Guest guest Posted March 16, 2004 Report Share Posted March 16, 2004 ,....My thoughts are with you dear, and I hope that things start going better for you. I can't tell you what to do, but I would try to let go a bit from him. One reason why your down is because of him. Time apart might help, even though it hurts. Later on down the road, he will see who his real friend is, but you just have to give him time. Isn't there anyone else you could talk to, besides him? I just don't think it's good to put all yourself in to someone who is not returning back, you know what I mean? Are you on anti- depressants, or any therapy? I would suggest it, your going through a terrible time, and we all need some help. I'm here if you would like to talk to me, you can email me privately. I just don't won't to see you hurting, you need to be lifted. Take care, and I will keep you in my prayers, hugs Tawny --- In , " McKinnon L " <nmckinno@s...> wrote: > I am having a really bad day. I woke up (after not getting enough sleep) thinking about a friend of mine that stopped being my friend when he got a new girlfriend. [He thinks the reason why I get mad at him is because I am in love with him. He doens't understand that I get mad at him for breaking plans with me. He 'couldn't' give me his new phone number until he first got his girlfriend's permission. He wouldn't give me his cel phone number. He had surgery and didn't tell me about it. And he let me find out from his neighbor that he was moving out of his home and moving in with his girlfriend] And the worst part is that right now I really miss him because he is theo nly one around here that I can talk to that is not in school with me. Sometimes I just want to talk to or hang out with someone other than classmates. > At the clinic htat I go to for school, I received some " constructive feedback " from my clinical instructor and burst into tears. > I am so stressed and am ready to throw in the towel!!! > Please send me your best wishes to help me find the willpower and strength to deal with all that is going on in my life right now. School is not going well and I have a lot of MAJOR projects due in the next couple of weeks. > > Thanks for listening!! > I hope you are all having a better day than I am > > McK Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 , I am so sorry to hear that things are going bad for you now. Perhaps you should talk to your friend about the situation because obviously there is some major miscommunication going on. Know also that a new day sometimes brings a new perspective and a new start. I am sure things will start looking up. Take care and know my thoughts and prayers are of you... Alan --- In , " McKinnon L " <nmckinno@s...> wrote: > I am having a really bad day. I woke up (after not getting enough sleep) thinking about a friend of mine that stopped being my friend when he got a new girlfriend. [He thinks the reason why I get mad at him is because I am in love with him. He doens't understand that I get mad at him for breaking plans with me. He 'couldn't' give me his new phone number until he first got his girlfriend's permission. He wouldn't give me his cel phone number. He had surgery and didn't tell me about it. And he let me find out from his neighbor that he was moving out of his home and moving in with his girlfriend] And the worst part is that right now I really miss him because he is theo nly one around here that I can talk to that is not in school with me. Sometimes I just want to talk to or hang out with someone other than classmates. > At the clinic htat I go to for school, I received some " constructive feedback " from my clinical instructor and burst into tears. > I am so stressed and am ready to throw in the towel!!! > Please send me your best wishes to help me find the willpower and strength to deal with all that is going on in my life right now. School is not going well and I have a lot of MAJOR projects due in the next couple of weeks. > > Thanks for listening!! > I hope you are all having a better day than I am > > McK Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 , I'm sure a lot of us of have been through something like this or similar to what you are going through. At the moment it is all happening it is hard to see through the situation. To me it sounds like he is trying to distance himself from you but it is hard for you to make the distance. I have been in that spot before. Once I came to my senses and did distance and eventually have no contact with a certain individual the better off I was and went on to enjoy life. I really wasn't enjoying life when I was with " him " . I just thought I was. Prayers that you find comfort and peace during this time. Terri [ ] I need to vent > I am having a really bad day. I woke up (after not getting enough sleep) thinking about a friend of mine that stopped being my friend when he got a new girlfriend. [He thinks the reason why I get mad at him is because I am in love with him. He doens't understand that I get mad at him for breaking plans with me. He 'couldn't' give me his new phone number until he first got his girlfriend's permission. He wouldn't give me his cel phone number. He had surgery and didn't tell me about it. And he let me find out from his neighbor that he was moving out of his home and moving in with his girlfriend] And the worst part is that right now I really miss him because he is theo nly one around here that I can talk to that is not in school with me. Sometimes I just want to talk to or hang out with someone other than classmates. > At the clinic htat I go to for school, I received some " constructive feedback " from my clinical instructor and burst into tears. > I am so stressed and am ready to throw in the towel!!! > Please send me your best wishes to help me find the willpower and strength to deal with all that is going on in my life right now. School is not going well and I have a lot of MAJOR projects due in the next couple of weeks. > > Thanks for listening!! > I hope you are all having a better day than I am > > McK > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2004 Report Share Posted March 17, 2004 , I hope today seems better. Maybe you could write a gentle letter to your friend and tell him that you aren't in love with him but miss talking to and being with him. Tell him you still value your relationship and that you'll be there for him should he need you. I'm sorry he's hurt you. In the meanwhile, maybe you could look for a new friend. There are lots of nice people around. A bookstore, coffee shop, library, or a church - those are good places to meet people, both men and women. If you're open to it, even places like Home Depot or a grocery store are full of individuals who are looking for some friendly conversation. Around here, we