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,....It is hard, especially when your around others that don't

fully understand. And as far as your ex, he shouldn't be telling you

how to dress, or what you need, it seems like he is not very

understanding. Is it possible that's why he's your ex,lol? He don't

know how you feel, so he shouldn't be trying to give you advice on

something he knows nothing about, and it seems like he don't. I'm

sure wearing high heels with RA, he's a joke. No, your not alone

dear. We all wish we could go back, and be like we were before we got

ill. We just got to do the best we can. Are you dating anyone now?

You will find someone who is compassionate, and cares about you. You

don't need someone bringing you down, but lifting you up and making

you feel good. So take care, and hang in there, Tawny

--- In , " McKinnon L " <nmckinno@s...>

wrote:

> I know what you all are talking about. I am relatively heallthy and

know that I am very lucky when I hear about waht you all are going

through. But I am surrounded by 22 year old (i'm 35 - with RA). I

remeber what it was like to be their age and be healthy and active.

They are a very compassionate group but I know that they do not

understand. I just recently was told by an x-byoyfriend that I need

to dress like one of my classmates (she gets dressed up al the time

and wears nice clothes and heels). He thinks that if i did that I

would feel better about myself and would then be better able to deal

with life. But then again, he's the one that told me I just need to

look at the positive things in life when I told him that I was

suffering from depression and on meds for it and was having an

espeicially diffiult time with my recent flair.

> I know that I'm not alone, butI wish I could go back to how I felt

before I had RA - that healthy, very active 22 year old that was 100

lbs lighter before the pain and medication became a regular part of

my life.

>

> Good luck to all.

>

>

>

>

> Do you believe it! If you go out looking like you feel, everyone

looks at

> you like you are too lazy to do...

> but if you take the time to get fixed up- then you

> get those kind of comments! I get it all the time - I have a long

pony tail

> and people think I am much younger than I am- red hair & freckles -

I have

> decided to do what makes ME feel better/OK - what bad things other

people think or

> say has got to fall back on them, I don't have the time or energy

to deal with

> THEM.

>

> Sorry for the 'tude, but that is just the facts, ma'm

>

> Gentle Hugs & Prayers,

> Carol M. in CA