Re: Re: Fear of ongoing sounds

February 8, 2012

It almost makes it worth paying to rent for the upstairs apartment, in addition to your own, to make sure no one else moves in. Most people would probably have to win the lottery to be able to afford that though. From: Soundsensitivity [mailto:Soundsensitivity ] On Behalf Of stolenlife4Sent: Wednesday, February 08, 2012 9:18 AMTo: Soundsensitivity Subject: Re: Fear of ongoing sounds I seem to get some satisfaction out of knowing where the sound is coming from too. Don't know why that is... I've noticed that for some people, they have to make noises etc to get attention. That's just how they are. And for the anticipation... just shoot me now! I live in an apartment and the people (hardly ever home and fairly quiet) just moved out. Ye Gads! A day doesn't go by that I'm not terrified of who is moving in next. Loud talkers? Loud music? Loud car? Kids running in the apartment? Young people who have cars coming in and out at all hours of the day and night? Oh Calgon, take me away... but where? This is the quietest place I've lived in a very long time. I don't want anything to come that will spoil that... And I'm so worried it will.And the beat goes on...>> > > So I guess it's an intolerance, sensitivity, and fear of sounds. Wow. I hadn't thought about the repetitiveness aspect, but I think I understand how that could tie in to the fear. Can you tell me more about that?> > The lady hiccuping and the guy snapping and drumming--these things would drive me crazy and they just seem rude on top of it all. In another discussion we were talking about the manners aspect of this, which I think ties in to feeling violated. What do you think?>

February 8, 2012

It almost makes it worth paying to rent for the upstairs apartment, in addition to your own, to make sure no one else moves in. Most people would probably have to win the lottery to be able to afford that though. From: Soundsensitivity [mailto:Soundsensitivity ] On Behalf Of stolenlife4Sent: Wednesday, February 08, 2012 9:18 AMTo: Soundsensitivity Subject: Re: Fear of ongoing sounds I seem to get some satisfaction out of knowing where the sound is coming from too. Don't know why that is... I've noticed that for some people, they have to make noises etc to get attention. That's just how they are. And for the anticipation... just shoot me now! I live in an apartment and the people (hardly ever home and fairly quiet) just moved out. Ye Gads! A day doesn't go by that I'm not terrified of who is moving in next. Loud talkers? Loud music? Loud car? Kids running in the apartment? Young people who have cars coming in and out at all hours of the day and night? Oh Calgon, take me away... but where? This is the quietest place I've lived in a very long time. I don't want anything to come that will spoil that... And I'm so worried it will.And the beat goes on...>> > > So I guess it's an intolerance, sensitivity, and fear of sounds. Wow. I hadn't thought about the repetitiveness aspect, but I think I understand how that could tie in to the fear. Can you tell me more about that?> > The lady hiccuping and the guy snapping and drumming--these things would drive me crazy and they just seem rude on top of it all. In another discussion we were talking about the manners aspect of this, which I think ties in to feeling violated. What do you think?>

February 8, 2012

It almost makes it worth paying to rent for the upstairs apartment, in addition to your own, to make sure no one else moves in. Most people would probably have to win the lottery to be able to afford that though. From: Soundsensitivity [mailto:Soundsensitivity ] On Behalf Of stolenlife4Sent: Wednesday, February 08, 2012 9:18 AMTo: Soundsensitivity Subject: Re: Fear of ongoing sounds I seem to get some satisfaction out of knowing where the sound is coming from too. Don't know why that is... I've noticed that for some people, they have to make noises etc to get attention. That's just how they are. And for the anticipation... just shoot me now! I live in an apartment and the people (hardly ever home and fairly quiet) just moved out. Ye Gads! A day doesn't go by that I'm not terrified of who is moving in next. Loud talkers? Loud music? Loud car? Kids running in the apartment? Young people who have cars coming in and out at all hours of the day and night? Oh Calgon, take me away... but where? This is the quietest place I've lived in a very long time. I don't want anything to come that will spoil that... And I'm so worried it will.And the beat goes on...>> > > So I guess it's an intolerance, sensitivity, and fear of sounds. Wow. I hadn't thought about the repetitiveness aspect, but I think I understand how that could tie in to the fear. Can you tell me more about that?> > The lady hiccuping and the guy snapping and drumming--these things would drive me crazy and they just seem rude on top of it all. In another discussion we were talking about the manners aspect of this, which I think ties in to feeling violated. What do you think?>

