Re: Adrenal Fatigue, etc. Shall we start another thread?

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Rita,

I'm right there with you. Wish I lived closer to my kids, and alone, etc.

Marriage is hard, and we'd only been married a few years when I got too sick to

work. He still expects dinner on the table, but we're working away from that. He

actually said at one point that he PROVIDES for me, like that's all he could do.

I'm doing the supplements, alternative stuff too, and when my LTD from insurance

runs out, that will have to go. I feel like I have a timeframe of about a year

to continue the whole array of supplements, etc. Hubby and I are in therapy. It

took months of begging before we got there. I had been for a short time on my

own. I go weekly, he goes twice a month. That's all he can commit to. He is

starting to grieve over his life plans that have gone kaput. We are trying to

build some kind of life together, but it is hard and often requires more energy

than anyone healthy can ever grasp. My therapist just encouraged me this week to

try going back to church. I'm considering just a daily Mass, cause those are

quick, and not so overwhelming. Catholic, yes. I do miss it, and did have alot

of guilt over not doing everything " by the book " . I'm trying to remember that

God loves us unconditionally. Thats what I hope to reinforce by attending church

again.

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> Hi Toni,

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> Thanks for your reply, and for understanding. I just realized that I got

mixed up and replied to your ideas about advice in my previous post,a reply to

. Oh well, I'm sure if you're on this loop you'll read that one also.

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> Sometimes I wish I lived alone in a tiny house with an easy care yard, close

to my kids and grandsons. That way I wouldn't feel obligated to anyone but

myself. I know that's escapist thinking though, and I actually have never liked

living alone. But, I don't feel that I have much to give to my husband these

days, and I'm sure it's difficult for him coming in second, third or fourth to

me meeting my own physical, mental and spiritual needs just to survive. He

really does more than " his share " around here, but we marry for better or worse,

right? Besides, his expectations are part of the reason I'm burnt out. A small

part, but part. I just have to refuse to feel guilty about not meeting his

expectations, or I can get all depressed about it and fantasize about going out

and getting a job (which I know i really can't do anymore). Also, I feel guilty

about the money we spend for my appointments and supplements, as insurance

doesn't cover anything natural, and conventional medicine doesn't have any

viable answers for me, if they even admit there's a problem.

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> I'm thinking about going to a counselor for my sake anyway, and maybe he'd go

along to a few appointments. There are lots of things we don't talk about. My

first husband had a disability, so I've been on the other side too, and know how

hard it is to talk about problems with someone who already doesn't feel good.

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> Well, thanks again for listening.

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