Re: restaurants- a pet peeve oh yeah the pride

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after I was a watiress, I was a nurses aide and then a nurse. LOL- yup all

those things I did for my nursing home people and my home care patients- and now

I often need help for myself- it gets weird, but some days my sense of humor

takes over and I laugh so hard.

I am ashamed to admit, some days I am embarrassed about not being able to take

those plates, some days I am sad about it, some days I can be really offbeat

about it- some days I get goofy over it. Once in awhile my kids laugh so

hard----so, day to day I handle it differently....and yes sometimes the server

gets the message and remembers thru our meal- and sometimes they don't. If they

handle it nicely with me- I am nice back....but - once in awhile I get into a

mood. (no, I am not proud of that and usually cry on the way home ) but, I do

not get ugly- maybe goofy and silly---maybe a little sarcastic- but yes, I know

that will get noone anywhere. My kids have said on a silly day hey mom, you can

tuck your arms inside your sweatshirt and we can feed you and we can tell them

you have no arms when they try to hand the plates to you. Silly kids.

Yes, like someone else who responded said- it is partly in their training- maybe

it is partly a sign of the times? Maybe it is cuz it can be hard to get people

to fill such jobs and places wind up taking what they can get since they are

already shorthanded.

LOL- My friend with MS is really into her pride at doing for herself and one day

she begged me to go out for coffee- that day my wrists were noso driving was not

a problem, - and she lost an eye to cancer last year- so I drove- t we got there

and she decided she was not going to open the little creamers or sugars for me.

LOL. I said well- YOU wanted to go out for coffee- I drove, so you can open

these, she still said no- and my dumb fingers looked like overstuffed sausages-

so I set a creamer down pointed at her and SPLAT- hit it with my hand and

inncoently said OOPS- sorry- I guess that won't work to open them, will it? Boy

did she laugh. (and yes I tipped the waitress $5 for my mess- LOL- but I knew

the waitress anyway)

Pride and working the imagination to get things done.

We just got a new grocery store here that takes EVERYONES groceries out to the

car to save their carts from being damaged- it's GREAT!- I have begun having one

of my kids shop with me trying to teach them how to shop...boy does it really

help with things like milk, cat litter,detergents etc.

- In , " Jan =^..^= " <camommacat2@y...> wrote:

> Hi Dreamer:

> I wore those pesky wrist braces for nearly ten years before I had surgery on

both wrists ( the HMO I had those years was into preventative not surgeries).

Before I became used to having them on my hands, by reflex, I would take what

ever was handed me and it was not only awkward and clumsy but usually was

painful and could lead to a disaster. I, finally, found my voice and would not

make a move to take anything and would say...I am unable to take that, could you

find another way to get it to the table? I don't use sugar or drink coffee but

do have an occasional cup of cocoa, but I think I would say....would you mind

passing that to someone else? I think if I took it we will both end up wearing

it. I, sometimes, we suffer in silence rather than speaking up and admitting we

can't do something and asking for help. Oh, how I have paid for that over and

over various times ( like carrying the groceries out to the car when it would be

just as easy to ask for help as there are people

> that are paid to do things just like that). I have always been a survivor

and most of the surviving has been only myself putting resources to work that I

didn't know I had so sometimes it comes as a bit of pride not to admit I need

help. It's hard to admit sometimes I am not as strong as I once was. Why

should we be deprived of life's pleasures because we are limited?

>

> (((((HUGS FOR YOU)))))

>

> Jan in CA =^..^=

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> dreamer_plus <dreamer_plus@w...> wrote:

> WHen I first got ill, we went out to eat a LOT. Actualy even before tha we

went out a lot. (I used to be a waitress bfore getting into nursing) I am not

talking 4 star places, nor am talking Mcs.

> SOmething disturbs me greatly- and it has happened even at Olive Garden

recently. First wait people often do not remember who ordered what so they hold

the fod and as whose it is. This bothers me cuz I figure they took our orders,

I do not always pay attetion t what my kids order- and - silly kids- sometimes

they do not pay attetion to what they order, LOL. OK thats annoying enough to

me- and so is when you ask for something like ut te gray n the side r whatever

and they bring it and it is not on the side- wel, that anoys me sometimes, too-

I figure they should check back in the ic up window before they bring it all the

way out to me.

> BUT what REALLY disturbs me is- we can sit at a round table or a ong table ad

the server will stand a one end of te table and " deal out the food like (s)he is

dealing a deck of cards. Quite often it is me they stand nex to and it is me

they hand EVERY plate to. There is a major problem with this- firs of all- ofte

MY hands and wrists cann hold the lates, and second, my 8 year old also cannot

handle the plates. (he has poor uscle tone, soft muscle bellies, and poor fine

motor skils) I keep waiting for one of these plates of hot food to land all over

all of us. Servers do this even if I am wearing wrist braces on both wrists-

they do this even when they are standing there whe I ask my husband for help

opening little creamers and sugar packets and I am using 2 hands to pick p my

coffee cup.

> DOes this bother anyone else? DOes this hape to anyone else?

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