February 8, 2012

I am in the exact situation. My quiet upstairs neighbor just moved out. As I posted earlier, I got my building manager to agree to put in a soundproofing barrier beneath the carpet -- or hardwood floor if they end up doing that -- in the apartment above me at my expense (about $1,000 for a 350 sq. ft. apt.) I am still waiting to hear if he was able to get approval from the owner. So, you might consider that. If the apt. is next door, it could be more complicated, though.As for needing to know where the sound is coming from, I've got that too. It makes sense if we are responding to sounds as threats to need to know where that threat is coming from. Also, as for being attuned to patterns, I suspect that has a similar root. If you come from an abusive family, things can be pretty unpredictable. One way

of coping is becoming attuned to patterns in order to predict what will happen next. I can imagine myself as a baby trapped in a crib, being very attuned to the footsteps of my two-year-old and four-year-old brothers. I'm guessing from my later experience that they did whatever they wanted to me while my overwhelmed mother wasn't paying attention. What do others think? Subject: Re: Fear of ongoing soundsTo: Soundsensitivity Date: Wednesday, February 8, 2012, 9:18 AM

I seem to get some satisfaction out of knowing where the sound is coming from too. Don't know why that is...

I've noticed that for some people, they have to make noises etc to get attention. That's just how they are.

And for the anticipation... just shoot me now! I live in an apartment and the people (hardly ever home and fairly quiet) just moved out. Ye Gads! A day doesn't go by that I'm not terrified of who is moving in next. Loud talkers? Loud music? Loud car? Kids running in the apartment? Young people who have cars coming in and out at all hours of the day and night? Oh Calgon, take me away... but where? This is the quietest place I've lived in a very long time. I don't want anything to come that will spoil that... And I'm so worried it will.

And the beat goes on...

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> So I guess it's an intolerance, sensitivity, and fear of sounds. Wow. I hadn't thought about the repetitiveness aspect, but I think I understand how that could tie in to the fear. Can you tell me more about that?

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> The lady hiccuping and the guy snapping and drumming--these things would drive me crazy and they just seem rude on top of it all. In another discussion we were talking about the manners aspect of this, which I think ties in to feeling violated. What do you think?

>

February 8, 2012

I am in the exact situation. My quiet upstairs neighbor just moved out. As I posted earlier, I got my building manager to agree to put in a soundproofing barrier beneath the carpet -- or hardwood floor if they end up doing that -- in the apartment above me at my expense (about $1,000 for a 350 sq. ft. apt.) I am still waiting to hear if he was able to get approval from the owner. So, you might consider that. If the apt. is next door, it could be more complicated, though.As for needing to know where the sound is coming from, I've got that too. It makes sense if we are responding to sounds as threats to need to know where that threat is coming from. Also, as for being attuned to patterns, I suspect that has a similar root. If you come from an abusive family, things can be pretty unpredictable. One way

of coping is becoming attuned to patterns in order to predict what will happen next. I can imagine myself as a baby trapped in a crib, being very attuned to the footsteps of my two-year-old and four-year-old brothers. I'm guessing from my later experience that they did whatever they wanted to me while my overwhelmed mother wasn't paying attention. What do others think? Subject: Re: Fear of ongoing soundsTo: Soundsensitivity Date: Wednesday, February 8, 2012, 9:18 AM

I seem to get some satisfaction out of knowing where the sound is coming from too. Don't know why that is...

I've noticed that for some people, they have to make noises etc to get attention. That's just how they are.

And for the anticipation... just shoot me now! I live in an apartment and the people (hardly ever home and fairly quiet) just moved out. Ye Gads! A day doesn't go by that I'm not terrified of who is moving in next. Loud talkers? Loud music? Loud car? Kids running in the apartment? Young people who have cars coming in and out at all hours of the day and night? Oh Calgon, take me away... but where? This is the quietest place I've lived in a very long time. I don't want anything to come that will spoil that... And I'm so worried it will.

And the beat goes on...

>

> So I guess it's an intolerance, sensitivity, and fear of sounds. Wow. I hadn't thought about the repetitiveness aspect, but I think I understand how that could tie in to the fear. Can you tell me more about that?

>

> The lady hiccuping and the guy snapping and drumming--these things would drive me crazy and they just seem rude on top of it all. In another discussion we were talking about the manners aspect of this, which I think ties in to feeling violated. What do you think?

