Re: Adrenal Fatigue and nature

[Guest guest]

Sweet plan. I loved reading your description of the creek, the restfulness of

nature, dragging the lawn chair into the water.

Not surprising you were exhausted coming back from your visit with the minnows

and snails.

Congrats on keeping your adventure to yourself. It is all you two can do for

now. When you can trust he won't overreact so you can tell each other more, you

will.

toni

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> I didn't tell my husband that I went to the river. Why? I didn't want him to

think/say " You had energy to do that, but not to clean up clutter, laundry,

etc.? " Maybe he wouldn't have thought it (this time), but I didn't want to

think he thought it, because that would somehow ruin my little adventure. I

know this sounds kind of crazy!

[Guest guest]

I get that too. 'Well, he can do what HE wants to do when he wants too!'

We've been having thunderstorms all week and the energy of them

moving through has me all torn up. I sleep all day, can't sleep at

night, get worried because I have an appointment the next day, ETC.

I'm also making some changes in my medications and that's probably

messing with me too.

I eat supper, lie back in the easy chair to watch TV, the cat curls

up in my lap and I fall asleep, miss my programs and can't go to

sleep when it's time, even with my sleep meds. A lot of times I'll

get back up and watch a couple of hours of TV and go back to bed,

then I don't want to get up in the morning. You just can't win.

BJK

At 06:01 PM 8/9/2012 +0000, you wrote:

>I didn't tell my husband that I went to the river. Why? I didn't

>want him to think/say " You had energy to do that, but not to clean

>up clutter, laundry, etc.? " Maybe he wouldn't have thought it (this

>time), but I didn't want to think he thought it, because that would

>somehow ruin my little adventure. I know this sounds kind of crazy!

>

>I'm grateful today for integrative/alternative-thinking doctors who

>take the time to write self-help books so I can learn how to help my

>body to heal.

>

>Rita

[Guest guest]

Byron, your description is *exactly* how it is for *me* too! My goodness!

Re: Adrenal Fatigue and nature

I get that too. 'Well, he can do what HE wants to do when he wants too!'

We've been having thunderstorms all week and the energy of them

moving through has me all torn up. I sleep all day, can't sleep at

night, get worried because I have an appointment the next day, ETC.

I'm also making some changes in my medications and that's probably

messing with me too.

[Guest guest]

Byron, your description is *exactly* how it is for *me* too! My goodness!

Re: Adrenal Fatigue and nature

I get that too. 'Well, he can do what HE wants to do when he wants too!'

We've been having thunderstorms all week and the energy of them

moving through has me all torn up. I sleep all day, can't sleep at

night, get worried because I have an appointment the next day, ETC.

I'm also making some changes in my medications and that's probably

messing with me too.

[Guest guest]

Yes, three cheers for the power of Nature to ground and inspire us! I do my

best to let my dogs run in the fields up the road (um, we have to drive there,

even though it is only a couple of miles up the street from my home since it is

too far to walk at this point), while I trail behind at my own pace. I find the

ever-changing sky-scapes to be better than any tv show, and I never tire of

tuning in to the minute beauty all around. I used to be afraid of insects, and

now I find myself marveling at each one's uniqueness and even find many of them

beautiful. On days when I am too wiped out to run the dogs, I have set up a

couple of lawn chairs (one for me, one for my imaginary companion that I hope

will someday materialize - love my solitude but it does sometimes get lonely)

next to the house under a cherry tree where I have hung some bird feeders. I

can just sit and watch the sky and the birds and listen to the crickets. Pace

is very, very slow, but it is easy to be " in the Now " . Much easier to grasp

Eckhart Tolle's wisdom from this slow and quiet place of chronic illness, so it

does have a distinct upside in that regard. Anyway, I loved your description of

your adventure and totally relate!

Kind regards,

Re: Adrenal Fatigue and nature

Sweet plan. I loved reading your description of the creek, the restfulness of

nature, dragging the lawn chair into the water.

Not surprising you were exhausted coming back from your visit with the minnows

and snails.

Congrats on keeping your adventure to yourself. It is all you two can do for

now. When you can trust he won't overreact so you can tell each other more, you

will.

