Re: Re: Just feeling a bit desperate

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helen_foisy wrote:

> Hi M., There's also a compatibility factor that comes into play, and

> it is independent of all the other issues, including family of origin

> and autism spectrum issues.

>

> Do you both share some of the same passions for things in life? Are

> your beliefs similar? Are there things you enjoy doing together,

> things that you both find invigorating, make you happy and replenish

> you?

Yes. " Independent of all the other issues " - including male/female,

young/old, race, nationality - a *basic compatibility* always is the

sine-qua-non of getting along with each other.

>

> This past summer there were discussions on this board about

> compatibility and shared interests. Certainly to people don't have to

> be exactly alike, or like all the same things or do *everything*

> together. However, having complementary temperaments and goals in

> life is the prescription for being able to get past small differences

> and annoyances, and longevity in a relationship.

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It's being able *genuinely* to get past the little stuff (too often the

excuse, eventually, for war) that makes all the difference in the long run.

- Bill, ...AS, ...long married, who knows

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WD " Bill " Loughman - Berkeley, California USA

http://home.earthlink.net/~wdloughman/wdl.htm