Guest guest Posted March 10, 2004 Report Share Posted March 10, 2004 , I felt so bad for how felt. Thank you so much for your kind words on how we can deal with this should it happen again. Hopefully it was just a misunderstanding and we have all learned from it. Thanks for all that you do. Terri [ ] Moderation issues > Thanks to all who offered support of . She's going through an > extremely difficult time. It's unlikely that she saw all of the posts > before she left to be with her mother, but they will be available to her > upon her return. I exchanged some thoughts with her last night and I > believe that she'll be staying with the group. I very much hope she > will. > > If you ever do receive mail from another member and it's a problem, > please let a or me know privately. We will try to help find a > reasonable solution. The well-being of all of our members is very > important to us. > > Rude E-mail, thoughtless posts, snake-oil sales - that stuff happens in > a group this large. I wish it didn't, but that's life on the Internet. > > Please realize, too, that sometimes an individual may write something > that hurts or offends you, but he or she didn't mean to have that effect > on you. As hard as it might be, try to give that person the benefit of > the doubt. There could be circumstances that might explain what the > person wrote. It doesn't necessarily absolve the offender for not taking > more care with his or her choice of words or tone or message, but it may > be easier for you to accept what has happened. > > Disagreements will also occur, but, as long as the debate leaves out > personal attacks and name-calling, that is OK. We can learn much from > constructive exchanges between parties whose opinions differ. > > As some of you so insightfully pointed out, one person doesn't > necessarily speak for the entire group. Don't let all of the good > support you can both give and receive here be negated by one hostile or > careless or opportunistic individual. > > Don't let the opinion or will of someone you don't know very well get to > you. I know that it's easier said than done, and it has taken me a > couple of years to be able to more easily deal with people who attack me > both off the list and on it, but just remind yourself that the vast > majority of members here are caring, good people who mean well. > Collectively, we have many strengths and a wealth of worthwhile things > to offer each other. > > To those who take it upon themselves to moderate the group either > privately or publicly: please don't. If you have a beef, it is far more > appropriate that you bring up the issue with a or me privately. > > Peace to all! > > > > > I'll tell you where to go! > > Mayo Clinic in Rochester > http://www.mayoclinic.org/rochester > > s Hopkins Medicine > http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2004 Report Share Posted March 10, 2004 In a message dated 10/03/2004 20:39:18 Central Standard Time, paula54@... writes: > Your diplomacy is outstanding and I hereby nominate you as Moderator Of The > Year!!! I promise I won't be gone much longer. Moving is exhausting, and I > hope I NEVER do it again!!! > I miss everyone and although I am reading, I'm not able to respond. > a > I agree re: ! Congrats, let's see your crown! heehee a-just wondering how the move is going and when you will be done? Cary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2004 Report Share Posted March 10, 2004 , Thanks so much for your efforts to comfort those hurt by inappropriate posts. Unfortunately this is not the first time someone has contacted another member privately with insensitive remarks. I wonder how many members have left for this reason without us knowing about it. I wish we had some control over it, but we don't. I've been on the receiving end of some rotten posts, and I know how it feels. Over the years I've learned to let it roll off of my shoulders and I don't loose sleep over it any more. Your diplomacy is outstanding and I hereby nominate you as Moderator Of The Year!!! I promise I won't be gone much longer. Moving is exhausting, and I hope I NEVER do it again!!! I miss everyone and although I am reading, I'm not able to respond. a > Thanks to all who offered support of . She's going through an > extremely difficult time. It's unlikely that she saw all of the posts > before she left to be with her mother, but they will be available to her > upon her return. I exchanged some thoughts with her last night and I > believe that she'll be staying with the group. I very much hope she > will. > > If you ever do receive mail from another member and it's a problem, > please let a or me know privately. We will try to help find a > reasonable solution. The well-being of all of our members is very > important to us. > > Rude E-mail, thoughtless posts, snake-oil sales - that stuff happens in > a group this large. I wish it didn't, but that's life on the Internet. > > Please realize, too, that sometimes an individual may write something > that hurts or offends you, but he or she didn't mean to have that effect > on you. As hard as it might be, try to give that person the benefit of > the doubt. There could be circumstances that might explain what the > person wrote. It doesn't necessarily absolve the offender for not taking > more care with his or her choice of words or tone or message, but it may > be easier for you to accept what has happened. > > Disagreements will also occur, but, as long as the debate leaves out > personal attacks and name-calling, that is OK. We can learn much from > constructive exchanges between parties whose opinions differ. > > As some of you so insightfully pointed out, one person doesn't > necessarily speak for the entire group. Don't let all of the good > support you can both give and receive here be negated by one hostile or > careless or opportunistic individual. > > Don't let the opinion or will of someone you don't know very well get to > you. I know that it's easier said than done, and it has taken me a > couple of years to be able to more easily deal with people who attack me > both off the list and on it, but just remind yourself that the vast > majority of members here are caring, good people who mean well. > Collectively, we have many strengths and a wealth of worthwhile things > to offer each other. > > To those who take it upon themselves to moderate the group either > privately or publicly: please don't. If you have a beef, it is far more > appropriate that you bring up the issue with a or me privately. > > Peace to all! > > > > > I'll tell you where to go! > > Mayo Clinic in Rochester > http://www.mayoclinic.org/rochester > > s Hopkins Medicine > http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2004 Report Share Posted March 11, 2004 You guys are funny, a and Cary. The only crown, actually multiple crowns, I'll be wearing is on every single molar - shiny, white porcelain. For what they all cost, I could have bought a diamond tiara. I'll tell you where to go! Mayo Clinic in Rochester http://www.mayoclinic.org/rochester s Hopkins Medicine http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org Re: [ ] Re: Moderation issues > In a message dated 10/03/2004 20:39:18 Central Standard Time, > paula54@... writes: > > > > Your diplomacy is outstanding and I hereby nominate you as Moderator Of The > > Year!!! I promise I won't be gone much longer. Moving is exhausting, and I > > hope I NEVER do it again!!! > > I miss everyone and although I am reading, I'm not able to respond. > > a > > > > I agree re: ! Congrats, let's see your crown! heehee a-just > wondering how the move is going and when you will be done? Cary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2004 Report Share Posted March 11, 2004 > The moving truck comes the 22nd and we should be pulling out of here the 24th. > The moving part isn¹t half as bad as trying to make the house ready to sell. > I¹ve never seen so much work done in a 4 week period. It¹s like the extreme > makeover for houses. Paint sure hides a multitude of sins. Do you know how > many coats of primer it takes to cover magic marker? It would have been > easier to put new sheet rock in my kids rooms LOL! It¹s times like this when > you find out just how many friends you¹ve really got. > a > > > > I agree re: ! Congrats, let's see your crown! heehee a-just > wondering how the move is going and when you will be done? Cary > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2004 Report Share Posted March 11, 2004 I too think that both you and a are special people.We're blessed to be a part of the whole.Gentleness,Boo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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