explaining RA to my family?

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Hi. I am a new member to this site and joined to ask for help on how to explain

to my husband how it feels to have RA. He is very intense, active and likes to

entertain, travel, socialize and have family over a LOT! I can't keep up with

his needs. We also have a six year old daughter and I am getting totally worn

out by the both of them. It is so difficult to set limits with my husband even

though he tells me to say no when I don't think I can do something. Sometimes I

think I will be able to entertain family or travel in the future, and when the

time comes I may be too tired. He then feels let down and doesn't understand

why I can't just take a nap and push through to the next event. We just

finished entertaining 30 of his family members for a four day fourth of July

celebration and now I feel like I am having a flare. My feet and ankles are so

stiff and I am so exhausted, I have little left to offer our six year old. If

anyone has any advice on how to explain the severity and unpredictability of my

symptoms, please let me know. Thank you so much - Sharon