a bad prognosis - [graphic] - Kim

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Hi Kim

I sat with my GF's sister when she bled out from HCC [Hep C liver cancer].

It wasnt pretty, but she passed 'very' fast.

sat up needing to cough, spewed blood all over, and died from heart

failure in about 2 seconds.

She was pretty drugged and asleep at the time, so I doubt that she even knew

what was happening to her.

If and when it happens, you wont be expecting it, no matter how much you

prepare.

No one is ever ready for this kind of thing, and my heart goes out to you and

.

Call Hospice, and ask for some help.

They are usually pretty good about helping, being such kind folks.

When it happens call them too, and they will do the clean-up because the blood

will be a 'bio-hazzard'.

Give as much LOVE as you can between now and then.

It will make his passing alot easier on you both.

Please get the kids someplace else, if you can.

They shouldnt see this.

A 24 hour baby sitter? Family? Friend?

I would care for them if I was nearby.

Kim, when this happens, your going to be in shock....BIG TIME.

In the moments after, please take a few minutes to catch your breath.

It is ok to cry, because this is a very hard road for you to travel.

Please know that will be ok after he leaves his body.

His suffering will be over.

Know in your heart that you both will meet again in the future, and continue

your dance between the stars.

The body is just a vehicle for our time on this earth, but our lives are

eturnal.

I am sitting here crying for you, because I know exactly what you are going

through.

But I also know that everything will be ok, although it is going to take some

time.

Allow yourself to grieve, dont hold it back, because this will be a healing time

for you.

We all love you Kim, and you are in our hearts and prayers.

love

don in ks

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> Today started coughing up blood. I called the hospice people. The news

wasn't good. I was told they thought he probably won't make it through the

weekend. That I need to get the kids somewhere else because, it was going to be

nasty. I was told to get a lot of dark colored towels. He is a high risk for a

bleed out.

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> I don't even know how to react. It's kind of like a bad dream. Or a cruel

joke. I didn't ever expect it to end this way for him. I don't really know what

I expected. I don't even have a clue where to send my kids. How to get them

there, he can't be left alone. I can't leave any one else with him. I can't

ask someone to sit with him with that being how they expect him to go.

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> He asked me what the nurses and I were talkin about. I didn't want to tell

him. I tried to avoid answering by telling him other things. It didn't work. I

had to tell him. He just got this strangest look on his face. He said " no, I

don't think so. I've got more than a week or two " .

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> I don't have any idea what to do.

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