Re: Re: UBM: Nada in a Box

[Guest guest]

Lizzy,

You wrote, " They are like a big fruit cake: a little

of everything with extra nuts. " Thanks for the LOL.

Of course, there were many times when I'M the one who

got burned or frosted, not my nada!

One Non-BP Recovering Man

--- lizzyboo81 wrote:

> For me when I read UBM I wrote in the book on the

> sides and then I

> would be able to see which personality she was when.

> To me it

> seemed nada would go through waves. For me it was

> impossible to put

> her in a box.

>

> Sometimes she could even be charming and sweet. Many

> people would

> not even believe me if I told them she was a nut

> job! Like she would

> go on and on " Lizzy is such a good kid she does all

> the work around

> the house cleaning and she is a saint to her sister "

> The next min

> when nobody was there " Lizzy when I get home I want

> the house

> cleaned top to bottom! " When my sister would cry she

> would bark

> orders for me to calm her down! I was just a child

> myself! She was

> much like Cinderella's wicked step mother " …and then

> there is the

> mending and the sewing and don't forget to give

> Lucifer his bath

> ahahahah! "

>

> She really had the queen in her to. I wanted more

> than anything this

> big pink plastic bubble ring. It was like all the

> girls in my class

> had. But nada would not see to that, I had to were

> diamonds, rubies,

> and emeralds anything to show off the queen. I was

> teased but she

> had me wear them I could not lose them I was called

> ungrateful. All

> I wanted was plastic jewels and pink cover girl lip

> gloss. I got

> clinique red lip stick and gold jewels! And for the

> record I usually

> like silver or white gold.

>

> She could also easily play the waif. I think the

> waif has been much

> more dominant in the last 4-6 years. The waif

> started to come out

> before I left. Along with the hermit. This was when

> I was starting

> to get out on my own she was trying to show me the

> way.

>

> Unfortunately or fortunately how ever you look at

> it? Not too many

> people saw the witch I sure did. The witch is very

> dominant in my

> mom and the people who have seen it are close to her

> but she can

> typically pull them back in by her charm. They just

> figure she is

> overly emotional, I know she is a wack!

>

> If it were up to my nada she would be a queen witch

> and she would

> have raised a hermit waif. But to bad so sad she

> didn't succeed.

> She wanted me to be helpless and afraid. But I

> learned to stand up.

> If I can make it through her I can make it through

> anything! She had

> the opposite affect. HAHA Nada!

>

> I think the confusing part of a bp is that you can

> see more than one

> trait in them. Helpless to control freak! They are

> like a big fruit

> cake a little of everything with extra nuts.

>

> Merry Christmas Love lizzy

>

>

> >

> > > Greg, I've also had a hard time fitting my nada

> into

> > > just one category -- she's really equal parts

> Queen,

> > > Hermit and Waif (and, of course, the Witch).

> The

> > > combination of all these qualities make up the

> > > different aspects of her personality EXACTLY --

> it's

> > > very creepy to have read such accurate

> descriptions

> > > of who she is at different times, because she's

> > > constantly changing roles.

> > >

> > > But, since BPs have no core identity and change

> > > themselves in response to different people and

> > > situations, I figure this just goes with the

> > > territory.

> > >

> > > Freaky!

> > >

> > > Shana

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > UBM: Nada in a Box

> > > To: WTOAdultChildren1

> > >

> > > > Do any of you guys that have read

> Understanding

> > > the

> > > > Boardline Mother have a hard time getting her

> into

> > > > just one of the three others besides the Witch

> > > that

> > > > goes with all of them?

> > > >

> > > > Greg.

> > > >

> > > >

> __________________________________________________

> > > >