For Rena

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Hi Rena

I have only just started reading this thread. I would like to say I know

first hand what it is like to experience fertility problems my sons were the

result of IVF treatment 15 years ago. When I was first diagnosed with my

problem IVF was not about and the despair and misery I felt was awful and

initially I sunk into a terrible depression. I do really feel for you but

hard as it is it is important to keep a sense of proportion and I know how

hard that is because you feel so very sensitive and vulnerable. Please do

not give up hope I don't know how old you are but I did not have my sons

until I was 38 keep on believing it will happen I did.

I don't think this is an unkind list from what I have read everyone is very

supportive and helpful, so I am sure whatever was written was not directed

at you personally, just one personal experience.

Kind wishes to you both

Judith

Re: [ ] male infertility

>

> Rayna,

>

> Sorry you're having infertility problems. I'm sure no one is making fun

> of that. If I remember right, someone just made mention of his

> vasectomy. In my experience, sometimes you have to laugh at situations

> that are anything but funny just to stay sane.

>

> We really wanted to have another child, but my rheumatologist, my family

> practitioner, and my ob/gyn all told me it would be an absolute mistake

> with my RA and my age, on top of the other problems I had in my first

> two " high risk " pregnancies.

>

> Of course, I am heartbroken over that. Some people say, " well you should

> be happy you have the two children you have " , and I definitely am -- I

> love my sons very much -- but when you have a space in your hearts and

> your family for one more child and then learn that you won't have that,

> it doesn't make it any easier.

>

> I hope you and your husband will have a chance to start that family

> eventually.

>

> Regards,

>

>

>

> raynajay2000 <rsjs@...> wrote:

> I am suprised so many of you find our problem so funny. Maybe you

> already have children. Dh got Ra when he was 26. Dh is in a horrible

> flare and he is starting Methotrexate for the first time. We cannot

> even try to start our family now.

>

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