts and Advice, please! Something that I would like to make clear right now is that NOBODY, whether they bother you or not is a MORON. It is not a stranger's responsibility to turn their music down because they are unaware of a condition that you have. It is your responsibility as a human being to treat others as you would like to be treated. Would you like it if someone judged you and labeled you as a moron simply because you were minding your own business, enjoying your daily life? I'm disappointed to hear that some of us give complete strangers the bird because they are unaware of a rare condition that just recently has begun to be researched. How can you expect someone to even WANT to acommodate your condition if you treat them like that??The problem we all share is OUR problem, and our loved ones support us and accommodate us accordingly however to call people you don't even know names and judge them because of YOUR problem is completely unfair. We undergo judgements everyday by people who just don't get it or think that we should simply " just get over it " . To be judgemental ourselves against people without this issue shocks saddens me.Now I have to wonder, why is talking to this guy out of the question? In my personal experience, being up front with someone, letting them know " It's not you, it's me " and asking them to help you cope by (in my case) eating quieter, or to not get offended if I run out of the room to finish a meal. Just letting them know that you have a problem that you are dealing with and that something they are innocently doing are triggering these reactions in you.In fact, even in real time, in my case a friend was eating next to me. I turned to him and I said " Oh man... I'm sorry but you just started eating and a huge wave of anxiety just came over me, you aren't doing anything wrong but my god i can't deal with listening to you eat " He reacted kindly, he said " oops! forgot! " and got up and ate somewhere else. Now in that example, he was a friend who knew that the sounds of others eating drive me insane. Complete strangers are less understanding, but approaching them with kindness and an explanation of what happens to you when your triggers occur will give you much better results than holding it in, getting angry at them, or even worse, judging them.> >> > Hi! I don't know exactly what condition I have I get disturbed by eating sounds, but I can avoid those. I get furious around basketballs, stereos, motorcycles, people talking in other rooms or yards, car doors shutting, shoes clipping in stores, sounds I can't get away from. > > > > I was tormented living in the city for the last few years. I moved to the country to get away from noise. It was peaceful a year. Now there's a new neighbor who sometimes likes to play his truck stereo in his garage. It's not crazy-loud, but he's clear across the street and I can hear it in my backyard. He's a younger guy, who occasionally comes and goes on a dirt bike at 1am or 7am. I wake up feeling violated. > > > > The yards here are 1/2-1 acre wide. I am the only person it seems to bother. He's not in any lawful violation, and doesn't look like he'd be open to altering his lifestyle to my special needs. > > > > I'm fearing summer noise based on his actions on the good-weather-days since he moved here in October. Talking to this guy is OUT of the question, as is anything legal. I will have to find ways to cope. It stinks to be afraid of Spring because of the noise of others. > > > > Can anyone tell what specific condition this sounds like? Any other thoughts or suggestions on buffering the noise or treating the condition holistically are welcomed.> >>

[Guest guest]

I'm the OP. I appreciated hearing others who understand my problem. I could

relate to your frustrations as well. The band at the coffee shop would put me in

the psych ward.

Yelling, blasting a stereo for the whole block to hear, or revving an engine at

sleeping hours are downright rude imho. It has been my experience, that people

who are grossly inconsiderate, don't care how anyone else feels. It has been

my repeated experience, that despite kind, respectful, tactful requests, almost

every neighbor I've ever addressed about noise resented it and did the complete

opposite out of spite.

Anyway! I'm trying to set up my house for the spring, planting as many bushes

and shrubs to absorb sound and prevent me from seeing the neighbor across the

street who disturbs me. It seems I have a trigger with the visual too. Does

anyone else have that?

[Guest guest]

I have visuals too. I could NEVER stand to hear or see Geo W Bush whenever he was on TV. Also Madden. I don't know why some people affect us but they do. Also, I think there is definitely something connected here that has to do with what our expectations are of other people. I was raised by a strict father and " learned " that people who didn't live by the rules of society were rude and annoying. I can separate the two things... loud stereos vs breathing... I get the same anger and feel like I'm going to explode when I hear either one, but I can talk myself down easier when it's something that people can't really help... like breathing or eating, than someone who chooses to play loud music or talk loud when they know most people would be asleep... Or sniff rather than blow their nose! That is a bad one for me. 

