RE: Re: What to do about the holidays? (OT)

[Guest guest]

Jennie

We have decided not to worry about him. We don't call him a DAB for

nothing! LOL If he comes fine, if he doesn't fine. I have come to a point in

my life that doesn't include his hissy fits. I know that sounds harsh, but

life is too short to worry about someone who only cares about himself.

Physically it is impossible for me to have two get togethers in such a short

time. Dr. gave me a choice years ago, either Thanksgiving or Christmas. I

picked Christmas of course. LOL And I plan to have a great time. DH will

start pulling out the decorations Friday...hehehehe

SIL knows very well how we feel about her. We have made that clear on

several occasions. It's too bad that during a divorce the rest of the

family can't divorce the biological relative and keep the inlaw. Legally

she won't be our SIL, but emotionally she will always be our sister.

Thanks for listening to my whining.

in Ct.

-----Original Message-----

From: Jennie G [mailto:xponder70@...]

,

It is really unfortunate he is acting like that. Maybe set aside a day or

two before Christmas and have a special dinner and invite the ex and the

kids to celebrate with you. Let her know that excluding her is his idea and

there isn't much you have been able to do to change his thinking, but that

you will still always be there for her.

Jennie

[Guest guest]

Jennie

We have decided not to worry about him. We don't call him a DAB for

nothing! LOL If he comes fine, if he doesn't fine. I have come to a point in

my life that doesn't include his hissy fits. I know that sounds harsh, but

life is too short to worry about someone who only cares about himself.

Physically it is impossible for me to have two get togethers in such a short

time. Dr. gave me a choice years ago, either Thanksgiving or Christmas. I

picked Christmas of course. LOL And I plan to have a great time. DH will

start pulling out the decorations Friday...hehehehe

SIL knows very well how we feel about her. We have made that clear on

several occasions. It's too bad that during a divorce the rest of the

family can't divorce the biological relative and keep the inlaw. Legally

she won't be our SIL, but emotionally she will always be our sister.

Thanks for listening to my whining.

in Ct.

-----Original Message-----

From: Jennie G [mailto:xponder70@...]

,

It is really unfortunate he is acting like that. Maybe set aside a day or

two before Christmas and have a special dinner and invite the ex and the

kids to celebrate with you. Let her know that excluding her is his idea and

there isn't much you have been able to do to change his thinking, but that

you will still always be there for her.

Jennie

[Guest guest]

,

It¹s great that you have such a great relationship with your SIL. I hope

that friendship remains always.

Including her in your holiday dinner may ruffle some feathers the first

time, but hopefully it will be accepted and everyone will be adult about it.

Friends are to valuable to throw away and life is to short.

Have fun and try not to stress over it to much.

a

> Jennie

>

> We have decided not to worry about him. We don't call him a DAB for

> nothing! LOL If he comes fine, if he doesn't fine. I have come to a point in

> my life that doesn't include his hissy fits. I know that sounds harsh, but

> life is too short to worry about someone who only cares about himself.

> Physically it is impossible for me to have two get togethers in such a short

> time. Dr. gave me a choice years ago, either Thanksgiving or Christmas. I

> picked Christmas of course. LOL And I plan to have a great time. DH will

> start pulling out the decorations Friday...hehehehe

>

> SIL knows very well how we feel about her. We have made that clear on

> several occasions. It's too bad that during a divorce the rest of the

> family can't divorce the biological relative and keep the inlaw. Legally

> she won't be our SIL, but emotionally she will always be our sister.

>

> Thanks for listening to my whining.

>

> in Ct.

[Guest guest]

,

It¹s great that you have such a great relationship with your SIL. I hope

that friendship remains always.

Including her in your holiday dinner may ruffle some feathers the first

time, but hopefully it will be accepted and everyone will be adult about it.

Friends are to valuable to throw away and life is to short.

Have fun and try not to stress over it to much.

a

> Jennie

>

> We have decided not to worry about him. We don't call him a DAB for

> nothing! LOL If he comes fine, if he doesn't fine. I have come to a point in

> my life that doesn't include his hissy fits. I know that sounds harsh, but

> life is too short to worry about someone who only cares about himself.

> Physically it is impossible for me to have two get togethers in such a short

> time. Dr. gave me a choice years ago, either Thanksgiving or Christmas. I

> picked Christmas of course. LOL And I plan to have a great time. DH will

> start pulling out the decorations Friday...hehehehe

>

> SIL knows very well how we feel about her. We have made that clear on

> several occasions. It's too bad that during a divorce the rest of the

> family can't divorce the biological relative and keep the inlaw. Legally

> she won't be our SIL, but emotionally she will always be our sister.

>

> Thanks for listening to my whining.

>

> in Ct.

[Guest guest]

a

Thanks, that is exactly what I am going to do. It is time for me to worry

about me and not worry about the sibs. Dang, I swear none of them have

grown up. Crazy as it seems, if someone in the family decides to be stupid

for the holidays I just ignore them and have a great time. The difference

this year is DAB's divorce.

in Ct.

-----Original Message-----

From: a54 [mailto:a54@...]

,

It¹s great that you have such a great relationship with your SIL. I hope

that friendship remains always.

Including her in your holiday dinner may ruffle some feathers the first

time, but hopefully it will be accepted and everyone will be adult about it.

Friends are to valuable to throw away and life is to short.

Have fun and try not to stress over it to much.

a

[Guest guest]

a

Thanks, that is exactly what I am going to do. It is time for me to worry

about me and not worry about the sibs. Dang, I swear none of them have

grown up. Crazy as it seems, if someone in the family decides to be stupid

for the holidays I just ignore them and have a great time. The difference

this year is DAB's divorce.

in Ct.

-----Original Message-----

From: a54 [mailto:a54@...]

,

It¹s great that you have such a great relationship with your SIL. I hope

that friendship remains always.

Including her in your holiday dinner may ruffle some feathers the first

time, but hopefully it will be accepted and everyone will be adult about it.

Friends are to valuable to throw away and life is to short.

Have fun and try not to stress over it to much.

a