Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 Hi There, I can sure see why you're tired too! Is your mom's condition permanent, or will she recover enough to take care of herself? Sounds like your dad needs a good reality check. Do you have siblings that could help out? I think moving out on your own would be far better. Basically you are working THREE jobs--your paying job, caring for your parents, and dealilng with RA. You are in overload, and that just can't go on. I have a very loving and caring husband, been married nearly 30 years, but even he just doesn't have a clue sometimes. some days his idea of helping is " is there anything I can do? " while I'm fixing dinner. Now he knows that he doesn't know how to cook, and the limit of his housekeeping abilities is making the bed and vacuuming, which he does do occasionally. The other night the cat hurled a hairball, and Ron just said " uh, Judi, the cat hurled a hairball. " Mind you, I've still got a temp of around 99, feelilng awful, can't get down on the floor, and my comment was, " and the silly cat won't clean up after himself? " I finally said " well, you know where the paper towels and rags are " and I went up to bed. next morning, the hairball was still there, so I cleaned it up. Doesn't mean he loves me any less, just that he is blind, deaf, and paralyzed when it comes to doing certain things. Let his golf clubs get a grass clipping on them though, and he is outside in a flash with the soapy water! Do take care of yourself! Judi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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