There is a dog in my neighborhood that barks and sounds like he has a megaphone attached to him. It's the most dreadful noise and extremely loud. When something gets him barking, I run to get my earplugs.Then I rant about how I hate the people who own him and I don't understand why they just let him stay outside and bark. I first think I hate the dog, then I realize that it isn't the dog's fault, but the owners. Then there are the days when my neighbors are outside with the dog and he barks and barks. That really p******s me off! But then again, it doesn't bother them, so it must not bother anyone else... right?  I guess that's how they think. 

Whew! That felt good to vent.  Sorry. 

 

I'm the OP. I appreciated hearing others who understand my problem. I could relate to your frustrations as well. The band at the coffee shop would put me in the psych ward.

Yelling, blasting a stereo for the whole block to hear, or revving an engine at sleeping hours are downright rude imho. It has been my experience, that people who are grossly inconsiderate, don't care how anyone else feels. It has been my repeated experience, that despite kind, respectful, tactful requests, almost every neighbor I've ever addressed about noise resented it and did the complete opposite out of spite.

Anyway! I'm trying to set up my house for the spring, planting as many bushes and shrubs to absorb sound and prevent me from seeing the neighbor across the street who disturbs me. It seems I have a trigger with the visual too. Does anyone else have that?

[Guest guest]

I agree that there is something to the notion of. While it still affects me to hear, the anger subsides at a much faster pace after hearing fire truck sirens, babies crying, dogs barking (all sounds from things that can't help it). It's the people that do things that I feel are not being considerate to the others around them that affect my anger for greater spans of time. Which is why, for a long time before I came across the term Misophonia, I believed that "I" was the wronged party in the equation, unable to appropriately handle the situation. Why could I handle a truck siren better than a car alarm going off for 10 minutes? On the subways before I got my noise cancellation headphones and downloaded a white noise app for my iphone (Relax Melodies is the one I found the most useful ... it's free) , I used to close my eyes and try to image the nail clipping noise or gum snapping as a less offensive action, like a child dropping a small toy on the ground. On a good day this would work. On a bad day it did nothing

To some extend this holds true for radio blasting. If you haven't gathered by now, I live in a big city, so I've had my share of inconsiderate neighbors. But the same phenomenon holds true. If my roommate, whom I love, is blasting her music, the anger Misophonia produces lasts for short periods of time, if at all. It's because I can go over there and talk to her and the problem gets resolved. I know she is considerate and wants me to not be in pain. It's because, in a sense, I still have control over the sound. Bass blasting at a concert affects me little, because it was my choice to be there and I can leave at any time. Hearing someone chew in my home, while still triggering the Misophonia, is less offensive than hearing someone eat on the subway.I understand not being able to talk to a certain type of person, the ones that blast there music on a daily basis (I've had to move because of the interactions with particular neighbors). There was one book I read, and recommend to those that haven't, that helped me deal with talking to people. "How to Win Friends and Influence People". At first I was against the suggestions in the book, because they seemed kind of manipulative and I'm not that person. But I started using them to talk to the Misophonia offenders, and it worked in certain situations, so I got over my guilt. I can't say it always works, because there will always be levels of "morons" out there that are too self absorbed. But it helps with the people that are genuinely unaware that they are causing harm.Other than that.. Bose QuiteComfort 15's have saved my insanity on a daily basis. Alternating between those and noise cancellation earbud headphone (to alleviate the sore ears) makes my life bearable.