>

February 8, 2012

I feel like the avoidable sounds people make are rude and inconsiderate at work, such as whistling, drumming on your desk, singing outloud, humming, etc. As soon as I hear one of those sounds, I immediately have to find where it is coming from and usually grunt under my breath somehow. When I hear any one of those trigger noises I am in such a fight or flight mode b/c I would do anything to make the noise stop. Being at work, there is no choice but to hold that in b/c you really cant say much to anyone. I did once ask someone to stop whistling b/c it was so constant, I just couldn't bear it anymore. I think whistling in the workplace is so rude and inconsiderate and not appropriate, so I felt I was within my right to ask the person to stop. However, they have replaced it with the drumming on the desk, snapping their fingers so loudly and quickly my skin crawls and making humming and music sounds with their mouth. He sits right across from me so I am sick half the day listening to this and the other half of the day just anticipating it! And anytime in between ruminating about the sound I had just heard.. that all I can hear are those noises!

The fear of the sound is awful b/c you know how it the sound will make you feel once you hear it. None of us want to feel rage, panic, fight or flight b/c of a sound but we have a condition that triggers us to feel this way.

It is sad but when I find a "repeat offender" who constantly ma, I begin to loathe them b/c of the awful rage and panic they are causing me. I hate being so angry and hateful, I just don't know how to get passed those feelings.

So I guess it's an intolerance, sensitivity, and fear of sounds. Wow. I hadn't thought about the repetitiveness aspect, but I think I understand how that could tie in to the fear. Can you tell me more about that?The lady hiccuping and the guy snapping and drumming--these things would drive me crazy and they just seem rude on top of it all. In another discussion we were talking about the manners aspect of this, which I think ties in to feeling violated. What do you think?

February 8, 2012

I feel like the avoidable sounds people make are rude and inconsiderate at work, such as whistling, drumming on your desk, singing outloud, humming, etc. As soon as I hear one of those sounds, I immediately have to find where it is coming from and usually grunt under my breath somehow. When I hear any one of those trigger noises I am in such a fight or flight mode b/c I would do anything to make the noise stop. Being at work, there is no choice but to hold that in b/c you really cant say much to anyone. I did once ask someone to stop whistling b/c it was so constant, I just couldn't bear it anymore. I think whistling in the workplace is so rude and inconsiderate and not appropriate, so I felt I was within my right to ask the person to stop. However, they have replaced it with the drumming on the desk, snapping their fingers so loudly and quickly my skin crawls and making humming and music sounds with their mouth. He sits right across from me so I am sick half the day listening to this and the other half of the day just anticipating it! And anytime in between ruminating about the sound I had just heard.. that all I can hear are those noises!

The fear of the sound is awful b/c you know how it the sound will make you feel once you hear it. None of us want to feel rage, panic, fight or flight b/c of a sound but we have a condition that triggers us to feel this way.

It is sad but when I find a "repeat offender" who constantly ma, I begin to loathe them b/c of the awful rage and panic they are causing me. I hate being so angry and hateful, I just don't know how to get passed those feelings.

So I guess it's an intolerance, sensitivity, and fear of sounds. Wow. I hadn't thought about the repetitiveness aspect, but I think I understand how that could tie in to the fear. Can you tell me more about that?The lady hiccuping and the guy snapping and drumming--these things would drive me crazy and they just seem rude on top of it all. In another discussion we were talking about the manners aspect of this, which I think ties in to feeling violated. What do you think?

February 8, 2012

I feel like the avoidable sounds people make are rude and inconsiderate at work, such as whistling, drumming on your desk, singing outloud, humming, etc. As soon as I hear one of those sounds, I immediately have to find where it is coming from and usually grunt under my breath somehow. When I hear any one of those trigger noises I am in such a fight or flight mode b/c I would do anything to make the noise stop. Being at work, there is no choice but to hold that in b/c you really cant say much to anyone. I did once ask someone to stop whistling b/c it was so constant, I just couldn't bear it anymore. I think whistling in the workplace is so rude and inconsiderate and not appropriate, so I felt I was within my right to ask the person to stop. However, they have replaced it with the drumming on the desk, snapping their fingers so loudly and quickly my skin crawls and making humming and music sounds with their mouth. He sits right across from me so I am sick half the day listening to this and the other half of the day just anticipating it! And anytime in between ruminating about the sound I had just heard.. that all I can hear are those noises!

