What a weekend!

[Guest guest]

I don't usually use my computer on the weekend because my husband is

home and I like to be with him. So this weekend was just like any

other in that aspect.

I got up Saturday and after working all day Friday in my garden -

getting some pansies and canas and gladiolas, etc planted was going

to just relax with Jay.

Well, he got up early and decided to trim the trees in our yard...no

biggie... then he decided that the leaves out front that I had piled

up needed to be bagged. We bagged 2 together and I ws tired so

decided to go in the house and rest for a few. I had been doing

laundry and needed to change out a load from the washer to the dryer

and start a new load... could fold the clothes while sitting.

Jay and I were talking and my niece got up - about 12:30 - lunch

time... anyway Jay went back out and as he was leaving I asked if he

wanted to finish with the leaves out front - he said he was going to

see about trimming the trees out back - I said no problem maybe

can help me.

Well........... couldn't help me as she had no clean clothes -

she needed to do wash............so I said - no biggie - I'll take

these clothes out of the dryer and take them outside and put them on

the clothesline and the ones in the washer that were waiting I would

put in the dryer - that way she could wash clothes...

I asked her if Rodger had explained to her that my washer was old and

that although it has a button for extra large loads that it really

didn't do well with them... she said yes...

I put my clothes out on the line and put the ones in the washer in

the dryer to await the washer finishing with her clothes - then I was

going to take mine out to the line as the ones out there would dry

quickly with the wind.

This is what we did...my clothes on the line dried quickly and I

folded them and put them away and put the others from the dryer out

on the line - so she could have the washer and dryer...

Now she couldn't go outside to help me bag leaves as she had no clean

clothes - why you need clean clothes to do this you ask? I don't

know...

Well, I was a little mad so decided since I didn't have help outside

that I would start on the inside...the kitchen needed sprucing up and

I did this - while she lounged on the couch like a couch potato never

offering to help. Jay came in and asked me what I was doing and told

him - couldn't do leaves by myself and since there was work in the

house that needed doing I was doing it...

I then vacuumed the livingroom...cleaned the bathroom.

Her Father comes home(Rodger)...she talks to him about taking her to

the mall for some shopping. He goes outside and helps Jay with some

trimming of trees.

He comes back in and she is now dressed but no socks yet - they are

still drying in the dryer...He says not ready - she says nope - no

socks yet - still in dryer - he says well I'm not wearing any so get

your shoes on and we will go.

She leaves room to go get shoes and I ask Rodger

" Could you please wait until this load is done in the dryer,

said they were almost done. Then you can put the clothes in the

washer into the dryer and I can have my washer back. I had stopped

doing my laundry so could do yours and I still have 2 maybe

3 loads to do. I don't need the dryer as I'll put my clothes out on

the line. "

He says " fine "

I think all is okay and go back to the kitchen to finish it up. Our

plumbing isn't the greatest and until we can get it fixed I taka the

dirty dish water out and dump it in the side yard. I see Rodger

coming through the house towards the door with 2 of my black garbage

bags and taking them out to his truck. Then he comes in to get

...now they are just in front of me as I am coming through

the dining area with this dishpan of water...do they hold the door

for me - NOPE - it is shut in my face.

I set the dishpan down and open the door - they are just going

through the garage door - do they hold it for me - NOPE - they shut

it in my face too. I shut the kitchen door behind me so the cats

don't get out - spill water over the garage floor - open the garage

door and go out - I am coming back in the door as he floors the truck

and goes down the road.

I am FURIOUS!!! Jay comes in back door and I yell at him that I am

sick of his .............. brother...He goes what is wrong - so I

tell him what transpired.

His brother pulls back in driveway - they had forgotten something -

he sends in to get it.

Jay goes out to talk with Rodger about what is going on.

He tells Jay that I told him to get his stuff out of MY WASHER AND

DRYER...

Jay tells me this after Rodger and have left. We - Jay and

I - have a long talk. I ask him why would I tell her that she can do

her laundry if I am going to tell them to get it out of my machines.

That all I asked that they wait till the load in the dryer was done

so that they could put their other load in the dryer. I don't need

their extra work to do - i am claning up their mess as it is each

day. They can do their own laundry.

Jay understands and knows that I am frustrated because everything

comes tumbling out.

He says he will talk with Rodger. Well they come back and only

comes in - Rodger has a date. He comes home later but is 3

sheets to the wind - not conducive to talking to. Sunday before Jay

gets up - Rodger is gone - He calls from the bar and wants Jay to

come down there but Jay - thank goodness - says no. No point in

talking to him Sunday.

Now this will go on and fester in me - Jay says he wants to talk to

Rodger but Jay is never awake when Rodger gets home from work so this

will go for a week and then Jay will probably forget.

I am so upset though. It feels to me like Rodger is trying to put a

wedge in between Jay and I. Jay says don't worry - I will always

come first but in the meantime - I still have this problem.

Maybe by venting on here it will help me get this out of my system

but I doubt it. I made some pointed remarks Sunday to my niece about

a speach I had just read taht Sherri L. Dew had given at BYU about

Integrity and that the cornerstone to integrity was honesty and

truthfullness.

I wonder if it will sink in. I have always prided myself on my

honesty and my husband knows this and for his brother to say those

things just has unwraveled me. I guess my niece saying she couldn't

help me because she didn't have clean clothes didn't help either.

I am going to go pray about this and hope that I can come to some

terms with in myself. My stomach is all upset again today and my IBS

is in high gear today. STRESS - what it will do to a person.

God bless and thank you for listening to my rantings and

ravings...although via keyboard.

Althea