Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 Hi Everyone, hope you've all had a good day or as good as it gets. I read some of the emails but there were quite a few so I probably missed some things. I did see your pic Becky and I think you looked wonderful. Jan, I hope your surgery went well. Somebody had mentioned pets. I have a little pomeranian poodle-well not really little, he's 14 lbs and he's truly the light of my life. There are days I don't know what I'd do without him. No matter how I feel, the little guy has to be fed, taken out, etc. And he always has kisses and hugs for me. As I said, the light of my life. Well today has been exhausting. I currently live at home because of a number of circumstances and then I got diagnosed with the RA and was off work for a while so I've stayed. However, it's really starting to get to me. My mom had back surgery so I've had to help out with her a lot. My dad is unfortunately useless. He refuses to help either one of us. I am so angry with him that I can't even sit in the same room with him. It's like he doesn't think there is anything wrong with me and I can just keep going and going. My hand, knees, and foot are so swollen this evening that typing this is not easy. I've been thinking of moving out but I'm scared. What if I get sick again and can't work-what then? On the other hand, I will get out of this environment in which there is nothing positive. At least on my own I know I'll feel happy and not have all this negative energy around me. I'm sure I feel way worse a lot of my days because of how stressful and unhappy things are around here, not to mention how tired I am from trying to work full time and take care of everything around here including two adults-one of which can take care of himself. I don't mind helping my mom. I would do it even in the pain I am, it's my father that really hurts. It's like he doesn't care at all. Anyhow, sorry for unloading on all of you. I'm just getting so frustrated and I have no idea what to do. Dar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 Your dog sounds so much like my two pomeranians. The older of the two (Smokey) rubs the side of his head in the palm of my hand and literally caresses my hand. He closes his eyes when he is doing this. Doggies are sooooo affectionate. They sleep on my queen size bed with me....they have their own pillows. Smokey will curl up against my back when he can....but then growls at me if I move around.... go figure. I really don't know what to say about your home situation. I have found that the more stress I am under, the worse my RA tends to be. Probably because I also do not get as much sleep during these times. I am finding that energy conservation and lots of rest are sooooo important. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that you will be led in what to do about everything. It is hard for others to truly understand RA since we often look so " normal " . My son Will (age 21) knew about my RA but has really had an understanding since his health problems this year. At one time he was literally crawling up the steps and sitting on the steps scooting down one at a time to come back down. He is doing so much better...thank God. Please write and unload on us here whenever you feel like it. It is so nice to have folks here that understand and care. I don't get to read mail or post like I would want to, but hope to get better at it. Until later..... Hugs, Libby On Jul 8, 2004, at 11:19 PM, kalylyn wrote: > Hi Everyone, hope you've all had a good day or as good as it gets. I > read some of the emails but there were quite a few so I probably > missed some things. I did see your pic Becky and I think you looked > wonderful. Jan, I hope your surgery went well. > > Somebody had mentioned pets. I have a little pomeranian poodle... > Well today has been exhausting. I currently live at home > Anyhow, sorry for unloading on all of you. I'm just getting so > frustrated and I have no idea what to do. > Dar > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 I'm sorry that it's been so rough, you have got quite a load your carrying. That is so sweet that your taking care of your Mom after her surgery. I'm sorry that your father is not being very helpful. I know how hard that is for you to live under the same roof, and deal with someone that can't lift a finger to help. I would consider finding my own place, when your Mom gets better. I think you are right, you need to find comfort and peace within yourself. You take care, and try to get as much rest as you can, Tawny > Hi Everyone, hope you've all had a good day or as good as it gets. I > read some of the emails but there were quite a few so I probably > missed some things. I did see your pic Becky and I think you looked > wonderful. Jan, I hope your surgery went well. > > Somebody had mentioned pets. I have a little pomeranian poodle- well > not really little, he's 14 lbs and he's truly the light of my life. > There are days I don't know what I'd do without him. No matter how I > feel, the little guy has to be fed, taken out, etc. And he always > has kisses and hugs for me. As I said, the light of my life. > > Well today has been exhausting. I currently live at home because of > a number of circumstances and then I got diagnosed with the RA and > was off work for a while so I've stayed. However, it's really > starting to get to me. My mom had back surgery so I've had to help > out with her a lot. My dad is unfortunately useless. He refuses to > help either one of us. I am so angry with him that I can't even sit > in the same room with him. It's like he doesn't think there is > anything wrong with me and I can just keep going and going. My hand, > knees, and foot are so swollen this evening that typing