The fear of the sound is awful b/c you know how it the sound will make you feel once you hear it. None of us want to feel rage, panic, fight or flight b/c of a sound but we have a condition that triggers us to feel this way.

It is sad but when I find a "repeat offender" who constantly ma, I begin to loathe them b/c of the awful rage and panic they are causing me. I hate being so angry and hateful, I just don't know how to get passed those feelings.

So I guess it's an intolerance, sensitivity, and fear of sounds. Wow. I hadn't thought about the repetitiveness aspect, but I think I understand how that could tie in to the fear. Can you tell me more about that?The lady hiccuping and the guy snapping and drumming--these things would drive me crazy and they just seem rude on top of it all. In another discussion we were talking about the manners aspect of this, which I think ties in to feeling violated. What do you think?

February 8, 2012

Ecuednyj

Could you print out something from the internet nd highlight your triggers and

how they effect you and present it to him? Or is he just an inconcideratr

@34hole? If so could you show it to someone who has the power to move you? This

is a disability and they should do their best to provide you with a workable

enviroment. Something like handi cap bathroom access. You can't be at your best

when your mind is concentrating on talking yourself down from rage and fear.

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February 8, 2012

Ecuednyj

Could you print out something from the internet nd highlight your triggers and

how they effect you and present it to him? Or is he just an inconcideratr

@34hole? If so could you show it to someone who has the power to move you? This

is a disability and they should do their best to provide you with a workable

enviroment. Something like handi cap bathroom access. You can't be at your best

when your mind is concentrating on talking yourself down from rage and fear.

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February 8, 2012

Ecuednyj

Could you print out something from the internet nd highlight your triggers and

how they effect you and present it to him? Or is he just an inconcideratr

@34hole? If so could you show it to someone who has the power to move you? This

is a disability and they should do their best to provide you with a workable

enviroment. Something like handi cap bathroom access. You can't be at your best

when your mind is concentrating on talking yourself down from rage and fear.

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February 8, 2012

I would love to do that but I am so fearful of his response. He was "ok" when I had asked him to stop whistling but still looked at me with that "weird look". I almost feel like its a two part equation - 1) he has a bad habit and may not realize it, BUT 2) b/c he knew the whistling annoyed me, I think he somehow knows this bothers me b/c I have mumbled under my breath when he walks by snapping so he continues to do it.

Whichever way it is, it is AWFUL! I have casual conversation with him every now and again and he is a pretty nice guy but I am so afraid to really say something. I have explained to my other coworker and she sort of brushed it off and made light of it. She is the one constantly with the hiccups. I think she just needs to go to a doctor b/c no one hiccups that much! I had even casually brought it up to one of my bosses but they laugh it off, perhaps I wasn't serious enough or they don't realize this is a real disability nor do they really care to be honest. Unfortunately there is no where they can really move me b/c I sit within a specific group that I have work with, so I don't know what choice I have. I guess I feel stuck between a rock and hardplace.

The only resolve would be for me to say something to this guy in an apologetic way that it is me, not him and its something that I struggle with as a disorder. I just don't know how receptive he will be nor do I know how quiet he will be about telling this to others and having me become the butt of people's jokes.

EcuednyjCould you print out something from the internet nd highlight your triggers and how they effect you and present it to him? Or is he just an inconcideratr @34hole? If so could you show it to someone who has the power to move you? This is a disability and they should do their best to provide you with a workable enviroment. Something like handi cap bathroom access. You can't be at your best when your mind is concentrating on talking yourself down from rage and fear.Sent from my Samsung Interceptâ„¢

February 8, 2012

You have nothing to lose by explaining it and giving him something to read. This

may make him feel better. I always tell people because if I didn't I would be

constantly shooting them nasty looks or avoiding them. He probably thinks you

don't like him and that is why he is so inconciderate. A girl I used to work

with just learned about Misophonia. She got in contact with me and apologized.

She said that she had thought that I was just being a controlling Bitch when I

asked people not to hum, whisltle or tap. She feels really bad know that she

understands. Give him the chance. As far as being embaressed if others find out.

Why? It isn't anything funny or emmbaressing. I told everyone before I knew it

was medical. I said I'm sorry, I know it sounds strange and it is my problem,

but for some reason that sound literaly hurts me. Other brain wireing problems

cause people to see and and taste sound. If someone told me this I would be

interested in their condition, not make fun of it.

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February 8, 2012