SUPPORT BRIGADE FOR ANGELIAC!

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Thanks for your email Angeliac. I wish i had lots of easy answers for you as to

how to easily make things better for you and for everyone else here feeling

similar things. It sounds like you're battling so many feelings as well as the

physical suffering and limitations. If you can try to break everything down in

your head so you focus on taking one thing at a time rather than the whole day,

week, month at a time perhaps that will help you feel more in control of some

things and a little better. For example.. When you have to get out of bed, if

you can just concentrate on THAT and tell yourself you can make it and can

always go back to bed it'll be a little less overwhelming than 'Have to get out

of bed, do food, get the kids to school, get chores done, get errands done' etc.

What im talking about is using your thoughts/your mind to believe what is now

will not always be and just take bits at a time. If there is someone you can

deligate some tasks to, go

for it! Can you get someone to help do what needs to be done to get the kids to

school and help with some of the overwhelming things? It's easy for people to

say get help, get in home help without thinking what we deal with in

'surrendering pride'. At the same time if there isnt anyone as a friend or

relative to help, i would encourage you to consider aid assistance. It wasnt

heaven for me when i took it and at first i hated and bucked it. However, i got

to the point of rolling with it when i didnt have to worry about cleaning floors

and laundry and so many other things. I havent had that assistance in a long

time but i'm getting by. I hear and feel your frustration, anger, fear, despair,

resentment, hopelessness etc. All those feelings are understandable and you need

to find a way to get those out because they take so much energy that will drain

you. Can you talk them out? Are you able to write them down then go back and

look at them and reframe them?

My parents don-t call me. Yesterday my cousin txted me after i 'chased' her

because she didnt answer a txt from the day before. She 'forgot'! Whicg one of

us is sick? At the end oft her txt she wrote 'are you ok?' I txted back 'NO'. I

havent heard from her since! How good is that? If i die i'm going to HAUNT her

and a number of other people. So see? There IS always something fun to think

about! I dont mean to sound glib or trite but i very much believe in the power

of thought and the mind. I dont believe you'll jump over the moon just because

you tell yourself you can but when you turn some thoughts around it can help to

get you through the next hour. This is hard to explain so if any ?s email me.

Never be ashamed of any of your feelings or afraid to get them out. Wish i could

help more. Wish i could make it better. Try to think of easy enjoyable things

you like and take yourself there. I dont know much about your recent dx but

sounds like you need to

just set your sites on getting thru that for now then take on the larger

picture. Hope something helps! Pardon typos.