Re: looking for a friend

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what I do with my daughter is we try to join classes or group activies taht might be available. there might be some fun summer things coming up. then she meets new friends that way.From: mybunch7 <mybunch7@...>Subject: ( ) looking for a friend Date: Tuesday, May 4, 2010, 10:36 AM

I have a 16 year old son with Aspergers. He is a freshman in high school. This has been a tough school year, transitioning from middle school to high school. The biggest problem for my son, , is feeling lonely. He does very well in school (all enrichment classes) and does not have any behavior issues. Along with the Aspergers, he has OCD and severe disgraphia (not sure if I spelled that right or not). is one of the nicest kids ever. He is always very considerate of everyone, not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings. However, he feels he does not fit in with the other kids, and when he tries to be part of the conversation, they treat him differently. He feels like the kids think he is stupid, which of course he isn't. I think if he had one or two good friends, he would be much happier. loves playing video games and is very computer savy. I'm trying to find someone else who might have similar interest and could use

a friend. I'm not aware of any social/support groups for teens with AS, but I would be willing to try and set one up with some help?

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Hi, - your son and my son have a lot in common! Where do you live?

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

From: mybunch7 <mybunch7@...> Sent: Tue, May 4, 2010 11:36:13 AMSubject: ( ) looking for a friend

I have a 16 year old son with Aspergers. He is a freshman in high school. This has been a tough school year, transitioning from middle school to high school. The biggest problem for my son, , is feeling lonely. He does very well in school (all enrichment classes) and does not have any behavior issues. Along with the Aspergers, he has OCD and severe disgraphia (not sure if I spelled that right or not). is one of the nicest kids ever. He is always very considerate of everyone, not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings. However, he feels he does not fit in with the other kids, and when he tries to be part of the conversation, they treat him differently. He feels like the kids think he is stupid, which of course he isn't. I think if he had one or two good friends, he would be much happier. loves playing video games and is very computer savy. I'm trying to find someone else who might have similar interest and could use a friend. I'm not

aware of any social/support groups for teens with AS, but I would be willing to try and set one up with some help?

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Hi !! He sounds like my DS who is now 18 yrs old and graduating from HS. For my son this is his toughest year. He, too , is very lonely, and wants to have friends desperately. So with whatever new friend he creates, he just overwhelms them w/ texting and IM'ing etc, etc. This is where his obsessive compulsive comes in- in keeping friendships. what does your son have an OCD for?? For my son's big senior project - as one of the components of this proj, he created a poem about himself an Aspie. Enclosed is the poem which you can share with your son and have him read it. So he understands that he is not alone in this loneliness and lots and lots like him share the same dilemma when it comes to friendships. My son is also very computer literate and loves computer games. I, too, am trying to locate

a local support group for him and I do have one lead to check up on. I live in So. California, where are you?? I Anyway, stay in touch w/ the group as it has been helpful to me in understanding my son. Here's the poem: The Aspie Anthem

For

those who might show prejudice

This

poem is for your edifice

Those

around me seem flush with ease

Talking

and befriending is such a breeze

I may not be as well composed

In

situations social I can be indisposed

While

others speak with flair and inflection

My

manner of speaking is met with rejection

My

voice may seem monotone

And

find that I'm often alone

I'll

not partake in group dynamics

I can get flustered by the social mechanics

While

others seem to mix so well

I find my life can be a living hell

There's

a part of me that's quite obsessed

With

technical gadgets in excess

What

I've conveyed may seem a curse

But

in reality it's the inverse

I find that many are blessed like I

Marvels

not limited by the sky

angelo's

ceiling showed angels in flight

Van Gogh

painted "Starry, Starry Night"

I may not be an amazing musician

But

Beethoven and Mozart shared my condition

Ben lin and Edison were skilled inventors

And

I want to pursue in their endeavors

Bobby Fisher

and I like to play chess

Not

bad company in my guess

Lincoln

and Jefferson, political greats

Are

said to have shared some of these traits

Friendships

have been elusive

Peers

were often just abusive

Finding

friends was a constant pursuit

Many

were likely to give me the boot

In

seeking acceptance I tended to jabber

Technical

topics my constant gabber

In

seeking acceptance I grasped at air

And

was met with responses unfair

I desperately fought for someone's approval

But

all I got was social removal

Rejection

became a ceaseless fear

The

far reaching consequences were severe

As

intense need led to obsession

It

was followed by recurrent depression

But

coming through this I still have hope

I've

learned a lot and broadened my scope

I feel I can be accepted now

In

fact I'm ready to give a bow

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From: mybunch7 <mybunch7@...>Subject: ( ) looking for a friend Date: Tuesday, May 4, 2010, 9:36 AM

I have a 16 year old son with Aspergers. He is a freshman in high school. This has been a tough school year, transitioning from middle school to high school. The biggest problem for my son, , is feeling lonely. He does very well in school (all enrichment classes) and does not have any behavior issues. Along with the Aspergers, he has OCD and severe disgraphia (not sure if I spelled that right or not). is one of the nicest kids ever. He is always very considerate of everyone, not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings. However, he feels he does not fit in with the other kids, and when he tries to be part of the conversation, they treat him differently. He feels like the kids think he is stupid, which of course he isn't. I think if he had one or two good friends, he would be much happier. loves playing video games and is very computer savy. I'm trying to find someone else who might have similar interest and could use

a friend. I'm not aware of any social/support groups for teens with AS, but I would be willing to try and set one up with some help?

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What video games does he like to play? Would he be adverse to having a 14 year

old girl as a friend? My daughter is into video games (Final Fantasy, The Sims)

and most girls aren't.

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school. This has been a tough school year, transitioning from middle school to

high school. The biggest problem for my son, , is feeling lonely. He

does very well in school (all enrichment classes) and does not have any behavior

issues. Along with the Aspergers, he has OCD and severe disgraphia (not sure if

I spelled that right or not). is one of the nicest kids ever. He is

always very considerate of everyone, not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings.

However, he feels he does not fit in with the other kids, and when he tries to

be part of the conversation, they treat him differently. He feels like the kids

think he is stupid, which of course he isn't. I think if he had one or two good

friends, he would be much happier. loves playing video games and is

very computer savy. I'm trying to find someone else who might have similar

interest and could use a

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would be willing to try and set one up with some help?

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Anyone interested in having their teen/young adult boys or girls join in on

gaming on XBox Live, shoot me a personal email. Our son is 16 and loves to game

and meet new friends on XBox Live. He loves Halo, and a lot of war type games.

He also plays the Wii online and races with others on Cart with friends

all over the world. Maybe we can get a little gaming group together ~ sort of a

safe haven for our kids. If anyone is interested, feel free to email me

privately.

Dawn Marie

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This has been a tough school year, transitioning from middle school to high

school. The biggest problem for my son, , is feeling lonely. He does very

well in school (all enrichment classes) and does not have any behavior issues.

Along with the Aspergers, he has OCD and severe disgraphia (not sure if I

spelled that right or not). is one of the nicest kids ever. He is always

very considerate of everyone, not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings. However, he

feels he does not fit in with the other kids, and when he tries to be part of

the conversation, they treat him differently. He feels like the kids think he is

stupid, which of course he isn't. I think if he had one or two good friends, he

would be much happier. loves playing video games and is very computer

savy. I'm trying to find someone else who might have similar interest and could

use a

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would be willing to try and set one up with some help?

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