[Guest guest]

I agree that there is something to the notion of. While it still affects me to hear, the anger subsides at a much faster pace after hearing fire truck sirens, babies crying, dogs barking (all sounds from things that can't help it). It's the people that do things that I feel are not being considerate to the others around them that affect my anger for greater spans of time. Which is why, for a long time before I came across the term Misophonia, I believed that "I" was the wronged party in the equation, unable to appropriately handle the situation. Why could I handle a truck siren better than a car alarm going off for 10 minutes? On the subways before I got my noise cancellation headphones and downloaded a white noise app for my iphone (Relax Melodies is the one I found the most useful ... it's free) , I used to close my eyes and try to image the nail clipping noise or gum snapping as a less offensive action, like a child dropping a small toy on the ground. On a good day this would work. On a bad day it did nothing

To some extend this holds true for radio blasting. If you haven't gathered by now, I live in a big city, so I've had my share of inconsiderate neighbors. But the same phenomenon holds true. If my roommate, whom I love, is blasting her music, the anger Misophonia produces lasts for short periods of time, if at all. It's because I can go over there and talk to her and the problem gets resolved. I know she is considerate and wants me to not be in pain. It's because, in a sense, I still have control over the sound. Bass blasting at a concert affects me little, because it was my choice to be there and I can leave at any time. Hearing someone chew in my home, while still triggering the Misophonia, is less offensive than hearing someone eat on the subway.I understand not being able to talk to a certain type of person, the ones that blast there music on a daily basis (I've had to move because of the interactions with particular neighbors). There was one book I read, and recommend to those that haven't, that helped me deal with talking to people. "How to Win Friends and Influence People". At first I was against the suggestions in the book, because they seemed kind of manipulative and I'm not that person. But I started using them to talk to the Misophonia offenders, and it worked in certain situations, so I got over my guilt. I can't say it always works, because there will always be levels of "morons" out there that are too self absorbed. But it helps with the people that are genuinely unaware that they are causing harm.Other than that.. Bose QuiteComfort 15's have saved my insanity on a daily basis. Alternating between those and noise cancellation earbud headphone (to alleviate the sore ears) makes my life bearable.

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I agree that there is something to the notion of. While it still affects me to hear, the anger subsides at a much faster pace after hearing fire truck sirens, babies crying, dogs barking (all sounds from things that can't help it). It's the people that do things that I feel are not being considerate to the others around them that affect my anger for greater spans of time. Which is why, for a long time before I came across the term Misophonia, I believed that "I" was the wronged party in the equation, unable to appropriately handle the situation. Why could I handle a truck siren better than a car alarm going off for 10 minutes? On the subways before I got my noise cancellation headphones and downloaded a white noise app for my iphone (Relax Melodies is the one I found the most useful ... it's free) , I used to close my eyes and try to image the nail clipping noise or gum snapping as a less offensive action, like a child dropping a small toy on the ground. On a good day this would work. On a bad day it did nothing

To some extend this holds true for radio blasting. If you haven't gathered by now, I live in a big city, so I've had my share of inconsiderate neighbors. But the same phenomenon holds true. If my roommate, whom I love, is blasting her music, the anger Misophonia produces lasts for short periods of time, if at all. It's because I can go over there and talk to her and the problem gets resolved. I know she is considerate and wants me to not be in pain. It's because, in a sense, I still have control over the sound. Bass blasting at a concert affects me little, because it was my choice to be there and I can leave at any time. Hearing someone chew in my home, while still triggering the Misophonia, is less offensive than hearing someone eat on the subway.I understand not being able to talk to a certain type of person, the ones that blast there music on a daily basis (I've had to move because of the interactions with particular neighbors). There was one book I read, and recommend to those that haven't, that helped me deal with talking to people. "How to Win Friends and Influence People". At first I was against the suggestions in the book, because they seemed kind of manipulative and I'm not that person. But I started using them to talk to the Misophonia offenders, and it worked in certain situations, so I got over my guilt. I can't say it always works, because there will always be levels of "morons" out there that are too self absorbed. But it helps with the people that are genuinely unaware that they are causing harm.Other than that.. Bose QuiteComfort 15's have saved my insanity on a daily basis. Alternating between those and noise cancellation earbud headphone (to alleviate the sore ears) makes my life bearable.

