Just feeling a bit desperate

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M: Greetings:

It sounds like life is over whelming you at this moment. I have had this list

for a long time and your story is very similar of " some " NT spouses. Some

options are reading books and articles geared towards NT spouses. Another option

is to seek counseling or support for YOU. A good counselor or therapist can help

you sort out the issues and concentrate on YOU and not your spouse. Where do you

see yourself in 6 months? What are your dreams and ambition? Do you see yourself

growing old with him? There are a zillion questions to ask to help you rethink

your life at the present moment. You cannot change your partner, all you can do

it change yourself. He is a big boy and responsible for himself and his behavior

as much as you are in this relationship. Maybe you should take a break and

concentrate on YOU for a while. What do you want out of this relationship? What

needs do you need to have met to continue on? It is NOT selfish to say, " It is

all about me " . Do you see yourself in a care taker role? Some do, and are happy

in this role. What does " M " want?

I guess the real question is, what do YOU want out of this relationship and what

is non-negotiable? Think about this and make a list. It will help you to set

healthy boundaries for yourself and partner. He should do the same.

Just my 2 cents worth.