this is not > easy. I've been thinking of moving out but I'm scared. What if I > get sick again and can't work-what then? On the other hand, I will > get out of this environment in which there is nothing positive. At > least on my own I know I'll feel happy and not have all this negative > energy around me. I'm sure I feel way worse a lot of my days because > of how stressful and unhappy things are around here, not to mention > how tired I am from trying to work full time and take care of > everything around here including two adults-one of which can take > care of himself. I don't mind helping my mom. I would do it even in > the pain I am, it's my father that really hurts. It's like he > doesn't care at all. > > Anyhow, sorry for unloading on all of you. I'm just getting so > frustrated and I have no idea what to do. > > Dar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 I know how you feel, I was in the same position but it was my father who I didn't mind helping. My mother was always the problem for me. I can totally relate. I can also totally relate to your dog being the light of your life. That is a great way to describe my three little babies (dogs)! Becky [ ] Tired Today Hi Everyone, hope you've all had a good day or as good as it gets. I read some of the emails but there were quite a few so I probably missed some things. I did see your pic Becky and I think you looked wonderful. Jan, I hope your surgery went well. Somebody had mentioned pets. I have a little pomeranian poodle-well not really little, he's 14 lbs and he's truly the light of my life. There are days I don't know what I'd do without him. No matter how I feel, the little guy has to be fed, taken out, etc. And he always has kisses and hugs for me. As I said, the light of my life. Well today has been exhausting. I currently live at home because of a number of circumstances and then I got diagnosed with the RA and was off work for a while so I've stayed. However, it's really starting to get to me. My mom had back surgery so I've had to help out with her a lot. My dad is unfortunately useless. He refuses to help either one of us. I am so angry with him that I can't even sit in the same room with him. It's like he doesn't think there is anything wrong with me and I can just keep going and going. My hand, knees, and foot are so swollen this evening that typing this is not easy. I've been thinking of moving out but I'm scared. What if I get sick again and can't work-what then? On the other hand, I will get out of this environment in which there is nothing positive. At least on my own I know I'll feel happy and not have all this negative energy around me. I'm sure I feel way worse a lot of my days because of how stressful and unhappy things are around here, not to mention how tired I am from trying to work full time and take care of everything around here including two adults-one of which can take care of himself. I don't mind helping my mom. I would do it even in the pain I am, it's my father that really hurts. It's like he doesn't care at all. Anyhow, sorry for unloading on all of you. I'm just getting so frustrated and I have no idea what to do. Dar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 Dar, if it doesn't seem as if anything will change for the better between you and your father, you probably would be happier and healthier in a place of your own. Stress and negativity often do adversely impact one's immune system. I'll tell you where to go! Mayo Clinic in Rochester http://www.mayoclinic.org/rochester s Hopkins Medicine http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org [ ] Tired Today > Hi Everyone, hope you've all had a good day or as good as it gets. I > read some of the emails but there were quite a few so I probably > missed some things. I did see your pic Becky and I think you looked > wonderful. Jan, I hope your surgery went well. > > Somebody had mentioned pets. I have a little pomeranian poodle-well > not really little, he's 14 lbs and he's truly the light of my life. > There are days I don't know what I'd do without him. No matter how I > feel, the little guy has to be fed, taken out, etc. And he always > has kisses and hugs for me. As I said, the light of my life. > > Well today has been exhausting. I currently live at home because of > a number of circumstances and then I got diagnosed with the RA and > was off work for a while so I've stayed. However, it's really > starting to get to me. My mom had back surgery so I've had to help > out with her a lot. My dad is unfortunately useless. He refuses to > help either one of us. I am so angry with him that I can't even sit > in the same room with him. It's like he doesn't think there is > anything wrong with me and I can just keep going and going. My hand, > knees, and foot are so swollen this evening that typing this is not > easy. I've been thinking of moving out but I'm scared. What if I > get sick again and can't work-what then? On the other hand, I will > get out of this environment in which there is nothing positive. At > least on my own I know I'll feel happy and not have all this negative > energy around me. I'm sure I feel way worse a lot of my days because > of how stressful and unhappy things are around here, not to mention > how tired I am from trying to work full time and take care of > everything around here including two adults-one of which can take > care of himself. I don't mind helping my mom. I would do it even in > the pain I am, it's my father that really hurts. It's like he > doesn't care at all. > > Anyhow, sorry for unloading on all of you. I'm just getting so > frustrated and I have no idea what to do. > > Dar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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