[Guest guest]

ellawki,

Can you explain more about the suggestions in " How to Win Friends and Influence

People " ?

What are some of the suggestions and how do you employ them to get offenders to

be quiet?

>

>

> I agree that there is something to the notion of. While it still affects

> me to hear, the anger subsides at a much faster pace after hearing fire

> truck sirens, babies crying, dogs barking (all sounds from things that

> can't help it). It's the people that do things that I feel are not being

> considerate to the others around them that affect my anger for greater

> spans of time. Which is why, for a long time before I came across the

> term Misophonia, I believed that " I " was the wronged party in the

> equation, unable to appropriately handle the situation. Why could I

> handle a truck siren better than a car alarm going off for 10 minutes?

> On the subways before I got my noise cancellation headphones and

> downloaded a white noise app for my iphone (Relax Melodies

> <http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/relax-melodies-a-white-noise/id314498713\

> ?mt=8> is the one I found the most useful ... it's free) , I used to

> close my eyes and try to image the nail clipping noise or gum snapping

> as a less offensive action, like a child dropping a small toy on the

> ground. On a good day this would work. On a bad day it did nothing

>

> To some extend this holds true for radio blasting. If you haven't

> gathered by now, I live in a big city, so I've had my share of

> inconsiderate neighbors. But the same phenomenon holds true. If my

> roommate, whom I love, is blasting her music, the anger Misophonia

> produces lasts for short periods of time, if at all. It's because I can

> go over there and talk to her and the problem gets resolved. I know she

> is considerate and wants me to not be in pain. It's because, in a sense,

> I still have control over the sound. Bass blasting at a concert affects

> me little, because it was my choice to be there and I can leave at any

> time. Hearing someone chew in my home, while still triggering the

> Misophonia, is less offensive than hearing someone eat on the subway.

>

> I understand not being able to talk to a certain type of person, the

> ones that blast there music on a daily basis (I've had to move because

> of the interactions with particular neighbors). There was one book I

> read, and recommend to those that haven't, that helped me deal with

> talking to people. " How to Win Friends and Influence People " . At first I

> was against the suggestions in the book, because they seemed kind of

> manipulative and I'm not that person. But I started using them to talk

> to the Misophonia offenders, and it worked in certain situations, so I

> got over my guilt. I can't say it always works, because there will

> always be levels of " morons " out there that are too self absorbed. But

> it helps with the people that are genuinely unaware that they are

> causing harm.

>

> Other than that.. Bose QuiteComfort 15's have saved my insanity on a

> daily basis. Alternating between those and noise cancellation earbud

> headphone (to alleviate the sore ears) makes my life bearable.

>

[Guest guest]

Definitely sounds like you're in the right place! Misophonia, aka Sound

Sensitivity Syndrome, aka 4S. I only heard of this condition from a friend who

read an article and it reminded him of this crazy chick he knows that wants to

hurt people when they chew. I'm so grateful I learned that there's an actual

word for this AND a place where we can support each other!

I strongly identify with the neighbor issues. My newly-wed husband and I live

under a family of SEVEN. It was only annoying at first. I've only recently

noticed that it is a trrrrrrrrrrrigger for the misophonia. Hence the rage. Hence

the " anything legal " being out of the question! 5 kids and no carpeting upstairs

and parents who don't have inside voices... I'd usually be angry with shoulders

touching my ear lobes whenever I'm home...

What I do is wear earplugs at home. When watching TV, the plugs, plus my hubby's

supersonic headphones nearly completely shut out each boom, bang, stomp or step

from above. I am trying to play less death-metal at excruciatingly loud decibels

in retaliation, but hey, no one's perfect.

