RE: : What does hurt look like?

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Herd mentality at its worst! I love reading about psychological experiments and I’m always blown away by how much danger people will put themselves in just to not look out of place. In your case it was them putting you in harm’s way so they would not be “different”. Amazing and incredibly sad! I’m glad things went the way they did and that you are here to tell your story.Deb From: aspires-relationships [mailto:aspires-relationships ] On Behalf Of CJSent: May-11-12 6:09 AMTo: aspires-relationships Subject: Re: : What does " hurt " look like? It does leave its mark. I have learnt a lesson or two now and it teaches me that I should proceed with more care, whilst sticking inherently to what I believe to be right, whilst seeking the validation of trusted persons.Yep, Judy. Never underestimate the ability of social and organizational politics to make a mess of things.CJ, you sound as though you stood your ground, and I wouldnt mind betting, that some of those who blustered and blew at you at the time have subsequently reviewed that opinion but would never in a million years have the guts to tell you. Judy B, admiring your courageFor the most part, I agree with you, Judy. Although several people (whom I barely knew) did surprise me by apologizing for their role in this debacle.Aside from the emotional scars resulting from my own local community's willingness to throw me (or anyone else in my position) under a bus to preserve their own egos, I'm just glad that I'm alive. I could have very easily lost my life that night, right there in the presence of nearly 100 of my closest 'friends'. Who allowed themselves to be convinced that they were witnessing role play and entertainment, not a bonafide medical emergency that was being ignored. Because, after all, no one in our community would ever do such a thing... sigh.I won't even touch on the potential legal ramifications to the venue owner who stood by and said nothing, so as not to rock the boat. Had the stars aligned differently and I had been seriously injured (or worse), the outcome could have been life-changing for them as well.Best,~CJ

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Herd mentality at its worst! I love reading about psychological experiments and I’m always blown away by how much danger people will put themselves in just to not look out of place. In your case it was them putting you in harm’s way so they would not be “different”. Amazing and incredibly sad! I’m glad things went the way they did and that you are here to tell your story.Deb From: aspires-relationships [mailto:aspires-relationships ] On Behalf Of CJSent: May-11-12 6:09 AMTo: aspires-relationships Subject: Re: : What does " hurt " look like? It does leave its mark. I have learnt a lesson or two now and it teaches me that I should proceed with more care, whilst sticking inherently to what I believe to be right, whilst seeking the validation of trusted persons.Yep, Judy. Never underestimate the ability of social and organizational politics to make a mess of things.CJ, you sound as though you stood your ground, and I wouldnt mind betting, that some of those who blustered and blew at you at the time have subsequently reviewed that opinion but would never in a million years have the guts to tell you. Judy B, admiring your courageFor the most part, I agree with you, Judy. Although several people (whom I barely knew) did surprise me by apologizing for their role in this debacle.Aside from the emotional scars resulting from my own local community's willingness to throw me (or anyone else in my position) under a bus to preserve their own egos, I'm just glad that I'm alive. I could have very easily lost my life that night, right there in the presence of nearly 100 of my closest 'friends'. Who allowed themselves to be convinced that they were witnessing role play and entertainment, not a bonafide medical emergency that was being ignored. Because, after all, no one in our community would ever do such a thing... sigh.I won't even touch on the potential legal ramifications to the venue owner who stood by and said nothing, so as not to rock the boat. Had the stars aligned differently and I had been seriously injured (or worse), the outcome could have been life-changing for them as well.Best,~CJ