Guest guest Posted June 9, 2012 Report Share Posted June 9, 2012 similar situation with me. Last summer an old co worker invited herself to stay at my house. we live in a tourist town. Instead of going out and seeing the sights. she sat on my couch. ate our food. then kept saying she didn't have any $$$ then had an opinion about everything and talked talked talked. It was exhausting. when she started to line herself up for this summer. I told her we couldn't have any visitors this summer. do to my health. Haven't heard from her since. ________________________________ Subject: Broken in Two Even when you try to prepare a houseguest for staying with you, sometimes they just don't get it. A good friend stayed with me for 5 days and I explained to her, I need naps daily, please treat my house like your own & make your own breakfast since I don't wake early & so on. After the first day, I realized she was expecting to be treated like a guest and I don't have the energy/stamina for that anymore. By day 4, I had to ask to leave and stay in a hotel. I wasn't angry, I just had to put my health first. Needless to say, she hasn't spoken to me since. I'm still weak and shakey from her visit. Hopefully I'll get back to my usual malaise with a few more days of intense rest. And she'll realize that I have a chronic illness and she was insensitive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 9, 2012 Report Share Posted June 9, 2012 Hi Chelsea, This is not a friend... It is .. well, almost akin to having some moron visit you in the hospital -an exagerated comparison, but am thinking back to a surgery experience with someone who was there when I woke up after surgery. You are .. sick. Can offer your home as hospitality, food which is there. Assuming that your friend is not someone who does not know how to cook, has to be waited on hand and foot, one would think ... I just do not have words for this! It's so heartless. I'm so sorry that you had this awful experience; we do need to have friends as others do, but we need understanding as well! I hope that you do get more of this -kindness and understanding which you well deserve! in the future. Blessings, Jane, the one with the hound, NYC > > Even when you try to prepare a houseguest for staying with you, sometimes they just don't get it. > A good friend stayed with me for 5 days and I explained to her, I need naps daily, please treat my house like your own & make your own breakfast since I don't wake early & so on. > After the first day, I realized she was expecting to be treated like a guest and I don't have the energy/stamina for that anymore. By day 4, I had to ask to leave and stay in a hotel. I wasn't angry, I just had to put my health first. > Needless to say, she hasn't spoken to me since. > I'm still weak and shakey from her visit. Hopefully I'll get back to my usual malaise with a few more days of intense rest. And she'll realize that I have a chronic illness and she was insensitive. > Chelsea > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 10, 2012 Report Share Posted June 10, 2012 So sorry that happened :-( Just wondered if you had seen the ME awareness leaflet for the general public - it is an A5 leaflet (ie 2 sides of A4 folded) to give out to the general public, simple and in large print with bold and boxes to make it stand out. It is downloadable as a pdf from http://www.mechat.co.uk/db/tips.htm It is handy to give to people in the hope they will have more understanding - no-one leaves my house without! Von x Please don't forget to search the net via http://www.everyclick.com/uk/meresearchuk/ and raise money for ME biomedical research just by clicking Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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