also have many different types of singles clubs. I hope school gets better and that you make some headway on your projects. Thinking of you, I'll tell you where to go! Mayo Clinic in Rochester http://www.mayoclinic.org/rochester s Hopkins Medicine http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org [ ] I need to vent > I am having a really bad day. I woke up (after not getting enough sleep) thinking about a friend of mine that stopped being my friend when he got a new girlfriend. [He thinks the reason why I get mad at him is because I am in love with him. He doens't understand that I get mad at him for breaking plans with me. He 'couldn't' give me his new phone number until he first got his girlfriend's permission. He wouldn't give me his cel phone number. He had surgery and didn't tell me about it. And he let me find out from his neighbor that he was moving out of his home and moving in with his girlfriend] And the worst part is that right now I really miss him because he is theo nly one around here that I can talk to that is not in school with me. Sometimes I just want to talk to or hang out with someone other than classmates. > At the clinic htat I go to for school, I received some " constructive feedback " from my clinical instructor and burst into tears. > I am so stressed and am ready to throw in the towel!!! > Please send me your best wishes to help me find the willpower and strength to deal with all that is going on in my life right now. School is not going well and I have a lot of MAJOR projects due in the next couple of weeks. > > Thanks for listening!! > I hope you are all having a better day than I am > > McK Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 5, 2004 Report Share Posted November 5, 2004 Dear Alisha: It's ok to vent. Ive been there too. You are allowed to be tired. I too never felt sorry for myself and split myself in half to make sure my daughter (not autistic) had every opportunity and similar childhood I had so her brother (autistic) would not be blamed and because I felt she deserved that. It is ok to be tired, sad and mad. One time on a recent visit to the doctor which was on the same day that we had to go before a court for guardianship of our son ( which really made me mad that we even have to do this) the doctor asked me how he was doing and I told him he was aggressive with me again and OCD was pretty bad. The doctor told me that maybe it was time to put our son into residential care. I told him I wasnt ready for that, I couldnt say anything else because I was too taken back by his remark. On our next visit I told him before we even start I needed to get the last visit off my chest. I simply told him that we had gone for guardianship that morning and for me it was very emotional because I never thought I would be where we were. I wasnt looking for his permission to put my son into residential care, I was simply looking for help to his behaviors. Finally I told him that I am for the most part a very even tempered person and I was allowed to have a down day. I felt soooo much better after that visit. Dont know if this helps but we are out here for you. Eileen >From: " badmoonrisen2002 " <risen@...> >Reply- > >Subject: I need to vent >Date: Sat, 06 Nov 2004 03:38:44 -0000 > > >Please remember that I just had a baby 4 weeks ago so I may be >hormonal. From the very begining, Zeb's premature birth, his >blindness, his autism has never broke me, I stayed strong, I didn't >feel sorry for him or myself. I tried to do everything for him to >make his life the best it could be. But today I would give my arms >and legs for him to be normal. He has had a bad week, meltdowns, >misbehaving at school(which he never does). I started him on >Laurcidin on October 18th, could this be causing the behaviors, he >is doing strange stuff, like pushing his head against the T.V. and >radio until it leaves red marks, chewing his buttons off his shirts, >he has always been a happy little boy but not lately. Sometimes I >get up and I wish I didn't have to fill Zeb full of supplements, >vitamins and medication to get through the day and lately we have >not being doing that so well. I'm not having a delayed depression, >I've been through all the stages of grief and went through >depression. I don't know what's happening, maybe because I don't >have control and I can't control Zeb's autism. Maybe because I have >a new baby and I'm so scared she to will have to go through what he >has been going through. Thanks for listening. > >Totally unrelated, this question is to Dana. Where do you get powder >Vitamin C and how would I give it to a infant, mix in her formula? >Thanks for all your help. Alisha > > > _________________________________________________________________ Get ready for school! Find articles, homework help and more in the Back to School Guide! http://special.msn.com/network/04backtoschool.armx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 5, 2004 Report Share Posted November 5, 2004 Don't forget--Zeb is probably trying to adjust to a new child in the home as well. It is a big step for all of you. My NT son was 20 months at the time his little brother was born...he became quite a handful since he no longer was the only child with 100% of our attention. It could also be the Lauricidin... I need to vent Please remember that I just had a baby 4 weeks ago so I may be hormonal. From the very begining, Zeb's premature birth, his blindness, his autism has never broke me, I stayed strong, I didn't feel sorry for him or myself. I tried to do everything for him to make his life the best it could be. But today I would give my arms and legs for him to be normal. He has had a bad week, meltdowns, misbehaving at school(which he never does). I started him on Laurcidin on October 18th, could this be causing the behaviors, he is doing strange stuff, like pushing his head against the T.V. and radio until it leaves red marks, chewing his buttons off his shirts, he has always been a happy little boy but not lately. Sometimes I get up and I wish I didn't have to fill Zeb full of supplements, vitamins and medication to get through the day and lately we have not being doing that so well. I'm not having a delayed depression, I've been through all the stages of grief and went through depression. I don't know what's happening, maybe because I don't have control and I can't control Zeb's autism. Maybe because I have a new baby and I'm so scared she to will have to go through what he has been going through. Thanks for listening. Totally unrelated, this question is to Dana. Where do you get powder Vitamin C and how would I give it to a infant, mix in her formula? Thanks for all your help. Alisha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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