Re: restaurants- a pet peeve

[Guest guest]

There are good and bad wait staff in small and " high class "

restaurants everywhere. Sometimes you get the really good ones in

the little beaneries, and sometimes you get the most inconsiderate

people in the expensive restaurants, it all depends on the staff

themselves, and also how they are trained and managed. I've never

worked in that field, but I know if I did, I wouldn't last a day.

I've seen it from both sides, both rude customers and rude wait

staff. But the worst was with my blind friend, Norma. A waitress

kept asking what SHE wanted. " And what does SHE want on HER

hamburger? " " And what does SHE want to drink? " Finally Norma

said " SHE would like to eat and a different restaurant!! " and we both

got up and left! More and more I practice the habit of a gentle word

to the management, and it has brought some surprising results, like

free movie tickets recently when we had to move to a different

theater.

Peace,

Judi

[Guest guest]

Hey,

I go out to restaurants quite a bit, meaning once or twice a week.

I usually go back to a place, where I have received good food and

good service. In those places, where this doesn't happen, I write

a note on the back of the check, and then also talk to the

management. Most of the time, that little talk does the trick. Last

week, I oredered a side order, which didn't arrive until the end of

the dinner, and when I mentioned it, my whole meal was

comped.

You are a paying customer, and as such deserve good

treatment. However, when the wait staff is mindless and doesn't

pay attention, you might wanna point your braces out to him/her.

Often that does wonders. If that doesn't work, then talk to

management about training their staff better.

One time I ordered decaf coffee, as aI always do. A few minutes

later, I ended up talking much more than my usual self (which

isn't all that quiet, either). I figured out that I had gotten the

leaded version and talked to the management. Both

management and staff came to appologize, and said that they

realizze that it could have potentially been a dangerous situation,

and that they will strive to do better.

You should not have to take this kind of treatment.

Cheers!

Jutta

[Guest guest]

Hi Dreamer:

I wore those pesky wrist braces for nearly ten years before I had surgery on

both wrists ( the HMO I had those years was into preventative not surgeries).

Before I became used to having them on my hands, by reflex, I would take what

ever was handed me and it was not only awkward and clumsy but usually was

painful and could lead to a disaster. I, finally, found my voice and would not

make a move to take anything and would say...I am unable to take that, could you

find another way to get it to the table? I don't use sugar or drink coffee but

do have an occasional cup of cocoa, but I think I would say....would you mind

passing that to someone else? I think if I took it we will both end up wearing

it. I, sometimes, we suffer in silence rather than speaking up and admitting we

can't do something and asking for help. Oh, how I have paid for that over and

over various times ( like carrying the groceries out to the car when it would be

just as easy to ask for help as there are people

that are paid to do things just like that). I have always been a survivor and

most of the surviving has been only myself putting resources to work that I

didn't know I had so sometimes it comes as a bit of pride not to admit I need

help. It's hard to admit sometimes I am not as strong as I once was. Why

should we be deprived of life's pleasures because we are limited?

(((((HUGS FOR YOU)))))

Jan in CA =^..^=

dreamer_plus <dreamer_plus@...> wrote:

WHen I first got ill, we went out to eat a LOT. Actualy even before tha we went

out a lot. (I used to be a waitress bfore getting into nursing) I am not

talking 4 star places, nor am talking Mcs.

SOmething disturbs me greatly- and it has happened even at Olive Garden

recently. First wait people often do not remember who ordered what so they hold

the fod and as whose it is. This bothers me cuz I figure they took our orders,

I do not always pay attetion t what my kids order- and - silly kids- sometimes

they do not pay attetion to what they order, LOL. OK thats annoying enough to

me- and so is when you ask for something like ut te gray n the side r whatever

and they bring it and it is not on the side- wel, that anoys me sometimes, too-

I figure they should check back in the ic up window before they bring it all the

way out to me.

BUT what REALLY disturbs me is- we can sit at a round table or a ong table ad

the server will stand a one end of te table and " deal out the food like (s)he is

dealing a deck of cards. Quite often it is me they stand nex to and it is me

they hand EVERY plate to. There is a major problem with this- firs of all- ofte

MY hands and wrists cann hold the lates, and second, my 8 year old also cannot

handle the plates. (he has poor uscle tone, soft muscle bellies, and poor fine

motor skils) I keep waiting for one of these plates of hot food to land all over

all of us. Servers do this even if I am wearing wrist braces on both wrists-

they do this even when they are standing there whe I ask my husband for help

opening little creamers and sugar packets and I am using 2 hands to pick p my

coffee cup.

DOes this bother anyone else? DOes this hape to anyone else?