I understand and share your fears. If I'm not actively angry about what's

upstairs, I am anxious with anticipation for the next disturbance. My buffers

are merely earplugs. And whatever noise I can make. Holistically, I use teas

(Kava, a stress reliever), meditation, aromatherapy and white sage/crystals to

balance the anger, anxiety and negativity. That is, when I'm not tripping on the

high of anger! If I can create some quiet within, the noise around me lessens,

if only by a fraction.

*<>*

\__/

>

> Hi! I don't know exactly what condition I have I get disturbed by eating

sounds, but I can avoid those. I get furious around basketballs, stereos,

motorcycles, people talking in other rooms or yards, car doors shutting, shoes

clipping in stores, sounds I can't get away from.

>

> I was tormented living in the city for the last few years. I moved to the

country to get away from noise. It was peaceful a year. Now there's a new

neighbor who sometimes likes to play his truck stereo in his garage. It's not

crazy-loud, but he's clear across the street and I can hear it in my backyard.

He's a younger guy, who occasionally comes and goes on a dirt bike at 1am or

7am. I wake up feeling violated.

>

> The yards here are 1/2-1 acre wide. I am the only person it seems to bother.

He's not in any lawful violation, and doesn't look like he'd be open to altering

his lifestyle to my special needs.

>

> I'm fearing summer noise based on his actions on the good-weather-days since

he moved here in October. Talking to this guy is OUT of the question, as is

anything legal. I will have to find ways to cope. It stinks to be afraid of

Spring because of the noise of others.

>

> Can anyone tell what specific condition this sounds like? Any other thoughts

or suggestions on buffering the noise or treating the condition holistically are

welcomed.

>

[Guest guest]

Definitely sounds like you're in the right place! Misophonia, aka Sound

Sensitivity Syndrome, aka 4S. I only heard of this condition from a friend who

read an article and it reminded him of this crazy chick he knows that wants to

hurt people when they chew. I'm so grateful I learned that there's an actual

word for this AND a place where we can support each other!

I strongly identify with the neighbor issues. My newly-wed husband and I live

under a family of SEVEN. It was only annoying at first. I've only recently

noticed that it is a trrrrrrrrrrrigger for the misophonia. Hence the rage. Hence

the " anything legal " being out of the question! 5 kids and no carpeting upstairs

and parents who don't have inside voices... I'd usually be angry with shoulders

touching my ear lobes whenever I'm home...

What I do is wear earplugs at home. When watching TV, the plugs, plus my hubby's

supersonic headphones nearly completely shut out each boom, bang, stomp or step

from above. I am trying to play less death-metal at excruciatingly loud decibels

in retaliation, but hey, no one's perfect.

I understand and share your fears. If I'm not actively angry about what's

upstairs, I am anxious with anticipation for the next disturbance. My buffers

are merely earplugs. And whatever noise I can make. Holistically, I use teas

(Kava, a stress reliever), meditation, aromatherapy and white sage/crystals to

balance the anger, anxiety and negativity. That is, when I'm not tripping on the

high of anger! If I can create some quiet within, the noise around me lessens,

if only by a fraction.

*<>*

\__/

>

> Hi! I don't know exactly what condition I have I get disturbed by eating

sounds, but I can avoid those. I get furious around basketballs, stereos,

motorcycles, people talking in other rooms or yards, car doors shutting, shoes

clipping in stores, sounds I can't get away from.

>

> I was tormented living in the city for the last few years. I moved to the

country to get away from noise. It was peaceful a year. Now there's a new

neighbor who sometimes likes to play his truck stereo in his garage. It's not

crazy-loud, but he's clear across the street and I can hear it in my backyard.

He's a younger guy, who occasionally comes and goes on a dirt bike at 1am or

7am. I wake up feeling violated.

>

> The yards here are 1/2-1 acre wide. I am the only person it seems to bother.

He's not in any lawful violation, and doesn't look like he'd be open to altering

his lifestyle to my special needs.

>

> I'm fearing summer noise based on his actions on the good-weather-days since

he moved here in October. Talking to this guy is OUT of the question, as is

anything legal. I will have to find ways to cope. It stinks to be afraid of

Spring because of the noise of others.