[Guest guest]

Yes, three cheers for the power of Nature to ground and inspire us! I do my

best to let my dogs run in the fields up the road (um, we have to drive there,

even though it is only a couple of miles up the street from my home since it is

too far to walk at this point), while I trail behind at my own pace. I find the

ever-changing sky-scapes to be better than any tv show, and I never tire of

tuning in to the minute beauty all around. I used to be afraid of insects, and

now I find myself marveling at each one's uniqueness and even find many of them

beautiful. On days when I am too wiped out to run the dogs, I have set up a

couple of lawn chairs (one for me, one for my imaginary companion that I hope

will someday materialize - love my solitude but it does sometimes get lonely)

next to the house under a cherry tree where I have hung some bird feeders. I

can just sit and watch the sky and the birds and listen to the crickets. Pace

is very, very slow, but it is easy to be " in the Now " . Much easier to grasp

Eckhart Tolle's wisdom from this slow and quiet place of chronic illness, so it

does have a distinct upside in that regard. Anyway, I loved your description of

your adventure and totally relate!

Kind regards,

Re: Adrenal Fatigue and nature

Sweet plan. I loved reading your description of the creek, the restfulness of

nature, dragging the lawn chair into the water.

Not surprising you were exhausted coming back from your visit with the minnows

and snails.

Congrats on keeping your adventure to yourself. It is all you two can do for

now. When you can trust he won't overreact so you can tell each other more, you

will.

[Guest guest]

Chelsea, Byron,

Same here!  I am all set to watch TV--and usually fall asleep, on the couch, at

about 7...sometimes, even earlier. I don't go into my bed to sleep--because I

know that I still have to walk the dog at a reasonable hour (10-11) so that she

won't have an accident during the night.   I don't KNOW how to solve the

problem...I feel as though life is just passing me by (it is--and that is what

is so hard to accept).  I saw a new doc yesterday---to talk about my compounded

thyroid meds.  He asked me if I felt as though the thyroid medication was

wearing OFF too soon during the day---and I had never looked at it that way

before.  He is doing more blood work--and we'll see what he does to adjust and

if it helps.

Lynn

[Guest guest]

Chelsea, Byron,

Same here!  I am all set to watch TV--and usually fall asleep, on the couch, at

about 7...sometimes, even earlier. I don't go into my bed to sleep--because I

know that I still have to walk the dog at a reasonable hour (10-11) so that she

won't have an accident during the night.   I don't KNOW how to solve the

problem...I feel as though life is just passing me by (it is--and that is what

is so hard to accept).  I saw a new doc yesterday---to talk about my compounded

thyroid meds.  He asked me if I felt as though the thyroid medication was

wearing OFF too soon during the day---and I had never looked at it that way

before.  He is doing more blood work--and we'll see what he does to adjust and

if it helps.

Lynn

[Guest guest]

>>> I didn't want him to think/say " You had energy to do that, but not to

clean up clutter, laundry, etc.? " Maybe he wouldn't have thought it (this time),

but I didn't want to think he thought it, because that would somehow ruin my

little adventure. I know this sounds kind of crazy! <<<

Hi Rita,

Boy, isn't that " you had the energy to _____ " a common refrain? It reminds me

of the way people think " well, you have enough money to buy x so why can't you

buy y? " Because I bought x, duh!!!

I don't know if your husband is the sort that you can discuss things with calmly

(my current husband is but my ex was not!) but if you can, here are a couple of

things you might consider talking about:

1. Ask him to imagine being in your place, sick and with a very limited amount

of energy and " good " time. Then ask him whether he would want to spend that

time cleaning the toilet or doing something that was enjoyable or uplifting.

Most people get it when you put it this way.

2. You might want to ask him what aspects of the house matter most to him and

then when you are able to do something around the house, concentrate on those

areas. My husband was brought up by a woman who keeps a perfect house all of

the time. She even makes the bed and empties the trash when she stays at a

hotel! Needless to say, my standards in that area have dropped over the years

to lower and lower levels. But I know my husband doesn't like clutter, dirty

dishes in the sink and a dirty toilet. I use a number of tricks to keep dirty

dishes to a minumum and if I can't wash what dishes there are, I make sure I

rinse them off. I got those things that sort of clean the toilet automatically

so it keeps that to a minimum. As for the clutter, I do my best to keep the one

room we spend most of our time in straightened up. As long as that room is ok,

he doesn't really care about the rest of the house. If you can't talk to your

husband about this, maybe you can figure out what his hot buttons are on your

own. Its all about getting the biggest bang for your few minutes of

functionality!

Hope this helps a little!

Margie

[Guest guest]

Rita, I agree with Toni--it sounds like a beautiful use of some energy. I am

hoping to adopt a smallish dog soon, so we can enjoy the dog park together. It's

in a very nice rustic setting. This all falls into the Self Care category for

us.

>

> > I didn't tell my husband that I went to the river. Why? I didn't want him

to think/say " You had energy to do that, but not to clean up clutter, laundry,

etc.? " Maybe he wouldn't have thought it (this time), but I didn't want to

think he thought it, because that would somehow ruin my little adventure. I

know this sounds kind of crazy!

>