>

> Can anyone tell what specific condition this sounds like? Any other thoughts

or suggestions on buffering the noise or treating the condition holistically are

welcomed.

>

[Guest guest]

Definitely sounds like you're in the right place! Misophonia, aka Sound

Sensitivity Syndrome, aka 4S. I only heard of this condition from a friend who

read an article and it reminded him of this crazy chick he knows that wants to

hurt people when they chew. I'm so grateful I learned that there's an actual

word for this AND a place where we can support each other!

I strongly identify with the neighbor issues. My newly-wed husband and I live

under a family of SEVEN. It was only annoying at first. I've only recently

noticed that it is a trrrrrrrrrrrigger for the misophonia. Hence the rage. Hence

the " anything legal " being out of the question! 5 kids and no carpeting upstairs

and parents who don't have inside voices... I'd usually be angry with shoulders

touching my ear lobes whenever I'm home...

What I do is wear earplugs at home. When watching TV, the plugs, plus my hubby's

supersonic headphones nearly completely shut out each boom, bang, stomp or step

from above. I am trying to play less death-metal at excruciatingly loud decibels

in retaliation, but hey, no one's perfect.

I understand and share your fears. If I'm not actively angry about what's

upstairs, I am anxious with anticipation for the next disturbance. My buffers

are merely earplugs. And whatever noise I can make. Holistically, I use teas

(Kava, a stress reliever), meditation, aromatherapy and white sage/crystals to

balance the anger, anxiety and negativity. That is, when I'm not tripping on the

high of anger! If I can create some quiet within, the noise around me lessens,

if only by a fraction.

*<>*

\__/

>

> Hi! I don't know exactly what condition I have I get disturbed by eating

sounds, but I can avoid those. I get furious around basketballs, stereos,

motorcycles, people talking in other rooms or yards, car doors shutting, shoes

clipping in stores, sounds I can't get away from.

>

> I was tormented living in the city for the last few years. I moved to the

country to get away from noise. It was peaceful a year. Now there's a new

neighbor who sometimes likes to play his truck stereo in his garage. It's not

crazy-loud, but he's clear across the street and I can hear it in my backyard.

He's a younger guy, who occasionally comes and goes on a dirt bike at 1am or

7am. I wake up feeling violated.

>

> The yards here are 1/2-1 acre wide. I am the only person it seems to bother.

He's not in any lawful violation, and doesn't look like he'd be open to altering

his lifestyle to my special needs.

>

> I'm fearing summer noise based on his actions on the good-weather-days since

he moved here in October. Talking to this guy is OUT of the question, as is

anything legal. I will have to find ways to cope. It stinks to be afraid of

Spring because of the noise of others.

>

> Can anyone tell what specific condition this sounds like? Any other thoughts

or suggestions on buffering the noise or treating the condition holistically are

welcomed.

>

[Guest guest]

Visuals, for sure! Every day on my public transportation commute, I have to look

down or shut my eyes bc someone is doing something that makes my insides shake.

The link below is all about the triggers:

http://www.misophonia.info/symptoms-and-triggers/

>

> > **

> >

> >

> > I'm the OP. I appreciated hearing others who understand my problem. I

> > could relate to your frustrations as well. The band at the coffee shop

> > would put me in the psych ward.

> >

> > Yelling, blasting a stereo for the whole block to hear, or revving an

> > engine at sleeping hours are downright rude imho. It has been my

> > experience, that people who are grossly inconsiderate, don't care how

> > anyone else feels. It has been my repeated experience, that despite kind,

> > respectful, tactful requests, almost every neighbor I've ever addressed

> > about noise resented it and did the complete opposite out of spite.

> >

> > Anyway! I'm trying to set up my house for the spring, planting as many

> > bushes and shrubs to absorb sound and prevent me from seeing the neighbor

> > across the street who disturbs me. It seems I have a trigger with the

> > visual too. Does anyone else have that?

> >

> >

> >

>